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@Thought Art ok.

@Thought Art I was talking about the fact that I heard about the book. I just now researched that about the book again on Wikipedia. The Practice of Living Consciously The Practice of Self-Acceptance The Practice of Self-Responsibility The Practice of Self-Assertiveness The Practice of Living Purposefully The Practice of Personal Integrity This is what it showed.( I copy and pasted)

@Thought Art yeah I know about six pillars of self esteem. Thank you.

@universe overcoming the odds of life.

Any idea guys. My mind constantly puts the image of negative hypothetical scenarios of future, how I will angrily react in the future etc. Also during these exam days I am feeling very bad.I also have anger inside me like how people didn't allowed me to date by saying to study and I will get arranged marriage(which I don't want),. I become extremely angry when I see a couple and here in college couples are present all around me and during studying also these thoughts race through my mind - everyone has a girl except me. Sometimes I think of suicide but then I think that life is precious- once gone then can never be rejuvenated. I have painful memories from past racing all the time . How could I overcome this because I see that I am doing ok in my career and I am answerable in classes much more than those who are dating(they cheat in exams whereas I live with integrity). How to climb out of this black hole ?

@kenway maybe taking responsibility for my emotions is the way out ?

Yes I have watched Leo's video regarding it but I just have a question that what's the perspective of you guys and our Leo's recent perspective whether that video holds true ?

@Snader a mindset helped me to break out of it was - I cannot control what happens to me in future but I can control what I can do . I was having a bad practical exam and the next day it went well due to shift in the mindset. Even tough I cannot control what questions I will be given but I can control what answers I write in the theory exam .

Yes congratulations everyone even tough we don't know what's upcoming in the future.

Yes everybody is already resilient( the forum people and real life people including me) . I have been through all the tough times such as death of a loved one , trauma,threat(right now I realised that the person who threatened me is the don of college - so I atleast told him ethically that I was hurt by his threat, which could be a sign of courage),rejection,exam failure,jealousy etc.

By the way last year I approached 56 girls and got a one blowout. Also that totals up to near about 76. Which is the amount of girls I approached in my life including random + known girls. @nhoktinvt that's ok. However, I fear approaching random strangers because guys here are too insecure and threatening.And also I said "I love you " to 3 girls in my life. Thank you guys for the appreciation.

@universe yeah absolutely.

@CARDOZZO yes I am approaching the girls in my class but not strangers .

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I feeling very bad, suffering , angry etc. What must I do ? My friends advice me to cheat during exams but I don't listen to them and give the exam with integrity. As a result I have lowest GPA in my friend circle. @Leo Gura and others I need help.I study for almost every exam in my college from internals to semester exams.I am also active and I answer in the class. I do meditate (daily from 3 years) and contemplate. Is there a bright future for me ?

@Thought Art ok . Thank you.

@Thought Art Yes. No. Is it true for doing PhD outside India or abroad from a good university ? Like one has to give IELTS , GRE and have a descent GPA ( in other terms CGPA of 8.0 and above) which I don't have. Tommorow is my lab exam and I am fearful of it.

@Thought Art yeah integrity matters but I fear for my future due to my GPA and the harder I try to increase my GPA the more I become disappointed and angry because it is decreasing .

Mark Manson's both books and Ryan Holiday's book Obstacle is the way. Will again re read it .

By the way guys I have a question that how do I generate hope in my life if things suck ?

@UnbornTao from the book Obstacle is the way - main takeaway : Every negative situation has got something positive in it . From Mark Manson's 1st book - one must be honest and as I result it will produce success and happiness as side effect.

@Shawn Philips yes I have a medical condition and am on antidepressants for years since 2019 but how did you know it ? Is optimism a solution to my negative thoughts cause I have optimism as my root value which I discovered doing the exercises of Mark Manson's find your purpose course (the 3rd or 4th time )?

Is becoming aware of the thoughts and then focussing on one's career/life purpose the key ?

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@OBEler ok .