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@Mess Elevate/Peak

@JevinR I have heard that "How to Win Friends and Influence People" is the nice version, and the "48 Laws of Power" is the raw version, but they have pretty much the same thing stuffed in there. They just put it out in different ways. I believe it was FightMediocrity that told this, I personally have not read "48 Laws" yet.

@ana maria Any chance you can read The 4 Hour Workweek by Tim Ferris?

@Pellemanify Let me ask you this. Do you think you deserve a women who just messes with your mind and hurts you OVER AND OVER again? If the answer is no; Then just get rid of her. It is REALLY simple, not easy but simple. If the answer is Yes; Then get your shit together.

@Pellemanify Just leave her. AIn't so much more to think of if you ask me. Delete her phone number, stop hanging out with her and only say hello if you truly have to.

@Lorcan Think yourself you are gonna go on a road-trip. You have these stops you HAVE to go. You just HAVE to go there, I think that since life is a journey, happiness is just one of those places you want to go to when you are going on the road-trip. It's not the goal, but you HAVE to go there. I don't think happiness is the "meaning of life". I am a Christian and I believe God created us due to the wanting of not being alone. He wanted to create relationships with us humans, a connection to him and us. Which is why he created humans to be such as him, with feelings and their own thoughts/will. He doesn't want slaves to just "love him", he wants us to WANNA love him, the true love, that can't be forced. Therefore I also believe that we are supposed to create relations with other humans, just like the one God wants with us. We want that same thing with other humans, that is what I consider the main purpose with life. And with relations I don't just mean to have sex with as many you can, but relations that are lasting, and who can make you a better person. And since you are becoming a better person, you are also giving back to the people you have connections to. You said in another thread that you liked "great people" and you named Jesus. Jesus walked among us humans and he made in my opinion, the world a better place. His goal was to take away all sin from us humans in order to make the world a better place. And he could only do so by connecting with other humans, and eventually die. Tldr; In short I believe the main purpose of our life is to interact with other people in a meaningful way and when we eventually leave them, by moving away, ending a relationship or by death. We should leave the world better than when we were born into it. It can be just one person, or we can change the history forever, but making the world better is the goal, no matter how small of a change we do.

Where you got this from? I've heard the opposite. That when you're not masturbating it will increase your productivity, can't find the sources now but if you want me to I can look it up Obviously it might be harder in the beginning, but after the 2 first weeks it will get better and you will feel a difference

@Lorcan It's a shortening for signature, with the quote that Leo put there. I LOVE the way you think, and since we're pretty much about the same age (I'm 16) I am just getting more interested in this

@KeepPounding I haven't heard "Improved Reading" before, but rather Speed-Reading. I have gotten into Speed-Reading where you eliminate subvocalization and overall gain more focus. And the comprehension increases as well since you are using certain memory techniques when you read these books. I haven't continued with speed-reading anymore unfortunately, but I'm going back to it later. However I am quite certain that it works if you put enough time/work into trying to achieve this.

@Algi Hey man! I'd tell you to read "No More Mr Nice Guy - Robert Glover" And remember that this is a process, you can't expect your Neediness/Insecurity to go away after a few days, but rather months or even years.

@Canadian Depends on how you want to be. I mean you can say you are 23 if you would do anything to sleep with them. Personally as I think it's the more morally thing to do, would tell the truth and show I'm mature for my age

@King There's nothing wrong with listening to these songs. The only thing I would say is that music affects your mood, which is why "Happy Songs" are usually better during the day But I like these song's aswell

@AilinKyung I say so, but at all times there's a chance the other person might be sexually attracted, therefore the known friendzone...

@Ross You are not supposed to make them interested during this first interaction, you just set a boundary with basically saying "This is not awkward." After you have said hello and been going at a conversation - You are just greeting and keeping an interaction going to be the "better human" which will show to them that you have a higher value. But DO NOT stay there for long, that will ruin everything and show needyness Just leave them be, don't go up to them again. You don't need their approval or interaction. There are multiple other girls in the clubs to prove it However if you liked any of them, you CAN go back to them LATER on the night. I'm talking a few hours here. And obviously do what @Will says. He got some good points.

@Saitama Don't you like to socialize or you don't like to be social? It's a big difference. If you just don't like to socialize but like to be social I suggest you do it anyway. But if you don't like to be social with other people, then leave it. Might make your life a bit harder if you're forcing yourself I was diagnosed with Light-Asperger, but having a diagnose or thinking you are something (for example introvert) doesn't really mean anything

Honestly there is not very much time needed for you to start getting dates... Read "Models, Attract Women Through Honesty - Mark Manson" and keep notes on things you think matter or what might be REALLY important for you. Practice the things in the book and you should be good to go. The most important step (of any book) is to practice the things you were taught. But do this and you're good to go I would not say it's fulfilling to sleep with as many women you can. See it like this; You are reading books on human psychology, human interaction and social skills. The goal of this is for you to get better self-esteem and confidence as well as becoming more comfortable with other people, men or women. On this journey to your goal you ARE going to attract some women and maybe sleep with them. But they were not your goal and should not be. But they ARE a part of the journey and you should enjoy it (them). If you are gonna go for picking up chicks (daygame) this is about getting more confidence to yourself. Not to get as many numbers as possible. Your main goal should be your life purpose not a women. Read "The Way of the Superior Man - David Deida" for more of this (would recommend that book anyway)

