mr_engineer

@Bazooka Jesus @Sincerity Love the simping. And I'm the 'insecure' one.

The topic of this conversation implies judgement. So, if you have a problem with that, you can let us do the talking. Thanks. Okay, fine. There are some crazy women who do crazy shit. So what?! Is that the majority of women?! Are we talking about women who have more than a couple of brain-cells here?! Don't tell me what to do. Thanks.

That is a strange-loop. Reminds me of the Schrodinger's cat paradox. 'It's not true OR false, it's true AND false'!!

Trolls doing it for publicity. I mean, come on. You don't need an IQ of higher than 10 to realize that it's a bad idea.

If he was honest with women about how many women he's killed, would women want to be with him?! Notice the word 'authenticity' in my question. If you say 'I'm an asshole' to a girl you're on a date with and then you proceed to yell at the waiter 'hey fuckhead, get me a side of fries', that's you authentically being an asshole. Will a woman want to be with that?! All of this is propaganda by dating-coaches to confuse us and to sell their nonsense products. Just be a good person and next the women who don't want that. You'll be fine.

What if you have a Jack the Ripper character who is 'authentic'?! Would women want to be with him?! I don't care about women who are hellbent on proving to me that I'm an asshole. Because I'm not. So much for 'authenticity'. For the last time, what I do with my genitals is None. Of. Your. Business. It's starting to get weird and inappropriate that you keep bringing this up.

So, 'authentic' is not 'nice'. Meaning, your definition of 'authentic', is being an asshole. It's just a matter of what type of asshole you are, right?! Right here, your opinion stops mattering to me, because I want a woman to love me, not just settle for me because she thinks she can manipulate me. And, I'm not talking about 'romance' or 'sex'. I'm talking about 'love'. And, I've had a lot of women be loving towards me and be receptive to my love for them. And, I will not say anything about my sex-life out of respect for my partners. Consider the possibility that I have bigger considerations than this petty dick-measuring game of yours, in which we tell each other how much sex we've had. I have nothing to prove to you. I just won't let you come to me and tell me that 'If you say you're a nice guy, you're not'. Just like I won't let you come in and tell me 'If you say you lift 40 pound dumb-bells, you're not doing that'. What you don't get to do is to call me a liar.

Well, the calculation-mistakes are right in front of you. If your solution is to discredit me instead of looking at your own logic, that's not intellectually honest. And, you don't know how many sexual partners I've had, how many 'equations' I've completed. I'm just choosing to not tell you that. Because I don't believe in dick-measuring. If that's what you're doing here, should I expect intellectual honesty from you?!

I thought that if I assert a moral high ground when I say that I'm a nice guy, that would come across as authentic. But, I guess yall are hell-bent on proving that 'NO! You aren't nice! You can't be nice!!' Oh, so when they attack your frame, instead of defending and reaffirming your frame, you let it collapse?! More like a kid sitting in a math class pointing out a major calculation mistake on the blackboard and not just drinking in wrong information.

How much of your money have I taken for my advice?! It's just an opinion. Take it or leave it. Without me answering this question of 'how many partners', they're not my 'conquests'. As I said, what I do with my genitals is none of your business. I'm not a dating-coach. I don't feel the need to prove my credibility by your rules. Especially these rules of seeing women as 'conquests to be won'. I'm just the little kid pointing at the existing dating-coaches saying 'The Emperor has no clothes!'

I didn't answer the question because it was irrelevant to the topic at hand. You know what?! Fine. I've had 5 sexual relationships. You happy now?! Big fucking deal. What I do with my genitals is none of your business. And if this number matters so much to you, I'd ask myself why. I'm not going to sit here and dick-measure with you here, we're trying to learn about women together. And I respect my partners more than to declare them as trophies to random guys on the internet.

Correction - it's inauthentic for YOU to call yourself a nice guy. If this is your first question to me when I state obvious and undeniable facts, you're thinking with your dick. So, you're the asshole in this equation! A better question would be - have you found women who have high enough self-worth to receive your love?

So, if you feel love in your heart for women and you act nicely towards them out of that love, that's inauthentic?! There are women who have the self-worth and receptivity for genuine love. The women you're talking about have a modus operandi of manipulation in relationships. It's easier to manipulate an asshole who's a boyfriend than an asshole who's a friend, so they date the asshole. And it's easier to manipulate a nice guy in the friendzone than a nice guy who's a boyfriend. So, they friendzone the nice guy and they date the asshole. If you're the nice guy in this situation, the solution is not to 'be more of an asshole'. The solution is to see red-flags in women you pick. And, to ignore the conditioning that tells you that 'you're really an asshole in disguise'. It's coming from low-quality manipulative women with self-worth issues.

So, if you have options with women, you can't be nice? Is that what you're saying?

Yupp. And then, when I say that 'we have to search long and hard for a credible female perspective on what women want, most women lie', they say 'You're MiSoGyNiStIc'.

Or maybe you don't believe you deserve a nice guy.

Yeah, you know what 'toxic masculinity' is. You know the illusions of your head better than I do. What's there to debate about that?! Yupp. You think geniuses are toxic.

The unironic usage of the word 'toxic masculinity' means that you think 'masculinity is toxic', i.e. you hate men.

This is a self-improvement forum and people nitpick here. So, if I had a good time, of course, I'm not going to come on here and say that! It's a male-dominated forum. If there were more women, there would be more posts. Oh, there is a point. It's to save ourselves from women who will falsely accuse us for hitting on them. It's important to recognize why women do that. Spoken like someone who hates men.

All of you who are laughing at nice guys, who have disowned your niceness when women said they don't like nice guys, all of you failed this shit-test. This will be the reason you will fail to find love. So, joke's on you. At its core, masculinity is about giving. It's about being a loving human being, about providing and protecting, about being a nice person. Now culturally, we have twisted 'masculinity' and we think that it's about achievement, when it's not. If it were, Andrew Tate would actually be masculine. And, women also have it twisted, in that their idea of 'masculine traits' is kinda shallow. So, when they say that 'they don't like nice guys', there is only one reason for this - they have low self-worth.

Just use the word 'anxiety' then. Oh no, but then, you'll have to take responsibility for how you feel! You can't use a man-hating slur anymore to demonize the guy!

But why is hitting on someone the equivalent of 'shitting'?! Why is sex such a taboo to this day?! It's because of the white-knightery on the part of authority-figures across the board. My point is, there is a concerted war being waged on male sexuality. And this is how we protect ourselves against it.

There is a reason you don't hit on women at your workplace. It's because HR-departments take this shit seriously.

Lol that's a strange-loop.

You know what?! Once you see through the shit-test, this is actually solid advice. What should you actually be, though? A nice guy or a scumbag?