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  1. Posted · Edited by agnosis

    Start with smaller goals than approaching women. Introduce yourself to random strangers (however many it takes until you feel like it's no longer a challenge).  

    You can literally develop a script, "Hi, I'm trying to be more extroverted and I wanted to introduce myself, I'm John."  Then say "Thanks for letting me introduce myself, have a great day."  Walk away. You will more than likely never see this person again, ever.

    This builds you up to approaching women once you get confident in approaching random people.  I'd start on a public train, or bus, grocery store, etc. where you can exit quickly and give the opposite person a way out as well in case they feel "awkward".

    If you don't start some action, "waiting for your introversion to disappear" will never happen.

  2. Posted · Edited by agnosis

    Sounds like you are going to buy your business partner's share of the company, which would allow you to make all the decisions?  All you need to purchase is 51% of the company to do that, not 98%, unless you want to own 98% of the company.

    Also, you said you would be in DEBT for 7-10 years?  I would run as far away from this as possible. Anything that puts you in debt, I am STRONGLY opposed to.

  3. Posted · Edited by agnosis
    stages

    I believe ultimately, there is an end game in pickup and a relationship.  I think the pickup community misses the end game -- to develop strong communication skills that can be applied to a relationship. In a relationship, it comes down to a dance in of the masculine/feminine leading to intercourse.  Intercourse builds your relationship stronger.  Masculine and feminine do not necessarily mean anatomical parts in some contexts.  It could mean a negotiation between business (masculine) and customer(feminine), then delivering on your word (intercourse, making the customer happy). Concept of polarity, not human sexuality.

    By reading into her IOI's (studying and practicing pickup) you learn other dimensions of communication.   Women game too, just differently.  There's a ton more to it than IOI's, and passing "shit tests".  I believe that it doesn't matter if you are man/woman/lgbtq, once you learn the multiple dimensions of communication, you can develop and understand power.

    I don't care what kind of sexual relationship you have, someone is the "dominant" one or in control (power can be used indirectly(passively), but still controlling).  Power is genderless, and agnostic to good or evil (masculine/feminine, positive/negative, direct/indirect). Power doesn't corrupt, it's just abused by it's medium.  I think a majority of fights in a relationship are a struggle of power and control of a relationship mixed with abuse of power. The rest are of a miscommunication.  Face to face isn't 100% communication, sex isn't either.

    You can even take it further to relationships with inanimate objects such as addiction.  Where an object has power over you and influences your actions (dependence upon a substance).

    Thoughts?

     

    Edit: Btw, I know Leo talks about stages, but I'm sure once I mature past this stage (orange or red, I forget and haven't read the spiral dynamics), I will still retain this knowledge.  Meaning, when I mature further, I'll still understand power, might not care as much.

    And true power is power I do not have to exercise.

  4. Posted · Edited by agnosis

    Above all else: congrats on the launch. You've accomplished more than 95% of people will ever accomplish in life. The lessons learned are invaluable in this project and your next ones.

    Unfiltered feedback:

    1) What about a ranking system? Similar to Reddit/YouTube. Higher the ranking, the more practical/effective the technique. Rate articles, videos, etc, look at the thumbs up button here, for example.

    2) I wouldn't think a wiki would be an optimal platform to accomplish want you are looking to do. Look at how others are doing something similar with building a community and do it. Great artists steal. Consumerreports.org for example. 

    Good luck!

  5. Posted

    I'm not sure I understand your listed points. Meditation can provide clear vision of what you have to do. It is also possible to create illusions as well.

    It is also possible to "tr"/"convince" yourself (positively or negatively).. Before entering a competition, visualize yourself winning over and over.. etc.

    I'm guessing this is why everyone suggests finding a master.

    Embrace the pain. This will make you grow and adapt. By struggling, you are forced to learn. No one ever grew by not struggling or detaching from uncomfortable situations. 

    There are situations that you have to detach from (situations that aren't worth the breath to argue about). Let those go. So it depends on the situation.

    If you want to grow in the sense that you want to be more sociable, then there will be pain and I uncomfortable social situations you will have to embrace, not detach from.

