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@patricknotstar Actually I would like to hear your explanation or "ratinalization" to that. Keep in mind that you assumed that I wouldn't understand your point of view. If that is in the case, why would you ask others to help you to begin with? If you ask me, people don't need sex, but closeness with the loved ones and that can be your girl/boyfriend, casual friends or just your parents. Thing is that, if it is actually in the case that you can't have sex no matter what then which one is better approach to cry or to accept the situation. That which you can't/won't change, just accept that or otherwise take the action my bro.

@patricknotstar Obviously if you couldn't serve your needs you have 2 choices left. Either you are unhappy of the situation and needy or you could just stop caring about the situation. Real question is that why couldn't you suddenly have sex due to circumstances?

@Julian gabriel Point of emotions is to seek information from the moment and logic is that which you should use 100 % of the time when doing decision to really be optimal with the outcomes. It's illogical not to take account the emotions, but stupidity not use logic merely in decisions. This is not hard problem when you understand that these 2 have different purposes. You need first to know logically what outcome you want and there is in background always either fear of suffering or/and joy. Fear of suffering and joy are emotions that drive you. Lastly logic should be used to close this case with good decision.

GENERAL ADVICE Speak like you would speak to your grandma, give feedback like you would to your best friend and use proper grammar like you would write essay to your teacher. In everything you say use valid arguments, explanation and logic. If you decide to post then write with an intention to put smile on someone's face. SUGGESTION @Leo Gura We could actually have best comment of the month/week highlighted on every different discussion area, because that would increase motivation to post something very helpful. That would also increase quality of actualized.org overall. ACTUALLY VERY GOOD EXAMPLES @Hardkill It's not about how you see your own message, but how others see it. Point of communication is to express oneself as clearly as possible and if people understood your message wrongly then most likely you could have hone your tone how you represented it. I agree that it feels horrible when people take your words wrongly, but remember that only thing that you can do by yourself is to communicate as clearly as possible and everything outside of this is matter of luck from your point of perspective. Just use good manners and try not to hurt anyone's feelings and that will defend you from not getting ban. Of course people will anyways sometimes get angry from nothing, but as I said, you have no control of that. GOOD TOPIC TO READ -joNi-

@Brenzo2 WHAT? Where is this stated?

@SgtPepper Because the truth is that you need both intellectual understanding and experience. Without the another one you would/could deceive yourself. Without experience all that you have heard is just words that represents assumpitons of something else than what is. Without intellectual understanding all that you have experienced may be analyzed in the wrong way.

@Hello from Russia That was the reason I made 45 min long post just to show these arguments as a collection to Leo Gura so it could maybe have some impact to Leo taking an account that he is not stupid guy. @JuliusCaesar Partly right, but when kid is ready to know that (s)he ain't gonna get next candy? Point is that no one is "ready" and only thing you can do is to be ready to not to be ready and that negates whole thing

@WokeBloke If we start to redefine words then "my girlfriend" from this moment is equal to your mother Of course we can twist, screw and wring all definitions until we are happy with the definition, but remember that changing definitions does only make people even more confuced in spirituality. And as I said earlier "I" is very much assosiated to sense of self and without that how would "you" even know that you are something else and also does that sense of self guarantee that "you" are it. This is also very essential, because when there is no others, but not "I" then there is no one alone per se.

This Sphere is all there is and that one is "alone" and these smaller things inside of it are egos and there actually is not these separation lines, because ego or I does not exist. If for example A awakens by seeing that this separation was a thought that leads to death of this A and there wouldn't be A left. "I" is word for A, B, C, D, E, F and G and this sphere doesn't call itself as I, because "I" is one "part" of it. Therefore solipsism is right in a sense that there is only one thing, but the fact is that it is not "you". What is wrong is to think that A, B, C, D, E, F or G is the whole thing and only one that exists. Peace : )

@AuroraDream Exactly! And I would add that appreciate every little progress you do, because if you don't value your progress, where that motivation would then come from? You don't need to remove anything from your diet, but just replace that with little bit better, because if you would just remove things and have "free space" then that could be extremely dangerous time to get addicted again. Problem is not to still have cravings - problem is that you don't decrease amount of lost battles against cravings.

