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I work from home as well and have been for the last 4 or 5 years. Ive got a foot in both camps, on one side i think you should embrace being alone and actually if you cant then itself is something to work on, being ok with yourself by yourself. On the other side it can get lonely and it is important to have connections with people. But ive noticed recently that sometimes i do feel a bit uncomfortable in social situations because im used to my own space. I try and do both, so i try and embrace the alone time, do my work, research, walks, whatever. What i noticed is that before i used to put pressure on myself, saying you should do more, you should party, meet more girls etc etc, once this got a bit more quiet, i started to see being alone as not a bad thing at all. On the other connections are good, so i go to the gym at least 3 times a week and train with one of my friends, so we talk for an hour or so, i also am quite friendly there so i talk to other people (obviously i go to work out but this is a side effect lol). I also talk to friends and family on the phone and hang out with the girl im saying a couple times a week. Also looking into doing a boxing class. So although its a bit of a comfort zone, i feel that it gives a baseline routine where im alone but i also will connect with people at least once a day. Its just about finding a routine that will allow you to do this, but i also i think in society we look down upon those who spend time by themselves and this creates a shadow within a lot of us about doing it, so that also needs to be overcome i believe

Is that your video? Cool work keep it up!

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Balance is definitely needed, no theory just running wild can be dangerous, conversely all theory no action can be very ineffective. Its not a zero sum game.

I think your question has been a little mis-interpreted, what you're talking about is big picture thinking. If you're working with quite logical people they tend to think on the day to day level and can sometimes not ever think about the bigger picture. So for example I used to work at a supermarket and everyone was so concerned about the day to day that they didn't do things like put more resources in to social media, which could have got them a lot more customers and build up good will. So in these situations ideas are not actively looked for it's more about just keeping the status quo. Has that touched on what you meant at all? In terms of how to convince someone to think in a big picture way, in short you can't or it will be very difficult, so the best way to do this is to lead by example, you think in this way and put forward your ideas, eventually one will be good enough to put into action or just the way you're thinking will encourage others

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.newscientist.com/article/mg23931940-100-the-me-illusion-how-your-brain-conjures-up-your-sense-of-self/amp/ Just thought it was an interesting article and science looking into non-dual ideas always catches my attention. What you guys think?

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Good luck bro, i hope you push through this. Stay strong

Put it like this, the bible was written in a time to describe many things that are intangible. This was be psychotherapy, modern science, psychologists, evolutionary biology and many other ways of thinking we take for granted. But the experience of what these disciplines attempt to study and understand has always been with us otherwise there would be no need for the disciplines. So to explain how these very real things happened metaphors and language had to be used. In terms of the devil, it would seem more realistic that when its mentioned in the bible its talking about a side of us, one that is capable of evil, essentially the ego, our attachment to thoughts. The mind is uncontrollable, so if evil thoughts are going through it we may get confused and think we are the evil thoughts and that we are evil but of course that can not be true as we are the perceiver of any thought, so the devil is if we completely embody the thoughts and they take over us creating an almost completely separate entity, the reality of course is that we've mistaken that for us. I find it interesting that people think the bible is describing physical phenomenon, when surely its a spiritual practice, spiritual meaning not physical. If the bibles anything its an attempt to decipher the spiritual not the physical, so therefore the devil would have to be a metaphor for that

Sorry to hear that man, it seems like you're really attached to your 'self' which you see in a negative light. There's a lot of issues there with your dad etc so I think you need to talk to someone just to get a better understanding of everything. You also have a strong desire to silence your mind, which 'you' can't do you can only let it be, it's like a scab, if you keep picking it, it gets worse and doesn't heal but it's a compulsive thing

So whats the answer then? if you have an enlightened leader who wants to upgrade consciousness assuming he doesnt give in to devilry, he will get followers that after he has gone could use his words for their lower consciousness desires and drives just with the leaders name attached, which obviously has been happening for thousands of years. So what can be done about raising consciousness? It seems this situation will always tip into a cult either pushed by the leader or followers, so is it better to take the solo path rather than follow someone?

There needs to be some kind of interaction with you, you cant expect people just to click on random music on youtube, youre competing with tons of artists. If you had say live performances, studio sessions, funny videos, interviews anything, then the content would be more appealing. you have to think what value am i providing my audience, how am i helping their life, that can be entertainment, educational or something that makes them think. So maybe you could teach guitar or something, so far theres nothing you have now that would make me click on your video, so in its current state you wont grow very quickly if at all. You also need to post regularly, minimum once a week.

