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Just contemplate this question: How do you explicitly teach about Love without losing Integrity ? Ralston is all about Love

This is just a question. Is this real ? Does it exist cause personally, I do not want to be distracted with non necessary non sense but on the other hand, if this exist, we should be careful about that no ? I also tell myself that I’m created my reality so if I do not want such things in my reality. Better not create it. For example I highly doubt someone like Peter Ralston would be bother by such story and He’s living the good life. So what are your thoughts about all this ? Is this real ? Should we pay attention about this and live our life based on that ? Or should we just ignore all energetic aspect?

😂😂😂 you got me here. I felt into this trap of believing so often since I discovered Actualized.org.

Are you sure about that ? Do you really think girl filter qualitys in guys cause it seems to me that they often chose a lower quality guys over a high one if we’re talking about real qualities. Qualities of the soul. I might be wrong but I don’t feel Women filter men based on what we could call objective factors.

Recently I have been so hopeless that I understood everything was Survival, there is no Love. My consciousness is so low that I see everything as Survival so paradoxically, my low consciousness broke the duality Survival/Love as everything is Love and yet everything is Survival. It means Love=Survival. I just found it interesting. When someone says he transcended Survival and now he’s about Love. This person is in fact full of shits. He’s just in Shining Survival but he’s still all about Survival. You never transcend survival. You are always 100% about Survival and yet Love can increase. the Agenda can change but you will always have an Agenda and you’ll always be all about your agenda. Even as pure Consciousness. It’s as if I’m going full circle through the downside. I could have understood it by the upside and the realisation would have been the same. The only exception is about the fact that I would have felt blissful and I feel now depressed. So the only exception would have been about Survival or Love. It almost feel as when you are full of Love paradoxically you are blinder than when you are dry with hate cause you see Survival as Love and you do not see it’s just Survival. In the End Love and Survival are equally blind and biased. Sorry I’m not sure this post is interesting but I’ll post it anyway. In the end. It’s just my dirty mind I’m exposing. Nothing else

This video keeps me alive in my darkest time:

Hello, I’m sorry and I won’t explain the details but my life is hell. I feel I’ll never escape and it’s been only 27years so I do not know how I’ll do. Anyway, I’m not here to get motivational speech or reassurance from you. It is the just that the only thought that reassure me is that when I’ll die, all of this I’m living will have no existence whatsoever. It will just be a nightmare I woke up from. It will be as it as never even existed. Is that true ? Plz I need you to tell me that yes. One day I’ll die and my life will be as it never happened.

Thanks for all your replys. It does help. The hopelessness comes from the fact that I really struggle and fight and nothing changes. I have chronic physical and psychological pain since something happened to me. I often think about suicide but maybe that is just karma I have to deal with. It is hard for me to imagine that I accumulated so much karma in this life(unless I really have been blind to the full extent of my selfishness) or I’m open to the fact that I am dealing with karma from past lifes. In the end, there’s no much of a difference between dying now or suffering still. So I guess I’ll take the pain.

After listening to a lot of coaches and advices from everywhere on dating. I finally came to the conclusion that this is toxic. And this is toxic no matter the where it comes from. Let me explain. The thing is everyone has a different philosophy on Life and on dating according to your values of Life. Advices from someone random may not suit you and it is true even if what they say is decent and relatively aligned with the Truth. Finally, I think that’s an area where you have to think by yourself and find your most authentic way. Of course, it takes practice and work but I think that’s a journey everyone should make personal in the end. Taking advices from an external source will just make the path longer. Have the courage to go on this adventure Alone, think by yourself, fall in Love, feel the heartbreak, try to understand. Do it again.

(And of course « fall in Love. Feel the heartbreak, try to understand » is biased too, my mistakes what I was really meaning is do you. Do you but do it seriously, adjust when you need to.

