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@Manusia I have felt the same my whole my life until I finally understood to question that is being "outsider" really negative thing? Answer is VERY LOUD NO! It means that you are interested in things that aren't popular and that proves that at least you really have something you are really interested. People who follow others like a sheeps most likely will never understand the beauty of being and just existing. I don't care what some models say that you need acceptance from others, because I have strong opinion that you don't even need/care about others opinions after you accept yourself and see yourself as a KING! One good trick to make your life to seem extremely interesting to yourself is to think it like watching some really exciting movie and seeing it from first person view. Don't kid with me, because I know that there has happened lot of things that could count as a movie in your life when you really think about them. It's movie about main character facing really hard stuff, but still evolving and the most beautiful thing is that at some point that character will understand that the whole path (s)he walked was pure beauty and meant to happen just like it happened : ) Amen ? ? ? ?.

@Manusia You have done extremely good progress in just 6 hours today : ) ! I am proud of you, my friend. Remember that it doesn't matter what you find when you find your deepest state, because you already successed in your goal of finding your own nature; undrestanding that should completely delete your fear about it, because you see it as illogical. Also because you made progress alone only just with my little push it proves that you have very much strenght, but you haven't found it and therefore you don't believe to it yet. Also what comes to your ex situation I would advice you not to try save relationship too much, if it feels like collapsing 24/7. Imagine apartment house that needs all the time some external support. Would you go inside, if not live there? By that I mean there is no problem in trying to give something to relationship, but whole relationship shouldn't be based on your support alone, because that makes it stressing. Your contemplation about it was right, because yeah that makes you less "yourself".

@Manusia That already was very good introspection, my lovely bro! First thing that got to my mind is that first time you try to be independent and, if I would be you I would most likely think that am I ready for this change. Also knowing that the "safety net" is not as close as it used to be can bring some doubt, but you should only see what is happening right NOW and not think too much about the future, because knowing that you will be okay should make you more calm : ) It seems also that you see this whole change as a "test" for yourself and you may fear to see your true strenght which could be lower than you have thought. Actually the strenght does not matter at this point, because you are strenghtening already, because everything to this point has been right decision, because you did what you wanted to do and also you had guts to do like that. Next guestion - How do you know that the feeling in your body is negative and resisting something. Answer like "it feels like it" is not enough, because that can come from your own judgement of the feeling. Feel the feeling little bit and understand that it is okay to feel it, because as long as you think it is bad feeling you resist it. So it is not like the energy is resisting something, but you are resisting the energy and the energy increases from that resisting you do. With ultimate trust and love -joNi- <3

@Manusia Next thing I want you to do is to explain what exactly are you going through right NOW and maybe I can help in relieving some more tension from your body. What are you resisting? How would you want your life to unfold? I need little more context so I could more presicely give more useful advice to you. So lets dive little bit deeper to your mind and its thought process so we see where the main "problem" exists. When that problem is spotted it may dissapear incredibly fast : )

@Adodd When you feel that you are far away from where you want to be I think you are heading to wrong direction. It requires very deep wisdom to understand what was said in the first sentence. The problem is that you are heading to begin with and seeing goal in end results rather than in the path itself. While playing super mario you aren't sad when the game is not over, but actually you are extremely motivated to keep going. Threat life like a game which means to enjoy it to the fullest! -joNi-

@Manusia The not knowing is the best feeling ever, because it has mysterious and adventurous feeling in it. It is you who thinks that it is something bad, because you fear the worst all the time. As it was already answered above - SURRENDER! Things lose their negativity when you surrender. That is because the unconfortable feeling comes from resisting, so stop resisting bro : ) As an example lottery games wouldn't be so fun, if you knew the outcome already. So knowing robs out the thrill from the equation and you don't want that. Also not knowing is not some particular stage in life, but it is basic feature of life, so you better to accept it.

