Devin

I don't think he's harassing her, it sounds like he's going to stop messaging so I don't think he's completely socially uncalibrated, I think he'll stop if it gets to harassment

@NoSelfSelf that's destructive, she's invited him to spend lunch together multiple times, yeah she doesn't wanna message, I hate messaging too, they see each other everyday why use messenger? I didn't say rape her or harass her, that goes without saying You moderators are trolls

Whatever feels good to you; sitting there feeling your emotions, or watching your thoughts, or trying to remove thoughts, chanting, trying to not think, watching your breathing,.... Do some breathing yoga. Stretching yoga, flow yoga. Do what feels good When you feel good then you can better find the thought(s) that's bothering you; I'm not good enough,.... Then dissect that

Don't try to understand her signals too much, if you like her, talk to her, if nothing else it will give you experience with women. She may want to be friends first, she may be an introvert. If you want to talk to her do it, when you no longer want to then quit

Then why not go for it to use the experience to get over the anxiety?

GO FOR IT!!!! You didn't ask if you should you asked how. Fuk the unsolicited advice for should, you already knew that answer, these guys are player's from the big cities, you're in a traditional setting and culture, these guys don't have a clue, if you like her and she's single she's your's

doubt Is an emotion. I would try meditation and try to process unresolved conflict in your thoughts from the past, the narcissistic mother stuff; cry it out, scream(in an appropriate area), grieve(maybe your childhood), give yourself love, sleep and rest, eat well. Check out Noah elkrief videos on youtube. Then you can do internal family systems, but you should start seeing relief pretty quickly.

Expressing how you feel in words is brutish? That's a new one for me, brutish to me is no words or explanation

It's not about not expressing how you feel, it's about showing the other person grace. Watch .uk parliament, they look like monkeys

Depends on what you were taught to repress. Loud confrontational families teach you to repress insecurity, loneliness, sadness, fear, .... More feminine families teach to repress anger, but express sadness, insecurity, .....

Right I only mean the language is parroting, not that you're mindless

About "god"; you're right. I actually don't know anything about anything But if you speak in terms of "logic" and "reasoning" it's all just based in the parroting of the root "logic" and "reasoning", otherwise you couldn't verbally communicate it

Do those emotions pass when you are observing them or are they also always there like anger? I don't think that doubt would be emotional, doubting awakening would be though

Insecurity, worry, doubt, powerlessness, frustration, jealousy, You can look over a list of emotions and check in with yourself if you're feeling any, be honest with yourself, if you're repressing you will try to overlook it

You may be repressing another emotion, which often results in anger or rage

And now she's trying to kill us

Women are the cause of destruction, if it weren't for women men would just eat sleep and play, no need for ego, no need to "work"

@Razard86 I don't think God thinks or accepts things When they say no self they mean no separation, a singularity. Self means separate I don't know why God is love, I think THAT is "word play". I think they say because everything is god I agree it's all parroting, that's all language could ever be, it's by definition parroting

What have women ever done? You wouldn't last a week You need men so you don't freeze or starve, get eaten by bear

He's not a player/shitter

No back peddling?, you said you think 90% of women are high value. I already booked my plane ticket?

-What percentage of women do you consider high value? -How many high value women have you met in your life? My answers 1% 1

He's in romania, I say go for it. They'll probably be married with one on the way next year.

Beautiful, all of you

Where has been your favorite place to live? And why? I've only lived in the u.s., Ohio, it's nice, quiet, you can fly anywhere quickly, low cost of living, you can find a decent job (my opinion, not shared by others(I'm a minimalist)), low crime, safe, people are respectful enough in general, pretty countrysides, some woodlands, national parks, pretty cities, people are nice, . No; hurricanes, droughts, wildfires, serious flooding. I like it, easy to find peace, or misery, nothing crazy exciting which is something I like about it, I'll travel for exciting.