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I remember in high school even if I studied hard I struggled with physics (I got a C so it’s not too bad) . Some other students would get As? What’s the difference? I’d say for the most part the number one thing is studying properly and hard. But what also plays a role is one’s natural logical intelligence. Some are just naturally more logically intelligent than others, and it’s those who become those crazy good scientists. It’s possible with mediocre intelligence too but two people with different intelligence working equally as hard the one with higher will do better. So you gotta outwork them if you have average intelligence. It’s a cold truth. Some just “get it” faster than others. Others need more work and having a fierce passion for it is crucial. I haven’t read that book but if it’s about mastery then sure it can apply to this

@Schizophonia Ok

Acceptance seems important to me yes, its. twisted how it works. Understood

how? True thats why I combine it with intuition and personal experience Thats cool Breathing exercises seem very powerful ive thought about doing it

that’s great. Maybe you write in your journal and I can’t remember but what helped you sleep would you say? and what do you mean by “well surrounded”

That’s cool you’ve been able to identify what diets work better or worse for you. I haven’t noticed much in myself, I seem to tolerate most food very well. Experimentation is so important to find out what works for you, rather than just going with the science, although the science is still very valuable. Joe dispenza seems cool, he seems to have done incredible work. I’m open to those things

I’m fine how are you? I’ll tell you how it goes

You’re strong

I will switch to this med in march I’ll see how it compares to olanzipine

That sounds quite normal. Only if you don’t change yourself for them or try to manipulate to seem desirable

Thats good then

The first step to changing a behavior is to first become self aware about it. So you got that down It’s natural and healthy to want attention from the one you’re attracted to, if not it could mean you’re insecure as in being shy around them. Or you could seek their attention in a needy way where it feels you ~need~ their attention and in excessive amounts, that can be sign of insecurity too. The healthy way of gaining attention is by simply being you, being interesting, through your expression of yourself, by flirting, essentially attracting them to you. If you don’t know how to do that you might find yourself taking other measures to gain their attention that feel more forced and explicit . Like “I’m doing this to get their attention” rather than just being you and showing interest and that naturally gaining their attention.

I can see your points. For now Europe is good for me. But the intrigue for America is still there for me. They have it all, the good and the ugly, and if you’re good financially you can live well there , and chose safer areas, better food etc, that would be ideal

Our minds in this modern world with instant gratification and easily accessible pleasure and dopamine are not used to doing long focused tasks. Or meditating and “doing nothing”. So it’s natural for let’s say frustration to arise. Try to view it like a wave, it will come but it will eventually pass, you just have to get through it, surf that wave, tolerate it, let it be. Your brain is struggling to stay focused and present because it’s not used to it yet. But with consistent practice it probably will get used to it and the frustration will subside.

US feels for me like the center of the world. They have everything, and if you manage to get yourself into a decent position financially and build a security for yourself you can live a pretty good life there. Plus it seems more sociable.

Primosten a lot, krk (a lot when I was younger), I’ve been to Zagreb twice, I’ve been a little to split, been to kaštela once , been to Rijeka once or twice , been to otocac (when we visited plitvice) can’t remember more

Didn’t know as I pretty much only go to the Adriatic part. That’s cool you’ve traveled so much I’m not allowed to travel alone. Yea considering how expensive it can be you really wanna feel like it’s worth it. You could really sit down and make a list of the pros and cons or something . I know we can be a bit reluctant to leave the safety of Europe , it’s a big step. I’m personally drawn to America too so I’d say go for it , try it out. But have comprehensive planning. You’ve already traveled so much so you probably know how to deal with it

I don’t know how too much to comment really but yea it’s word choice difference, science is at least trying

You have the possibility of coming back to Croatia right? Studying in America doesn’t mean you’re forced to stay there forever. You could for example visit Croatia to enjoy the vacation aspect of it, that’s what I do, as I live in Sweden and love Swedens system but go to Croatia during the summers.

It’s interesting when science and spirituality connect

thanks It’s not really a struggle between them, I just oscillate between the two.

I don’t think it’s particularly healthy to be obsessed with someone. Either you’re exceptional and have exceptional impact or she just has an immature /insecure mind

Okay I see. It can be hard when people are so different from you, but amongst all those people it gotta be someone who shares something with you. Then it’s about keep looking and eventually you might find them

Thanks

I understand how hard it can be to find like minded people. If that’s not a criteria for you then you could find something to connect over with different type of people unlike you. That’s how I try to think, there’s always something to connect over even if the person is different. I try to be open towards the possibility always. But it takes two to tango so if the other doesn’t show interest in engagement in friendship then one has to eventually back of from attempts. So I know it can be hard. I wonder how it will be for me in uni. Maybe it differs from country to country too some cultures are more sociable like I live in Sweden and it’s not the most sociable country … But I’d suggest not giving up, not pushing it with people who don’t show interest back but keep showing interest (if it’s there) and eventually someone might reciprocate