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I found for myself with social anxiety that its about more than only exposure. You have to be very mindful while you do it, incredibly present with the fear to dissolve it. Basically great self awareness. Notice all the subtle ways you try to avoid facing the fear, such as looking away, being fake in how you talk, tensing up in the body, talking just to talk, basically all your avoidance mechanisms and go against them, by for example forcing yourself to talk when you feel held back, you can even be a bit fake to gain some momentum, holding eye contact even if it feels uncomfortable, relaxing your body, breathing deeper and focusing on breath, actively focusing on the other person. Basically learn all the ways your fear expresses itself in your behavior and actively, mindfully go against it in the moment of it. Sometimes counterintuively though making effort might not be the best thing (depends on the moment) because it can cause additional psychological strain that just adds more overthinking to it all, so there can be times when its more appropriate to not try at all, but just doing what comes naturally (even if its being more quiet) and still observing the fear to help it dissolve, and hopefully you can find that natural flow. Also this is a bit odd but it requires a bit of self dissolution to completely transcend some psychological fears, because youre dealing with a negative idenfication that needs to be dissolved for the fear tied to it to dissolve. To do this requires self attention which is synonymous with self awareness. In my experience

One thing I could suggest is to become genuinely interested in your own reactions (it’s a part of being interested in your own nature overall) So whenever a negative reaction or prejudice arises you have a genuine interest in its nature, and can observe it from a neutral view and analyze it, how it came about, what it is etc. You allow it to arise if it does without suppressing anything. This way you’ll be potentially breaking it down. Understanding that you are a human being and it’s natural to fall for prejudice sometimes, having some compassion for yourself about it, but it can be worked on and dissolved for good. It’s important to be interested in the actual truth of the matter, so that it overrides emotional biased thinking.

That’s epic

Sometimes we engage thoughts because we feel they’re useful somehow in some twisted way, like you feel you gain some weird sense of control over the situation by keeping notice of how others are doing in relation to you and comparing. You have to really see the uselessness of such thoughts and be too concerned with your own shit (working on yourself etc) to waste mental energy comparing yourself

I can hear it Yea I swear I will read Why

lol what a petty detail haha

Exactly No but thanks

Zero anger issues. I don’t have any emotions.

Yes true

The normal thing is to have a lot of thoughts. Even neurotic. Yea I don’t think it’s spiritual or paranormal either. I am on meds but they don’t help except for make me a little calmer. I wasn’t struggling to write to you in pm for some reason. I have been evaluated for autism and I don’t have it

I eat twice a day regardless of trying to lose weight or not. It keeps me at maintenance but to loose weight I need to also implement portion control etc

That sounds good. Basically so I’m not the only one that can take time

63: I’m at a normal weight. I find it easy to maintain. Just eat healthy, two meals a day. But…..in order to get SKINTY. That’s not enough. You gotta take other measures. Like you gotta watch portion sizes, that I’m getting better at. Today I ate a salad and accidentally made a little too big portion but that’s fine I’m learning. You gotta watch out for certain calorie dense “healthy” foods like olive oil, nuts because they can easily add a lot of calories (I still include it because it’s delicious especially olive oil in dressings etc). So basically being normal weight is one thing, but being skinnnnty is another level. So this is gonna be a journey.

I can hear this in your accent You have created your own style out of it I was thinking of no self self too. Keryo I don’t even know if he understands what he writes himself. Leo is not lazy I feel he could come up with a deep response any time easily but actively keeps it short and writes only what’s necessary Can you resist 😳 That’s so cool I want too I will keep posting my stupid random thoughts Haha

Ok. The reason I asked was if they had noticed any particular differences between the genders (if they had switched)

That’s cool you’ve been able to make observations from it. Sometimes we underestimate the role biology plays in psychology Maybe this is a sensitive question you don’t have to answer this but are you switching genders is that what the hrt is for?

62: I can’t get over the fact that in The Weeknd’s song timeless he literally sings “if I was you, I’d cut up my wrist” that is such a crazy lyrics to have

What has it helped you see?

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@Something Funny ask schizo

Thanks for your honesty. That makes sense since your responses can be very elaborate, plus I know you’ve studied stuff so that’s where you get some of it from right? Some seem to effortlessly write smart texts. But maybe they have a lot of work behind it like having done a lot of contemplation . I have some people I spontaneously can think of.

😹😹😹😹In February I will switch neuroleptic so I’ll see if it just gives me severe akathisia or if it’s good

61: Sometimes I feel like that crazy scientist who has genuinely discovered something but that everyone just thinks is crazy

I know I still asked

60: Sometimes I feel a little dumb. Like I don’t have proper access to my brain. My thoughts have a very low volume and are quite sparse like there’s a long gap between thoughts. I have a hard time getting into a flow while writing, because of this. Sometimes I wanna delete replies because they don’t sound “smart” enough. Yes I’m guilty, somehow I wanna seem deep and smart, to whom I don’t know, just in general, to myself too. I want my replies to have substance, that’s a good thing in a way, it’s good for the forum to wanna give good responses. I wonder if others think like this or if they just write. I find myself reading people’s responses and wondering how they come up with so much to say, and can compare to mine sometimes. lol guilty.