    If you are arguing about where to take yoir boyfriend/girlfriend to eat for dinner, detach, this isn't growth anyone is talking about.

     

    Faster results? What do you want to happen?

  6. Posted

    18 hours ago, Taurus said:

    Do you ever feel like you are addicted to/brainwashed by self help online? Specifically, seeking out answers to how you should live instead of figuring it out for yourself. I ask because I've read so many things about how I should go about life (relationships,health,etc) and I find myself completely overloaded with "what I should do". How do you find a balance between reading/watching self help and not feeling frozen or brainwashed by it..

    In my opinion, consistently seeking is a great attitude towards getting the things you want. You may see a lot of conflicting evidence for handling the situations you need answers on, hence leaving you in the mindset of "what do I do?"

    Having the knowledge is one thing, but putting the knowledge in practice, that's where you will find the balance, or simply find what works for you. One way is not the only way. It will require a level of awareness to recognize opportunities for you to practice what you read online.

  7. Posted · Edited by agnosis

    On 6/14/2016 at 9:25 AM, Kenya said:

    Ah some really great replies! :)

    It's a hard one to flip though, people's words can hurt. I highly recommend taking action on ones self internally as that's where your self-esteem issues originate, but...

    If you wish to take external action, indifference is a mood killer for any bully, no matter how covert they are being, if you show how unfazed you are you've taken their one source of fuel. People who degrade others show nothing but how pitiful their own lives are, and to garner reactions of their victims give them a sense of fulfilment.

    The power is all in your hands.

    Regards 

    K

    To further add to this comment about power, if you try to defend yourself or take shots back at the bully, you will engage in a power struggle.  This is exactly what you want to avoid..

    If he makes a joke about you @Vishal, my strategy would be to laugh it off first with no type of rebuttal, but your laugh has to send the message "You can't be serious, taking shots at me? Please...", non-verbally, then walk away.  I wouldn't take anything he said seriously, eventually it would start to show in my tone of voice and my word selection used with the one in question.

    Do you feel comfortable explaining the situation further? Or where this person has put you down covertly as described in your original post? We might be able to offer further suggestions.

  8. Posted · Edited by agnosis

    On 6/6/2016 at 2:55 AM, ProblemSolving said:

    As long as I have sex. But when I don't have sex for like 3 or 4 days I notice that I become frustrated. Or when I am alone for a few days I know that I will need to masturbate to some porn or something similar.

    Sounds like you are a stereotypical healthy male between the ages of 13-80 years old with a normal sexual appetite.  

    The choice is yours to "quit", but from this line here.. I doubt you have anything to be concerned with. If you want to "try to stop" you'll probably fail as you won't be able to stop thinking of doing the act. 

    The best way  to not do it as frequent, is to get busy and stay busy.  Since you have free time to rub it out, lift weights instead, read books, try to keep your mind stimulated.

     

    All that being said.. maybe I have the addiction too? :DO.o

  9. Posted

    If you define Earth as the object that we call this planet, then no. It's not flat.

    I believe the flat earth theory was more or less a relation to western astrology which puts the earth at the center of the universe.  Earth, being defined as our physical plane of existence (the perceivable universe in it's entirety, including the seemingly infinite darkness).  Plato astrology -- basically..  

  10. Posted

    On 4/9/2016 at 0:33 PM, Algi said:

    Realised lately that all this clever videos and material I watch has paradox of having bigger ego,  which is exactly opposite what we are trying to do.... How do I seek knowledge without being arrogant or showing off? How do you self actualise without any external motivation like because you love your partner. Is it all through meditation and raising awareness? Is it charity? Sometimes I am showing off them too?

    Be silent. Don't force your opinion on people. Don't discuss it much unless people ask.

    Doing charity work will bring a sense of gratification to you, do it if you feel like you want to.

  11. Posted

    6 hours ago, Paan said:

    The same time I say this and we argue I have said I want to break up, but I never pulled it through. Now she just makes me feel silly and I feel she is taking me more and more for granted. And thats my fault.