@Yoremo Point of spirituality is to make your life as good as possible and enjoy present moment as much as you can. Spirituality does not make suicide feel right thing to do, but actually what spirituality does is that you won't fear death in your daily basis so much. Also more spiritual and happy you are with your life less logic there is to kill yourself. Most can associate spirituality with suicide, because many people who already have suicidal thoughts end up discovering spirituality as last chance so to speak. And if you want to know more about spirituality - because you actually want to increase your happiness levels overall - there is almost zero risk. Higher risk you have if you wouldn't do spirituality at all so if you want to increase your chances of living then start spirituality right NOW. Trust me, because last thing I want for people is miserable life. I want everyone to find that happiness which I function 24 / 7, because that feels like I am king or something Every sensation feels remarkable, every experience is interesting and I am so happy that I start laughing for the fact that this moment exists right NOW. <3 If you want to do this kind of meditation you should put some limits of how much you can drown into thoughts and feelings, because if you just go closer to "unconscious" that is like you are about to fall in sleep and that's why you should have some point of meditation that you could sometimes come back to. You need to be so conscious of this moment that thoughts actually couldn't come. One tip for that is to let this breathing happen "automatically" and still have awarness in it. That would teach to be concentrated, but not participated in action. Second tip is to be really curious about your point of meditation which in this case is your breath. What is this breath? How does it feel and how do I feel it? Can I recognize it's location? Where does it come and where it goes? -joNi-

@Preety_India You could start by being that inspiration for yourself and to others : ) Most of us see positive traits in others, but few actually do anything in order to have these by themselfes. You know what you need to do, so go and do that. I know that you have one or two things in your "to do list" waiting your beautiful presence - so go and actually make something happen NOW. Also if you think yourself as worse than for example Leo that leads to worse action and therefore worse outcome than Leo and after that thought pattern you actually are worse than Leo and this loop feeds itself and you feel stuck. Does that sound familiar? Only reason you don't have your dream life right NOW is because you don't live like you have that right NOW and that is because you don't see that you have this right NOW. Take this comment as message from Universe to make difference on how you see yourself, how you see your life and how you act in your life. Also you may just read this and return to function like you have always done and to expect same results as you have always had. This life just works like you need to have clear intention to have something that is important for you. You can't just ask me once to give you 5 euros, but you should instead write to me essay about why should I give you 5 euros and to be honest I could actually maybe do that, if the essay is good enough Hope that I helped you and if I did then it's your turn to help yourself right NOW. <3 -joNi-

@Tamim Cut milk, sugar and wheat consuption and add water, veggies and lean protein to your diet. If you follow only that single advice I would be pretty sure that you would see progress at least on your well being and that is point of all this. Also eat more times a day "real" food. Good amount could be like 5 times. Any kind of physical activity should be advised and the point is not merely to push yourself to your limit, but actually start enjoying moving your body and that could be anything that just makes you happy. Then councel that almost nobody tells - treat your body like it is your best friend. Do you want to make it feel horribly or energetic and loved? Think this next time you think between buying chocolate bar and gym membership. Your body pretty much shows how (un)balanced you are and that could be sign of lack of motivation, unhappiness, unprocessed feelings etc. Start meditating and loving this present moment, because if you are not happy to live, how could you ever live so you could be happy to BE. Learn to love process instead of goal, because if only thing you want is to get these goals of course you would naturally set very easy goals such as eat chocolate bar, watch netflix and eat some more. Hope that I helped you : ) -joNi-

@Ulax Definition of prove is to have external source that validates truth of the claim. Then that next source needs to be validated based on the logic. A needs prove B that needs prove C which needs prove D and so on till it references to itself and becomes circular or continues infinitely. Only way out of that is that A proves it's own existence in some point. Direct experience is the prove for it itself and we don't need any unnecessary thinking and actually that would just make things more complicated.

