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Ok, so just focusing on the process not the outcome and keeping my thinking in check. Ughh, I really need to get my mind in order.

Ability to have sex with lots of girls is also an attractive trait. And it can also rationalized as haven't done anything against the relationship. You could say: "oh having sex with all those girls is just a way for me to have a little fun and relax, basically a masturbation, you are the only one I really love, baby". So I don't see the fundamental difference between the two. And I am saying that they did. If I am really in love with someone, I wouldn't flirt with others, I wouldn't give a fuck about them at all. This is not the same. You can't control how others feel towards you, you can control your own actions.

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@Leo Gura no homo, btw

No, I meant physically attractive. Being bald looks well on you. you have great face and great skull shape, your beard is amazing, your chin is defined, you have a confident, playful look in your eyes, you laugh and smile in an attractive way.

Idk, just no routine or clear plans for the day. Not being able to stick to things. No cooking plan, no cleaning plan, no clear set goals that I am working on, no specific habits. Everything is so wishy-washy. I am basically eyeballing life right now, lol. I've exercised really hard last week and this week I didn't do anything, for example.

Ok, but what are you basing those claims on? "I tried it and felt dryness in my mouth"?

you keep saying that, but you always look very attractive in your videos.

@Natasha Tori Maru I am just trying to understand what's the fundamental difference between those. I would be uncomfortable with flirting just like I would be uncomfortable with kissing or sex. Because to me they are basically the same thing: my partner is attracted to somebody else who is not me and is willing to play with those feelings. Whether they've stopped at flirting, at kissing, or sex doesn't really matter imo. What matters is that they were willing to explore sex (used here as a general definition of everything sex related) with another person.

What about kissing? Or having protected sex?

So it's true that Brazilians have insecurity about their own skin color and idolize white people? This is honestly sad and pitiful to see. Do you even realize that Brazilian women are in general considered hot AF everywhere around the world (including white people, of course)? Also funny how you have qualms with talking to women who have boyfriends but no issues with travelling to Russia, lol. Nice moral compass you've got there. You might want to reconsider though, simply due to practical reasons. Considering how you are already insecure about your ethnicity, you might want to know that Russia is one of the most racist places in the world. And its not even like western racism. Westerner might say something offensive and racist, and know that it is offensive and racist, but say it anyway because they are a shitty person and want to insult you. In Russia, racism is so casual and normalized that you will see people, who are otherwise totally decent and nice, be racists and not bat an eye, because it's not even considered a bad or an inappropriate thing to do over there. Here's a scene from one of the most universally adored movies in russia, where the main character (who is otherwise portrayed as a kind, noble, and just individual) is being casually racist "you are not my brother, black-assed scum". The whole scene is made to show people of other ethnicity (in this case Armenians, I think) as dirty low-lives and the main character as a hero for dealing with them. There are multiple scenes and comments like that in the movie. If you shot something like that in the west (and it wasn't some social commentary but literally just meant as a cool moment) you would get cancelled into oblivion. Do you think somebody had an issue with it in Russia? No, it's considered a legendary, classical movie, with almost cult following.

If anyone wants to see a good sci-fi show, I recommend scavengers reign. The second season was cancelled unfortunately, but the first season is kind of a complete story anyway.

@Natasha Tori Marui see

I was referring to this. Imo, this argument is irrelevant. And you didn't mention any other reasons for why RO water might be "sub-optimal"

@Natasha Tori Maru@integral You know that the minerals you get from drinking water are a tiny fraction of what you get from your food, right? It's like 1% of your current daily mineral intake, lol.

Just through practice? Or will my brain always be very easily distractable?

No hate on him. But I just saw this video and wanted to share it. Do you think he is right? I feel like he is right in a sense that a lot of what he is saying about height, weight, looks, seems to come from his own direct experience of how he has been treated, even though he doesn't explicitly admit that. I don't think you get such negative views randomly and then randomly over-compensate by injecting steroids and becoming huge like a cow. He is clearly traumatized by his own life experiences. This was actual reality for him. All that is to say that you can choose to be an optimist and think positively. But the way attraction, looks, and dating work is pretty brutal and merciless in reality. And this is worsened by the social media brain rot and our low consciousness stage orange culture.

@Carl-Richard no it wouldn't. Because cave exploration isn't dumb.

@Carl-Richardit is "bad" in a sense that it is dumb as fuck.

Funny example of conformity - comments under cave exploration posts on reddit. I am 100% convinced that they are pure group think at this point. Every time there is a caving post, it's always the same hateful and derogatory comments about how dumb and unnecessary risky caving is, with literally zero thought to them.

I don't have a dedicated mental health practice. Or a routine in general. My life is a mess right now.

@Hojo thank you, great advise.

I want to know what lays in my near future. Like within a year from now. Mostly, I am interested in the areas of personal growth (including but not limited to spirituality), career, and romantic relationships.

I've been on a second date with this girl, and it went really well in general. The talking felt natural and smooth, moments of silence weren't uncomfortable, she initiated a lot of discussions. But I still am not sure if she is into me romantically or if she sees me as a friend. And I don't know how to properly break this barier of physical touch. Do I just take a risk and grab her hand? Do I ask her about it? Important note is that she is from my work place, so I am afraid of being too bold with her.

Exactly.