Okay I’m still in the dating area, I’m just at the time in my life when I want to fix it So a girl on my instagram invited me for a volley ball tournament. It was really cool and we won. Then she told me to come to the night club with her, it was still really cool and at 00:00 am we were talking eye contact was strong she was giggling so I went for the kiss but as I was stressed and wanted to do it quick, I only kissed her on the cheek, and felt really awkward. Then I came back to dance with my friends and she did the same. The problem right now is I do not know the mistake I made. I do not know if she was not waiting for the kiss and did not want me to make a move or if I just was so stressed that I just fucked up but she was waiting for it. I just feel like a complete dumb guy who can not read anything. Anyway I felt tied after and told her that I had to go and good bye, we are supposed to play together again next thursday so I felt like I manage to move pass the awkwardness and bring back our dynamic to normal. but I have to say I’m still clueless does anyone have a tip ?

Wow beautiful, sounds like the perfect mindset ! Thanks !

And yes maybe I’ll talk about it in a funny way ! Thanks for the good idea !

Thanks, yes for sure I can feel that practice is the most efficient way and that I’m getting closer to be able to make the whole process smooth I’ll certainly double down my efforts. I won’t give up until I’m getting it haha

I do not know, I’ve always live by the rule of never asking but you are right, maybe I should open myself up to this idea !

Thanks for the reply! yes I think I’ll just try to be more relaxed and not try to rush when things become more intense. I’ll let you know how it goes

Maybe also it is because I was trying to go for the kiss and her friends were not very far, maybe I should just have brought her outside the nightclub, I don’t know ??

I guess I’m just gonna see if the cancels our meeting on Thursday or no, I’ll let you guyz know

But is it better to develop toxic attitudes or to be weak ? Is there something more toxic than being weak ? Sometimes, I think I’d rather be toxic than weak. When I’m weak, I’m disgusted at myself. Andrew Tate does not disgust me. At least he’s not a victim and he will never be.

You guys are so funny with your metaphore. In the end, the point is finding a girlfriend you love. I’d rather meet a girl I can connect with no matter how than doing 100approaches.

The reason why I personally want a smart gf is because I would a girl with who I can really connect, a girl that can understand my humor and a girl that understands me simply.

I’ve always cared personally. The way I see it is that if I had a girlfriend, I would not appreciate guys hitting on my girl so I do not do it. What is wrong with that ?

Okay, first my English is not that good and what I want to communicate is not very easy so thanks and good luck for the readers.. Anyway my dating life is very very far from all coaches and Leo’s view and I can see the truth of his view so I’m questioning myself. I would say I’m an idealist, or a dreamer Leo is very harsh. For example, I’m loyal to a girl I like as soon as the flirt phase started eventhough there is no sex, not even kissing and sometimes I feel that I’m missing opportunities. I feel it also puts me in a weak position and eventhough I used to think that I’m ready to pay this price, I’m not that sure anymore. Also sometimes I feel I’m living in a different reality than everyone else(especially the pick up community). for example this idea that « there is nothing until you and the girl have sex » for me that’s wrong, I actually had a girlfriend where it was obvious she was mine and I was hers and sex did not even happen between us. Actually we did not see each other a whole summer and the relation kept going(but you could say it is because we were very young idk). It’s not even a priority to me to have sex with a girl I met and like. I feel I can build love without it if it was just about me. But nevertheless I can feel there are downsides with my attitude and it’s not that functional. I know I would have a lot to learn from the pick up community and I have to admit I’m not satisfied with my dating life. I consider I never succeed in building a strong intimate connection with a girl. I’ve had girlfriends but it always seems that I missed the big stuffs, the most juicy stuff of what a relationship could offer. I’m sure I’m lacking lots of quality to allow that and I want to improve Anyway I’m trying to share my mindset and resolve it at the same time but it’s hard as I myself is not clear about what my issue is : p

I just mean, don’t be so focused on the words that come out of her mouth but more on what she shows by her acts. Yes if I were u I would just go with the flow of life for the moment. Is just seems that even if you managed to be back with her now. The situation would be a little bit toxic.

She is a girl. She does not tell the truth, just the most appropriate thing to tell at the moment. You have to go meta when talking/listening to her. What do you want in your dating life ? Your actions have to be a reflection of your desires. If you have feelings for her what you should have done is make it clear that you wanted her back after the sex 4weeks ago but now it’s a little bit late and honestly, yes this situation is not cool for the other guy if he’s clean. Anyway if I were you(but I can’t really tell cause I have no feelings for her of course..) I would let her go, unfollow her on insta and move on.