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So not clear . I'll approach girls get a date . So here's what I do ( right ? ) plan is kiss the girl and then invite her ... Well I don't know . I don't have a chill area , I just have sort of a single bed . What activity would I invite her over to do , watch a film . I could ask about if she lives alone or with others and then through conversation there will be an activity I can suggest to do at hers ? What activity would I do at mine ? What's the best way to really do this . Is there a high rate as to girls that would sleep with you on the first date ? Is there something I am missing in terms of this whole situation and the way I think about it . Should I be going out on night outs instead to have more success rate since there is low success rate with this ? R.i.p.s.l.e.e.p Thanks for the help

-great in your life ? If I feel great in my life now , can I make lots more changes and then I will feel even greater on a regular consistent basis than I do consistently now ? Has that been the case for anyone here ? When life becomes more meaningful , that's the idea right ? I need ( I want ) to explore what it feels like to have such a profound level of meaning in my life . Is it the case that the experience of life gets better and better and better as life goes on ? For the most part .. if one is really focused on doing so . What are people's experiences of feeling great consistently on a regular basis , and the development of that through your timelines ?

@SimpleGuy I have this commitment system . If I say the word ' surrender ' to something then I am 100 percent commited . For example : tomroow can I surrender to not watching YouTube or eating no ultra processed foods ? Surrender . I just said the word and now it's happening because this is what that means when I say the word surrender . It means its happening . You have to surrender to something that you can actually really do , not something outlandish and really difficult , so that you can keep integrity with the system as much as possible . So if you were to take this on , what would be best to do ? No YouTube , or 30 minutes max ? You have to surrender the day before because then you'll be less attached and you'll be way more okay with not watching . I have lived a complete life of hedonism in the past . For me this system works like a dream and it's so worth it , when you are doing the best things you can do with your time instead .

Going outside my comfort zone . What would it do for my life ? What if can continually do it successfully . I don't even know what to say . Would it add to the quality of my life ? Recognise opportunity -> am I distracting myself . Going outside my comfort zone . I remember feeling very masculine in the past when I did so . ' way more masculine . Indeed . What Is my dating situation right now . Well it doesn't really exist , and you have been identifying as someone , who doesn't really take actions to go outside their comfort zone in terms of their dating life . So if you start going outside your comfort zone , it would be super easy to start actually getting results and actually being a guy who takes actions in terms of his dating life . Simple as . That's the value of it. Yes . That is . Okay well let's see what happens . What else is the value of going outside ones comfort zone ? Feeling very masculine . Hm . Wow . I mean how I am going to feel like if I go outside my comfort on a regular basis . Jeez . Wow. Damn . That will be something. We will see . We will see . What else would be the value ? Surely this is right . Yes . This is so fucking right . You need to do this . You need to do this . So right . So right . So right . So right . Yes . Yes . But what actually is the point of going outside your comfort . So there is an opportunity , but why do it , what's the point , what is it going to do for me ? Does it do anything ? Does it grow you ? Well perhaps the thing you are doing , will be less uncomfortable in the future right .

I have this relationship to going outside my comfort zone . Not sure what it is . Is it the best thing for me to keep going outside my comfort zone . I don't know why it is ? I know it would probably make me feel great , but I just don't get why it is . Why . Why . Why . Why . Why . Does it grow you ? Does it ? I am not sure if I have seen that . Why do it . I could have today . Why do it . I don't get it . Why . Why . Why . Why . Why . Why . Why . Okay I feel fucking amazing when I do it . I feel fucking amazing . Right . Do you feel like a new person when you do it . Maybe I should change my relationship to it ? Going outside my comfort zone ... I don't see the point . I don't know if I'll feel amazing every time . What do I actually get out of it . What do I actually get out of it . Well listen you could start doing it and find out . What an excellent idea , but seriously do you need to learn how to do it . Do you need to learn how to do it ? Journaling is so powerful no doubt . How do I distinguish journaling and contemaplting . This is contemaplting . Come on it is , but you still distinguish them different in a way , maybe . Going outside my comfort zone . What is the point ? Okay you could start doing it . But could if you wanted to , that's the question . Could you actually if you wanted to . Do you keep fucking up . Is it that you are indecisive . Okay recognise when to go outside your comfort zone . Spot the opportunity to go outside your comfort zone . Step 1. Okay I see it . Step 2 . What is step 2 . Hm . At this point , does some bullshit happen ? This is the question , does some bullshit happen ? Well , obviously . Step 1 recognise an opportunity . Step 2 simply ask , can you surrender . Damn is it that I want to get distracted . Is it that I want to get distracted . It's like I can , wow it's like I can't just . Today there was the feeling , that it's like I just didn't want to sit with it , maybe I was resisting it , seems right ( classic resistance ) ( always at it ) yes so the same thing with the comfort zone . You just can't sit with actually fucking focusing . Well godam Howdy 🤠 🤠 . This is fucking it . Cracked . I swear Is self development so fucking easy or am I tripping . You just don't fucking focus . You just don't fucking focus Walla . Ah yes , so simply . Recognise opportunity , and then recognise when you aren't wanting to focus , just become aware of that. Hm mindfulness . Just become aware of that . That's all you need to do . That's all you need to do. Yes . That's all you need to do . Seriously . Just become aware of it . Yes . That's the distraction . Stop distracting yourself . Just stop it . Stop distracting yourself . Notice yourself distracting yourself. So will I do this tomorrow we will see . I am sure there will be an opportunity , and I am sure I will be aware of myself distracting myself , and I feel like I can be successful with this approach . I feel like I can . Simple as . Right . Wow that would be amazing to have figured this out . Literally amazing . Best possible action ? Maybe dress well in case your going to be cold approaching . Sounds like a good idea . Usually I present myself actually worse than the typical guy here in Germany. Should I change this maybe , but you should dress and present yourself nice tomroow when you are going out . Is self development easy . Hm . Well well . Maybe . Best possible action . Lets start getting ready for bed , byeeeee

