Devin

Correct

Yeah, doesn't mean there was ever love behind those doors

I never see sexual attraction and love as one

Well yeah, it's well known it fuks the kid up, you don't fuk people up that you love

The reason behind sexual pedophilia seems to be the power dynamic, it has nothing to do with love for the child. *i've done no research

Why would they want a kid as a spouse? Are they sort of projecting themselves as the child and wanting to love themselves when they were children? They do always seem like they were manipulated with love as a child, Michael jackson for example

Definitely flys over my head, I have absolutely no idea what your point was. My answer to your question is; because it's destructive and wouldn't get you over the fear of not having money Are you saying he should be okay with not having a woman before pursuing? Well I think he's decided otherwise so far and i don't believe in trying to turn people around on their path, he asked "how" not "should i"

Love ya Leo

@Breakingthewall @Gesundheit2 @Carl-Richard @kag101 I agree with you all now but I'm not sure from the same line of thinking. I think there's a level of consciousness above Jesus/Buddha level(their perceived level) where you partake in normal life like a high functioning individual, not necessarily living by societies ideals, but like you partake like a kid does with imagination/play, I don't even think they would be teachers or Zen masters necessarily

If you were very conscious, what are some of the things a therapist would diagnose you with??

I don't think he's harassing her, it sounds like he's going to stop messaging so I don't think he's completely socially uncalibrated, I think he'll stop if it gets to harassment

@NoSelfSelf that's destructive, she's invited him to spend lunch together multiple times, yeah she doesn't wanna message, I hate messaging too, they see each other everyday why use messenger? I didn't say rape her or harass her, that goes without saying You moderators are trolls

Whatever feels good to you; sitting there feeling your emotions, or watching your thoughts, or trying to remove thoughts, chanting, trying to not think, watching your breathing,.... Do some breathing yoga. Stretching yoga, flow yoga. Do what feels good When you feel good then you can better find the thought(s) that's bothering you; I'm not good enough,.... Then dissect that

Don't try to understand her signals too much, if you like her, talk to her, if nothing else it will give you experience with women. She may want to be friends first, she may be an introvert. If you want to talk to her do it, when you no longer want to then quit

Then why not go for it to use the experience to get over the anxiety?

GO FOR IT!!!! You didn't ask if you should you asked how. Fuk the unsolicited advice for should, you already knew that answer, these guys are player's from the big cities, you're in a traditional setting and culture, these guys don't have a clue, if you like her and she's single she's your's

doubt Is an emotion. I would try meditation and try to process unresolved conflict in your thoughts from the past, the narcissistic mother stuff; cry it out, scream(in an appropriate area), grieve(maybe your childhood), give yourself love, sleep and rest, eat well. Check out Noah elkrief videos on youtube. Then you can do internal family systems, but you should start seeing relief pretty quickly.

Expressing how you feel in words is brutish? That's a new one for me, brutish to me is no words or explanation

It's not about not expressing how you feel, it's about showing the other person grace. Watch .uk parliament, they look like monkeys

Depends on what you were taught to repress. Loud confrontational families teach you to repress insecurity, loneliness, sadness, fear, .... More feminine families teach to repress anger, but express sadness, insecurity, .....

Right I only mean the language is parroting, not that you're mindless

About "god"; you're right. I actually don't know anything about anything But if you speak in terms of "logic" and "reasoning" it's all just based in the parroting of the root "logic" and "reasoning", otherwise you couldn't verbally communicate it

Do those emotions pass when you are observing them or are they also always there like anger? I don't think that doubt would be emotional, doubting awakening would be though

Insecurity, worry, doubt, powerlessness, frustration, jealousy, You can look over a list of emotions and check in with yourself if you're feeling any, be honest with yourself, if you're repressing you will try to overlook it

You may be repressing another emotion, which often results in anger or rage