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Yeah I recognise that I am responsible for this problem but girls also play a part into it , which is not to say that I must blame girls which is precisely what my mind is doing , just separation of responsibility must take place in which I take responsibility for my actions , thoughts and emotions.

@Sugarcoat I am not sure as it is written in my diary with pen and I don't think people will understand my handwriting 😂.

No I am not sad but yesterday I felt angry , sad a mixture of it but now I am feeling normal. No I am not teenager , I am 23 years old. That post was for feeling sadness for continuous 2 days, now again emotional distress has come but I am practicing acceptance via shadow work.

😂Haha , I can share the insights too as I have more than 150 insights on - What is the most wisest way to live life ?

@Buck Edwards maybe you are talking about self acceptance of negative emotions which feels after rejection/,heartbreaker, right ?

@UnbornTao @Sugarcoat I already started contemplating since 2021 and now a these days I have stopped as I have generated too many insights. And yes @UnbornTao some people are not gonna like me or accept me which is a fact of life as I learned this from Mark Manson's connection course. Thanks.

@NoSelfSelf I think that I am already growing as negative emotions are key to growth and the topic was how to develop non reactivity which means how to develop detachment . Sorry dude but maybe that's a part truth not whole truth of the matter.

@Sugarcoat Ok. But your psychoanalysis is perfect in this case that's why I compared you to Jung 😃.

@Sugarcoat yeah maybe it's an internal/inner game problem as women's reactions are like up and down cycle. Maybe I could consider your analysis as Carl Jung's analysis as he was also in psychoanalysis 😂.

@NoSelfSelf why you are so rude all the time huh?

@UnbornTao sorry I didn't understand ?

Yeah and Is this mindset correct that my goal is not to have a girlfriend but practice vulnerability?

No but when I see them with their girlfriends , I feel inferior .

@Sugarcoat You are pointing me to interesting questions which answers I myself don't know or am struggling to know while thinking right now 😂. Maybe for the fact that I am not a player like them who behave narcisistically with other guys if they see them talking to their girlfriends haha,😂

@Sugarcoat because they don't want me.

@Sugarcoat As they call me brother. But your perspective is also interesting.

@Yeah Yeah I am 23 , the same thing I am struggling with but I am not suicidal due to it. It is not worth giving away your life due to someone else's choice.

@UnbornTao you journal aligns well with the practices of ACT therapy and acceptance component of shadow work.

@manuel bon Cole Hasting's Ultimate self mastery course. Type in the Google for it.

I was feeling sad , angry , was jealous and suffering for a few days due to not a having a girlfriend and my friends having girlfriends. I then after filling the shadow work worksheet from a different course(sorry @Leo Gura )started accepting the negative emotions and it went away . So they key with negative emotions and thoughts is to accept them due to which conunterintutively they lose their power over you.

@El Zapato Yeah I feel that I have some control over my life but not everything as there would always be external circumstances which one cannot control, people who wouldn't like you etc. What I have been doing lately is accepting what I cannot control.

Is exploring other's perspectives and questioning one's perspective like for example - Is it true that she hurted me ? a key for healing from anger due to past traumas , rejections , hurtful actions of others ?

@Majed It would be better for you to follow through with your psychiatrist and combine it with self help material.

@El Zapato Haha. So yeah , what I have gone through in college is nothing compared to the real world , right ?

@El Zapato Sorry, I feel bad for you . The situations I have faced is nothing compared to what you have faced in your life. You are way stronger than me . Even tough I am strong too.