@Will I will do so Do you mean the paid programme though? Cause I'm not that into paying for courses hehe

@Ross You are the one making it awkward Show high value by saying Hey and greeting the girls, no need to "hit on them" just say Hello ask a few questions and then walk away Who knows, they maybe decide to follow you home that night instead

@Steven If it's something you enjoy doing/spending time on I would say it's pretty easy Take a good fictional book for example. I can be taped to the book until it's read. I'll spend 15 hours reading it just to get it done, don't know if it's the same for you but just an example

Hello guys! Just registered, so this is my first post and since this thread is quite broad in my opinion, I am sorry if I put the topic in wrong sub-forum. I am 16 years old and I live in Sweden. I have since last summer gotten more and more into self-improvement, and I am getting really interested in the subject(s). I dropped out of school due to no motivation and some more personal things. I didn't just drop-out because "school ain't no fun and waste of time" I do have interest in most of the school subjects but due to the environment I was in this fall I eventually dropped out in January. Which obviously gives me a LOT of spare-time to do pretty much anything. I have plans to start working but I also have no idea on what industry I wanna work within... The problem for me is that I for example just read a lot of different subjects, and even run on some courses for example on how to make a good resume/job interview. But instead of just applying these things and creating a resume and send in an application so I can get a job I just play games/fap/read or pretty much anything that makes me waste time... I have removed some games which I used to play, but I always find something else I find to "waste" time on. Even if it is a good thing. For example on how I found this forum/Leo, which I can't say is something bad, but it keeps me away from writing a resume or anything that can make a practical difference for me. It kind-off just goes like this; I say I will read a book about X and after that I will start focusing on "more important things". But when I get to the end of the book, it gives some more books that is good to read on the same subject or a subject that co-operates with the first book. Which makes me say; Okay, I just read that one as well and after that I can start doing the more important things. And then it just repeats itself in an evil spiral I also have problems on prioritizing. I have quite a few books on self-improvement. But then I think of what can make the biggest difference for me. I have gone through a speed-reading course, which also focuses on how to improve memory. Should I focus to read faster and memorize more and more, so I can remember what I read and go through more books in shorter time? Or should I read the books on how to get better self-esteem/habits/social-skills? Or should I learn programming? And it continues like this in every possible subject I am even a little interested in. It just feels like I am stalling myself from actually doing something. Do you guys have any tips that I can try? Whether it's within finding a habit that makes myself more productive or helps me find what I wanna do in my life. I would love if you have any app that helps you track time/keep focus. I have Pomodoro and some more "productivity/habit" apps downloaded on my phone but I fail to utilize them to the full extent. Thanks for taking time to read this text from a teenager who feels a bit lost and wants help to get "things right" Thanks in advance for everything!

@Saitama Read "The Ethical Slut"

@Saitama Not sure what PMO is.. Desire is a legitimate desire, we humans are created to have sex with each other and therefore it is a human desire (physical) to feel lust. I have never felt like there is "The One" for me - yet. I have felt an attraction to certain girls, but not someone who truly stands out. But I am sure there is someone out there that I can think of as my wife. And I'll just know it's "her". There is nothing saying you have to be ready for a relationship JUST NOW. But the knowledge you'll get from taking action and stepping outside your comfort zone at this moment, can bring invaluable knowledge when you find a women you are attracted to and might wanna get together with.

@Saitama I DO NOT think you should start learning "seduction" just because it is a cultural thing and "sex is good". You should learn it (only if you want to) in order to improve yourself with the other gender. So that if/when you meet that "special one" you will have a good chance of getting together with her. Or to be able to satisfy her when you start having sex. I don't know how old you are, but being a virgin/not getting kissed is NOT a big deal. I would say that if you take action against your anxiety, you can start getting dates within a month. Are you masturbating to porn? If then you might wanna have some kind of relationship with women. Whether it's ONS or relationships.

@Saitama Well personally I find the subject of seduction and the psychology behind it interesting, and I tend to put it into action when I meet new girls. But I don't go out on the street and try to look for beautiful women that I can hit on. I just try it out to see that it actually does work, so I know what to do when I meet a women who I do get really interested in. But I have no interest of just trying to sleep with as many women as possible as I honestly don't see the point in that.

@Nicolas Hey Nicolas! First of all, starting a business at such a young age is not always positive I would say that you should focus on school and learn to network with other people, who knows some of your fellow classmates might have a mom/dad who works with something you might want help with. And then when you decide you're focus on 100% on the business these connections can be INVALUABLE. The best way for you to be more productive is to make sure your body is healthy first. A schedule over your day might do wonders for you. I will give you an example you can play around with to find out what works best for you. This was my schedule when I went to school, but I dropped out due to multiple reasons, which is NOT for everybody. Note that this was a rough estimation 06 - 07 Wake up, exercise, shower, get dressed 07 - 08 Breakfast, read a book I enjoy (non-fictional) 08 - 09 Commute to school 09 - 15 School, was using Pomodoro technique later on. 15 - 16 Commute home 16 - 17 Homework 17 - 18 Dinner 18 - 19 SD 19 - 20 Something that I find fun to do. 20 - 22 Eating, reading fictional and getting ready for bed (No phone, computer, tv etc.) 22 - 06 Sleeping. From time to time I also listened to a audiobook on the commute rides, else I just used that time to calm myself down from a hectic school day