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    Well, there is a fine line between
    - re-experiencing - which is just an endless cycle of the same emotions at best and also can be re-traumatizing (more "hyper" sympathetic symptoms of dissociation)
    - a crying where emotions integrate / release
    - feeling of numbness / depression (more "hypo" parasympathetic symptoms)

    For example in trauma (theory) usually there is one part that is more "numb" / depressed... and another part that is flooded with a lot of overwhelming emotions / flashback images. These things have to be integrated gradually; otherwise it is not helpful.

    The "theory" say, that if you are not within the window of tolerance (either too much or too little) you are not integrating the stuff.

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    10 hours ago, Forestluv said:

    Stage Red seems incapable of even pretending to care about the welfare of others. Trump always seems disoriented, awkward and uncomfortable when he tries to act altruistic or empathetic. Self-centered Orange seem much more comfortable feigning altruism and empathy.

    But is he stage red? He is an Enneagram type 8 which itself can be confused with red easily.

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    1 hour ago, meow_meow said:

    If you take a look a few posts previously @Toby mentioned his 3rd eye hurting for ~ 8 years.

    Hurting is not the right word. I would say more like pressure or some kind of energetic overwhelm which was there all the time, sometimes less, sometimes more intense. More like energy flowing, pressuring against blockages which you can't do really anything about - which was very painful, but it was really not the same as migraine or something for me. I would compare it with times when I learned the whole day for school and had some pressure or overwhelm in that region afterwards. And then you take it times 1000.

    I liked very much Bonnie Greenwell's book. And I also like Irina Tweedie's book "daughter of fire" because it is as real as it gets describing the process from within it. Haven't found such a description anywhere else.