@r0ckyreed That joke was actually pretty good . Also it is even funnier that you analyzed joke which only 2 meanings that it had were to make you laugh and see how easy it is to make an error. Most logical conclusion that you could have is to allow yourself to use feelings if that is the most rational thing to do. If we would stop making problems from nothing, problems would cease to exist.

@AlwaysJoggin Actually you are kind of right on this one. It does not matter which is your game you want to play and be better at as long as you enjoy doing that. Yeah you can definitely enjoy pushing yourself. That has also some practical uses like you learn self control, productivity and passion to do almost anything. Still aligning your work you do with things you want in your life is even more useful. Like cycling on exercise bike daily is great from the percpective of your fitness alone, but cycling to school does the same and also saves you money simultaneously. Think smartly, execute powerfully and live a life to the fullest : ) @puporing Yeah most people speculate all possible outcomes and still future is always a mystery.

@Thought Art Only "morals" there are, are yours. If eating meat makes you feel bad then do not do that. If dancing on the streets brings you in tears of joy then go for it. Just do what you think is right thing to do - It's as simple as that! Who is the main director of movie that you watch? Hope that this guy knows what you like <3

@Julian gabriel Actually there are many possibilities and therefore you need to contemplate that for yourself so no one could mislead you. You should ask yourself strong questions that lead to the understanding like "how does it make me feel when I am (not) being seen". According to maslow's hierarchy of needs one wants approval from others. Contemplation is a great habit, because it trains your thinking capacity, self knowledge and its result is knowing what to do. Share with me what you found after you thought that for couple of minutes and we can then have further analysis on this topic. Happy contemplation, you sweet : )

@eTorro What scares you even more is that this I AM is also an experience to be had so it is not you, becuse there is no you : ) You don't have to accept every experience you have - only those that you want to bring joy to "your" life God has no ego and therefore it does not choose one over another one.

@Jakuchu I am proud of you my bunny

@happyhappy Thing is that non existence would first need to exist so actually non existing kind of is impossible. Its like thoughtless thought and if that is not thought that ain't even a thought As I have said many times a row in this forum that actually "I" does not live forever and therefore there is not this problem to begin with about living forever and getting bored. Also there actually is not death in a sense that there was never a birth.

@Tristan12 Exactly! I just forgotted that food delivery was a thing and it does not even need taxi license if I am right. Ps. you could deliver tofu like in Initial D

@preventingdiabetes You could drive your friends from place A to place B and earn some money from it and at the same time you could enjoy driving. Also if possible in your country then go to drive taxi licence and you could actually do that for a living until you get bored to it if ever. Also I will little bit play with you so I give you video about rally downshift and only after learning to do that - driving becomes even funnier Just stay safe : )

@preventingdiabetes Actually that is what happens to almost everyone when they get license and in some point you may just want someone else to drive, because you understand it again how kingly it is just to sit on car and have someone to drive you to places. When you first get licence that makes you lot of more free, because you are NOW to decide wherever you go and whenever you come back. It's actually pretty heart warming to hear that people have problems of life being almost too fun Become child again and think everything as a game for yourself and that is how you transform your life to the fullest. Highest spiritual teach is just to be child and play in this infinite field of playground. You got the essence of life and whenever you get bored to that then find something else to be "addicted" like child to candy. Every spiritual teacher teaches not to cling on things, but if it is pure joy then that is something which is essence of life and that shouldn't be taken away : ) Learn to be happy in moment whatever it is and then you won the game per se. It's your life and do whatever you want, but be safe <3 -joNi-

@Judy2 Precisely my girl! ;D @ZenSwift If you you are completely in this moment without any thoughts and you don't label anything that is "experienced" then what is left is this "silenceness" and no content. If you don't label wall with a name wall and you look at it you actually do not know what you are looking to, because that is no particular thing therefore it is nothing. Everything feels empty without any content and ta - da you got this "exercise"