Cathal

@puporing hahah yeah i know what you mean, well i would hope the therapy is helping molding the life of a person who creates these relationships for themself because if we can learn to be as vunerable and truly open with people as we are with therapists then connection and bonding creates the feeling of acceptance and belonging the truth is about that i've realized is stop projecting therapists as authority figures and put the authority inside of yourself and you'll truly not give a shit what people think of you because realizing by being absolutely open about everything (as in being vunerable) you naturally attract the people who are right for you and not constantly worried about rejection or being alone - it's how you shift to the right attraction for yourself like you're a wild bird learning a new dance, it's hard and takes time but it really works

What was the most impactful insight that has been the most helpful in the sense you used that insight to transform yourself?

@softlyblossoming hmmmm wait ill msg u

@softlyblossoming no that's awesome, sounds like you found integrity knowing all the grasps of the illusion that perpuate suffering like you say. reminds me to keep strong on integrity. by far by far by far the most important thing too, integrity that no matter what we feel we can keep on seeking the kingdom

yeah that's a big one, trauma is not in your control but suffering is. suffering will force you to see that at some point... i donno, i don't think there's so much you can do. rationality and beliefs about how you feel make you go around in loops what we humans need is community, belonging, acceptance, sharing, friendship, relationships - the lack of it just fucks you hard and if you really look at your behaviours you're mostly seeking it out but it's usually dysfunctional

@Preety_India i have no idea really, what in your heart is okay for you? because that's all that matters, as long as you don't take your own beast out on her and you push yourself to create a boundary then you are good - otherwise it will also have its consequences i think you are a really nice person, people with a lot of misery need company

meditation is not going to bypass your mental issues but it will definitely help you see more clearly. a person who doesn't meditate will just go on being trapped by identifying with there thoughts and emotions but being able to be grounded in observing will help you take the right action - but it will not bypass at all any of your unresolved shit maybe try to reframe what you value so meditating even 30 minutes a day makes a lot more sense that what you actually do

sorry to hear you have to deal with that, fuck i understand it pretty well - all i would say is it's important to show your mother she can't just take her shit out on you. that's up to you to figure out maybe you must learn to use violence if necessary there will be a day you'll get out of it and it's best to just do what you have and leave it there don't let her behaviour cause you to do the same and don't let her step on you.

forgiving yourself is more of an understanding that goes beyond the dualistic perception of a story in your head about you and other people that you or them were done something right or wrong to a seperate you and is the recognition of just sin/error, just mistakes. loving kindness isn't enough because you are coming from a place of wanting to get rid of negative emotions that's why you keep coming back to them. this guilt and pain sticks because you still in somehow believe there was something inherently wrong, bad, evil about what happened, what you have done or what another has done. you must see your innocence until you can truly let go, that's all i have to say because i broke my head over trying to forgive and realizing your innocence is a lot of work - that you nor anyone has done anything wrong, ever. true compassion has to be seen within yourself

Do you think your intuition is the guiding intelligence of you as essence unobstructed by ego desires as you keep taking on forms/life to life?

@Nadosa do you think you don't need to work on your experience of the character/personality?

what exactly does self-love mean to you? because when i'm doing self-love i feel like i'm torturing myself sometimes, confronting my shadows and whatever the fuck

metta has been invaluable to me, I describe it to myself as duality dissolver, you should notice when you are sending whole heartedly intented love to people who you may think have wrong you or you have old attachments to, it can be a very intense experience sometimes and remind you to smile at all of confusion it's also just a powerful practice all around and very easy to be with a feeling, i think i can fall deeper faster into stages relaxation by softening tension and resistance with the loving kindness intention just having that intention to bring kindness to a heavy heart will bring out whatever needs to come out, you don't have to feel any kind of warmth and infact i spent months at the beginning just feeling all kinds of painful cold energy and tensions and just bleh

@Ulax seeing your innocence clearly through a realization you can see it in everyone else and there's a great sadness but also great love and that has been the most transformative thing so far @Breakingthewall yes, this i also remember realizing this it was quite funny. everything is exactly 'just as it is' and that's all, all just is and ends there. it's beautiful

@PurpleTree no Just become aligned with your authenticity because the thing is just see it like this, whether you try hard or give up will make 0 difference on the ratio of people you make comfortable or uncomfortable and the beauty in it is once you talk/meet with people while not hiding anything you feel far more relaxed and accepted and you can actually enjoy company and all of these fears don't bother you like they do when you're trying so hard

The belief systems around you getting your needs met. As in that part of you that thinks you need to have/be something you're not to get what you desire, there's nothing wrong with anything you have written but at the same time you need to understand yourself better if you want to stop falling into your patterns over and over

shamanic breathing broda If you want to join a free online class, try here although it's more emotional healing the things people describe doing this is pretty much flicking on your inner lsd

you're lucky she puts herself out there so you can do some shadow work on yourself and stop projecting your shitty tiny self to everything

the pleasure of being a victim

just play call of duty instead for real though right now the world doesn't need more soldiers fighting me vs you, we need people to fight to stop the fight of me vs you

the buddha said there were millions of buddhas before him and there will be millions after jesus was like i am the son of god, follow me for salvation - that was utter blashphemy to the people around him

Fuck the mental health system and find a real healer, a person realized as a healer who can actually help you

@Irina Wolf sounds like you're learning the lesson, compassion for those who hurt us when we realize they just project the very same pain they experience - it transcends all the pleasures you get from getting a one up - revenge, vengeful, superiority, definitely feels good. but true compassion really sets you free

@RMQualtrough I feel that lol