    I know that a man shouldnt be this needy but it sucks that I feel so exploited and ignored. Now I just feel that I myself has ruined this relationship because I was showing my needyness and that I cant break up. It feel that we are togheter for the wrong reason, she uses me for stuff she dont want to do herself. And I am foolish enough to do those tasks. She even told me once when we argue that I have to suit myself for doing all. I dont even get a thank you.

    I can tell you don't want to hurt her feelings. You are not coming from a place where you purposely want to hurt her by breaking up.

    That being said, examine your paragraph above. It's not two way street right now. Sounds like you maybe almost losing yourself trying to keep her happy.

    There's never a good time to break it off with someone you have feelings for.

    It will only agonize you the longer you wait, however, you will need to decide when or if the bridge will need to be crossed. The choice is yours to make.

  17. Posted · Edited by agnosis

    Some girls get off on talking about sex while you aren't even close to having sex.  By finding out what she likes, she will get in the mood.  There's so many niches in sex, some girls like this position, that position, oral, anal, vaginal, tied up (play safe), lightly whipped, choked (play safe), slow, fast, role play, role reversal, etc..

    Dim lights, burn good smelling incense/oils, take your damn TIME, give her a massage, learn how to talk dirty (God damn you feel good, you're so wet.. etc..), get feedback from your partner.  Guys are stimulated by our vision, women are very mental.  Also, DO NOT CHANGE POSITIONS FREQUENTLY.  I know we like to see our women from this angle, that angle, but pick something and stay with it.

    I highly recommend the Fine Art of Erotic Talk by Bonnie Gabriel.

     

     

  19. Posted · Edited by agnosis
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    Be around women more. Observe what they are attracted to, what they aren't. Then adjust yourself accordingly.

    I know this will sound really counter intuitive, but embarrass yourself in front of them (with the intent to see what gets the response you are looking for). By doing this, the goal is to develop yourself to where no social situations embarrass you in the long run (college/approach game IRL). This will develop your confidence and IDGAF attitude in yourself. By falling down a few times, you learn to stand up.

    Also by embarrassing yourself, you rid yourself of fear (nervousness).

  20. Posted · Edited by agnosis

    Don't take what you see on social media as truth when you see other people doing "big things". :)

    Seems like you are comparing yourself to someone else.  One of Leo's recent podcasts (and videos) was about how to stop comparing yourself to others.

     

    One time, there was a video shoot in my neighborhood and either they rented a Bently or someone else owned it.  I live in a house that is your average middle class, $100k-$130k homes, nothing by any standards "huge".  But I got to take a picture while I was behind the driver's seat one of the Bentley's in front of my house (so my house was in the background) and then posted it on facebook as a joke (I took the photo down about 30 min after posting).  I went to a friends birthday party a few weeks later and he asked me if that Bently was mine..  Maybe he was feeling something similar to what you described.

     

    Reread post: Ignore the haters! :D

  23. Posted

    On 4/2/2016 at 9:51 PM, Psychonaut said:

    @agnosis You can only run out of things to give if they are limited. 

    @Psychonaut I'm not trying to be argumentative here, but as a mortal being (in a non metaphysical sense), what do you have that is unlimited that is within your control?  Your time is limited, your daily energy is limited, your physical dimensions of your body is limited (in a non metaphysical sense), your money is limited (even if you have billions of dollars).  All that I wanted to get at, was I see what place you are coming from (kindness, sincerity, etc), however, guard that and only expose it for one's that earn it. 

  24. Posted

    Here's my thought pattern:

    Where do I want to be in the next 5-10 years?  How do I get there?  What is stopping me from achieving that?  What can I do right now to start on that path to end up at destination?

    Sounds like you have some goals set: master creative writing, travel. It appears as though you've already done exactly what is needed to get you going, now it's a matter of time to cultivate your skill.

    Have you written a small book and self published on amazon?  That would fund your desire to travel. :) 

  25. Posted

    On 3/31/2016 at 4:05 PM, Psychonaut said:

    Love is about giving and not expecting anything back.

    Maybe my heart has been calloused, but this is how you get used QUICK.  This is what society wants you to believe..

    If all you ever do is give, and don't get back, you will run out of things to give and who is going to take care of you then?  No one.. It's not about always giving, there are many times where you have to put your needs first.  And something as serious as marriage, again, what is the rush?