@Gianni You need to build trust to your inner wisdom and be confident around it. Also the more you use your intuition the clearer it becomes, because you start to see nuances that are happening in it. Become lonely wolf which does not need others' opinions! I am not saying that you shouldn't take advices from others to basic things, but your base level opinions, big picture dreams and plans should come from your heart and you should be pretty stable with them. Still I am not saying that you should be closed minded to deep wisdom from others. This thing is little bit confusing . -joNi-

@Tyler Durden I mean if you understand that you are right NOW talking to no one and this reply you read is only thing about "me" which exists NOW then I am okay with you talking to me about the dream you are having right NOW. Yeah, you can have deeper understanding from the dream characters, but your own opinion about things is the most important thing and, if you ask this question in order you to process your own opininion then that is reasonable.

@Tyler Durden I think that even when they gave you clear hint in a movie format and you still ask the question from me - the one who is scripted to your "reality" - is pretty weird, isn't it?

@King Merk You struggle against murder, because you don't accept knowing that "others" are being hurt, but first of all you imagine that there are others who are being hurt. You will live everyone else's life at some point and that is why they say that you are all alone, because there is only one having these lifes. You can't minimize suffering, because all possible situations will happen; even the opposite of everything you do. If you help someone then in other life you will not help them which leads you to have new life of being and not being helped. Knowing what I just said leads to one insight and one question most of the times. In absolute level there is no reason to help anyone so why would I continue doing it. My answer is that, if your only reason you help others is because you don't want them to suffer or you want them to feel better then stop immendiately. Take care of one "dream" at the time and focus having as much fun as possible in it enjoying every moment as well as possible. In absolute level even this does not make any difference, because you will have "dreams" where you did or didn't enjoy it based on what you did NOW. Just decide how you want this dream to unfold based on what makes you happy, because that is the only thing you need to do. It's like going to "dream at night" and obsessively trying to help dream characters only, because you think they are real. That is exactly what is happening right NOW, but you don't want to accept it for many reasons like that would make you feel sad and lonely, but my question for you is that what it changes if others are real or not. -joNi-

@lizz_luna I would suggest you to pursue happiness and beautiful experiences and go for so much material stuff you need to fulfill these 2 main guests. You know which things you want to deal with and what you see as bad things and you know what decision you really want to do. When you ask the answer from people on the forum, it automatically tells you that you do not have a trust for your deepest intelligence. This is new from me, but NOW I actually give concrete advice, which is to try some third eye meditation practices to build some intuition. You can "practice" intuition by leaving some room for gut feelings and one great way is to be mindful next time you are driving a car or walking and try to feel where you would like to go next - straight, left or right. Major thing to point out is that you shouldn't tell why you did the decision, but you should just leave it open. Feel that you are in the driver seat and you can go where ever you feel like you want to go; that is extremely freeing : ) -joNi-

@cjoseph90 There is no thing such as non-spiritual; what brings even a little bit joy counts as spiritual. Your deepest goal is to accept present moment as it is and everything you do in life is to either train you to love it or change it to something you could accept. Think it like you being video camera and your job is to capture as much and as beautiful content as possible. To do that you should be extremely mindful and happy no matter what the situation is.

@Someone here Also the burning sensation in chest can just be heartburn which is caused by acid reflux. Therefore you should clean your diet if possible and avoid things which can trigger it for example smoking and coffee. Think about it like that, anyways at some point when your doctor says to you that you will die in couple of months if you don't stop, you would stop, so why wouldn't do that stopping which happens anyways at some point NOW so what you win is better health with no cost.

@Someone here How hard it is not to smoke for 3 - 7 days and the biggest suffering is gone and you can start enjoying smoke free life. I never understood that people can't just accept couple days ultimate suffering and that's it. I have said it many times, but if you can't stop smoking, you don't appreciate your health enough. If all the time you go to smoke one your family member or friend would die, I guess you would stop to that point. Ask from yourself how you or/and your health is not enough motivation, but your family members are? Everyone who is addicted to someting is not mature enough, if you ask me.