I don't know what the point of starting a journal is . But I am so passionate about personal development , so I end up spending my time using this very format that I am currently writing on to journal anyway . So I'll post this , and leave it as an open question as to what the point of sharing my personal life is in on here . Maybe it's interesting if people respond , and I can get different perspectives . Could be very useful . Yes . I don't particularly see the point on posting on the forum most of the time. Or engaging . Throwaway comment . Is there really a point ? Maybe . What have most have been the most powerful ways I have grown ? Glad you asked , and glad you care . 1. Going from my full hedonistic lifestyle to deciding the day before to surrender to a whole mental list of things that are banned. 2. Constantly asking what the best actions for me are . I feel like I am tapping into my intelligence . I feel amazing . From this , I have a very high self esteem , and it doesn't feel like it's in a egotistical way . I spend my time constantly asking what the best possible actions are , and that leads me to following what I think the best possible actions are for me . What does this mean ? The best possible actions . Well is it asking out of all the things I could do , what is the best thing for me to do right now ? That's the structure of my life . Out of all the things I could do , what is it the best thing I could do right now . As you can imagine that's very authentic , it's a clarity based approach . It's weird to be constantly asking what the best possible actions are . It's like I am constantly contemplating which seems different to how I would imagine other successful people structuring their day . Yes certainly . But maybe it's more similar than I think . The thing is , it's so fluid . It's not very routine based . It can be something different often . This is so rough , I don't know why anyone would want to read this . What is the point of posting this , I literally don't see the point . I want to share it anyway . So I guess I will .

I definitely imagine other people having fallen into this thinking . The subject is : One comes across actualized.org . One has a scope of possibility for what one can do with their life and when they self improve . The opportunities are endless for creation. But there are literally so many options for what to do . So many things that get put into the frame of : this is so important ( on actualized.org or otherwise ) . You have your own ideas for what might be great to do . However it's taken as second priority under all of the ideas of actualized.org framed as super important . ( Obviously one hasn't had the space to critically and consciously evaluate why these things are important , and also if they personally to oneself ) But there are many of these ideas . And it's a lot . And it seems like these massive ideas ( spirituality , life purpose , and truth ) for what to do can take up the span of one's entire life . Despite it not being absolute in ones mind that these thing will be what one will be doing in their life , it's the awareness of time passing and the seeing of all of these things taking up the almost entirety of life , that makes it seem like the opportunity of these super important things is being diminished . That's very much been my driver . Super driven because of it . Borderline workaholic in terms of self development but taking necessary and intuitive breaks .

@Cred @Sandroew @Artsy btw guys I am thinking March since Sandroew can't make it February

So I have this amount. It's invested with ' medium risk ' . Free time is top asset . Work part time plus 3 percent takeout per year and I can have 5 days free a week . The money compounds less but it still compounds by quite a chunk and I also have the ability to live in cities I want to without being stuck living with my mum with that free time instead . Any thoughts on spending the money this way , or advice for how you would go about this . It's buys freedom of time for making more money though life purpose .

Fuck my life . That's quite a summary

Wow awesome guys . That makes me happy . I'll text you personally on here and then we can organise something . @Sandroew @Cred

Hey , so me and my friend both live in Germany ( Köln and Karlsruhe ) . We are both knee deep into self development and we would love to meet people who are similar to us , specifically people who have been watching Leo for a while and ' doing the work ' . That would be amazing and fascinating speaking to people further along than us . We are from the UK ( England ) . So if you want to meet when we are back there , then definitely text . Hey Indi if you are reading this 🤣

@Hojo especially this one

Damn , I love these questions you gave . I need to come back here

For me it's been : What is the best possible action . Having the viewpoint on life that there is so much potential and so much to do can put you in a position where you are getting negatively reactionary over the lack of results . Which was the case for me , especially having watched lots of Leo . Lots of bigg things to potentially do . Through the lack of results I realised I wasn't actually following the best possible actions for me , so then my new approach became : why don't I just follow the best possible actions and then that's all I can do and then whatever happens will happen . Are you following the best possible actions ? I'm sure other people have had this arc in different words . What have been your most powerful questions and why ? My results have been , I am fucking vibing hard on a regular basis and it's seemed to be crazy successful . Everyday seems to be a good day . The basis for my life for now is becoming as aware as possible of the best possible action , and then the actions will follow through that .