I started having sex dreams with men, what does it mean? in Dating, Relationships, Sexuality Posted Friday at 05:15 PM In my opinion it seems like you want to be understood, maybe you thought this could be with someone youre sexually attracted to but it hasnt happened and so possibly something in you thinks that maybe someone of your own gender would be able to understand you. We all have this craving to be understood btw, but it just doesnt happen most of the time, its hard enough understanding yourself let alone someone else. It also can be a completely separate thing so you can be sexually attracted to someone and have a great relationship and not feel that youre understood and in theory you could be understood and not have a sexual relationship with that person. But in general i dont think you should set that criteria for relationships, i just dont think youll ever get that feeling of being understood, maybe you think men will do a better job but it still most likely, wont be what you expect.