To his credit he's an excellent debater but he definitely has his agenda and i feel that people who have this skill can argue proficiently for literally any cause or ideology, therefore it makes the whole thing redundant. You either aim for truth as much as possible or you try and reinforce your ideology amongst the masses, he knows his audience, he knows how to debate and this can be very dangerous for those that tend to follow ideologies. I put all of these types in one category no matter what their content is, theyre trying to get you to believe something rather than exploring ideas with you

I wouldnt give myself the expert title but you can check out my podcast in my signature i go through a lot of ways to become financially independent

But surely non-duality only an experiential knowing, for example I can hear all the descriptions of what its like to go to Thailand, i think that i know Thailand exists, i can imagine what it might be like drawing from other places ive been, but i can never know what its like until i experience it for myself and go there. Theres literally no way around this, i would have to experience it truly know it and even then its only the experience that is valid, even a memory of having been there will not do it justice. So if you can logically push your way through experienced Thailand then maybe you can do that non-duality but i doubt it somehow

Its true, theres some women men will flat out never approach just based on looks. At least men have some kind power in their hands that they can work on other areas, become confident etc and they themselves can approach

I mean, the pendulum went so far to the right with Donald trump that inevitably someone to the left will get voted. Bernie Sanders wasn't a million miles away last time, it's not impossible for Marianne to get voted in but there will be so much backlash as most of America is not ready for someone like her in the political sphere, so it probably could do more damage. I mean she's yellow going toward turquoise when most voters would be blue, orange and a little green, she's way too early

See this is a good point, if a person thinks theyre attractive they act in an abundant way ie the way attractive people act and this is attractive in of itself. Alternatively without being deluded, you can just have belief in your abilities to attract women. In this video below, its someone who wouldnt be considered attractive conventionally but has a lot of confidence, see how he does -

Yeah i pretty much agree. What people mean by free choice is, 'i make choices on my own and independent of anything else'. But as you allude to it is impossible to make a completely independent choice and thats without getting into the whole 'who is making the choice' stuff. Essentially free will is a concept which doesnt really hold up under investigation or contemplation

It maybe easier to look at it from a negative, so I could ask you 'what does a completely free choice look like?'

Well eating healthy, exercising etc are habits. Regardless of depression you can build in this habits, you have a habit for not eating well but you still have to order food, you could cultivate a habit to cook for the week or buy shopping to be delivered. So rather than looking at it like im fat and depressed should i just accept it, what you should do is think what habit can i start today that will slightly improve my situation. Might be going for a walk 10 mins a day, might be cooking 3 times a week, whatever it is just take control of your habits and let the depression be

Tough one as there are kids involved, but i think what has happened is that youve lost who you are, probably both of you have become defined by the relationship. At there best you shouldnt need a relationship it should be something to help you grow, but if you stop growing and try and keep the status quo of what you think your relationship should be you can run into trouble. Especially if it wasnt completely healthy in the first place. Either way you need a break, you need some time to re-evaluate who you are by yourself and what will make you happy, your partner will most likely need this as well. The only thing stopping you would be fear and thats never a good motivation for anything. It may seem like the loving thing to do is to stay and work it out but its counter-intuitive. Its like if your making a piece of music and have been in the studio 12 hours straight, it may seem like you really care if you just dont sleep and keep going, but actually the piece will be much better if youre rested and have a fresh set of ears to hear what you need to work on. The same with your situation the actual caring thing to do is to take a step back and give your brain time to rest. Always make sure youre in a situation that can make you content and if you are that will trickle down to everyone else, trying to do it the other way is always an uphill battle

Bro it does seem like everyone is getting at you, but its because you seem to have these rose tinted glasses on and ideas about love and all this. Im not disregarding your experiences but you have to understand that theres a reality of a situation and then theres what you want it to be. The fact that youve thought all this stuff and seem to be completely bought in to the point where you cant take on board what people are saying would suggest to me that youre living in a lot of illusion. Your projecting on this girl what you want her to be and what your idea of this deep relationship is. The fact is if youre living in the moment and present and all of that you wouldnt have all these ideas youd just experience it for what it was. Youre talking about ego but by saying no one gets it etc its a sign of a spiritual ego. People are giving you advice from their experiences of female nature, relationships and whatever else, many of whom probably have more experience than you. Not saying you should take everything wholesale but if everyone is telling you its a bad idea it might just be a bad idea

Enjoy the journey man, i was working shit jobs for like 8 years or something, working on a checkout in asda (walmart)! Just have your mind set on getting it no matter what

You need to look at where your potential subscribers are, for example im not a big youtuber but ive put out a couple of videos in the past on my channel around consciousness as well just to test the water i guess, the first one was about anxiety and it got 525 views which is pretty good for a first time video about a topic like that. The reason why it did relatively well is that i posted it in as many places as i could think of where people would be searching for help with anxiety, reddit, facebook groups, forums etc, this is where your traffic will come from and where you can reach out and get people who are into your content. You can also search instagram for hashtags and comment on other people in your niche, for example #enlightenment and give a meaningful comment so people may check it out and look at your stuff. Regarding your content obviously a lot of people on this forum maybe interested in it but its not mass audience thing, and even those into it have there own channels they watch it really has to be something different to grab them. One way you might want to do it is if you take something that is popular like movies for example and draw parallels with spiritual stuff, you could do non-dual breakdowns of films for example. Or you could examine the egos of popular youtubers, whatever you like but something that you know about and can relate to pd or whatever your passion is. Your delivery has improved but im not sure your fully there yet but it will come with time. Definitely dont give up if it really is your passion to do this, those that are successful stick it out the longest but also learn and adapt to what works. Good luck