@RareGodzilla Do that which makes you closer to your goal TODAY! Go to youtube and learn some basic yoga stretches, because starting it alone while you are finding coach, if you even need it after that, makes you progress faster. If when you read this you are like, hmm I don't have time to do that NOW, fine do one strech you learned from the school or somewhere else and do it right NOW, because doing anything starts the snowball and stops you from just thinking the thing to really put it into action. Don't think about being persistent when your first challenge is to start; you are thinking too much into the future and that prevents you from actually progressing.

@Realms of Wonder You use logic to cut all horrible possibilities away and intuition to choose between the almost equal options that are left. Thing is that you should always be logical, but you have to remember that to be logical you sometimes need to listen to your feelings, when it's their time, to get best choice. Intuition can go against common sense, but it doesn't matter as long as it provides great results. So the logical thing to do is that which is done bestly using the information and experience you have according to what has worked and what not.

@Gabith Power of letting go is not running away things until you survive, but to face these things until you see their true face which is not as scary as you thought in your mind. Life can feel exhausting when you have tried so much - based on your own internal analysis - but you still haven't reached the calm zone. The thing is that you haven't tried the right approach and you have exhauted yourself with your own deseptions. It is weird that when people are feeling negative emotions that they don't just start doing nothing; I mean I would and that is also called as meditation. Don't try to actively run away your sorrow, but surrender, feel it deeply until it dissolves.

@Gabith That's why we meditate when we are feeling overwhelmed, because we need relief when there is too much stress. Also you could interview me on whatsapp when we get it working on, but I don't want to be recorded though.

@Gabith What negative thoughts and feelings accpeting present moment as it is gives to you? Also what kind of videos are you making usually to youtube?

@Gabith If you don't like the life you are having right NOW it may seem pure hell to continue that life forever, but the thing is that, if you ask the one who is enjoying their life to the fullest, they will say that they want to live as long as possible. The point I am trying to make is that you will have infinite amount of dreams, but what is the problem, if you enjoy many of these. We could dive deeper to the topic by me asking you what is the saddest/most horrible thing in your life?

@Gesundheit2 What I was trying to say is that there is diamond front of people all the time, but they see it as garbage. I try to show people that they are seeing what they see "wrongly" and when that finally clicks to people they can come and thank me. This talking I am doing in absolute scale won't increase nor decrease happiness, but right NOW I am only doing it, because I like doing it. I like helping "other" people, because what else there is to do after you are as happy as you can all the time .

@machiavelli I have said it many times, point of life is to enjoy it. Also, if everything must happen then "bad" lifes will also need to happen at some point. However, if you want to have good life then you must learn to accept moment as it is. People just read my post and don't do anything. Right NOW understand how beautiful it is to exist.

@machiavelli Why would there be karma in what you do, if what you do is anyways automatical and who would give you your "penalty". Of course it is dream after dream forever, because there is infinite amount of dreams to be had and, if they are had one by one then it takes forever to completele all of them. Why would you have karma, because everything must happen so whose fault it is then, the dreams?

@Godishere Yeah I wanted to just make this forum little bit more accepting and loving and you could do that by not being too "aggressive" with the responses, even if it is true that it has been adviced to try psychedelics many times. I haven't yet tried psychedelics, but will, but still I can easily say that I am incredibly more stable and happy than the medium of this forum, thanks to contemplating, deep conversations and mindfulness. That's why I don't see psychedelics as a must thing.

@Godishere All roads lead to Rome. If one likes to contemplate and think about these things, what is the problem? It may or may not awaken you, who knows. Isn't living as you want the point of life anyways and no one actively does that what they don't want. People talk about psychedelics like they would instantly fix their lifes and if that is the case you should either have perfect life or you are stupid. We don't want shortcuts for the sake of skyrocketing to the destiny, because the goal is the path . -joNi-