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    I’m currently backpacking and it has been a very good experience socially. I would say it is a form of personal development if you treat it like one. It’s also a lot of fun.

    But yea, I have met some long term travellers who are running away from things or burning through mummy and daddy’s money and these people are not really developing themselves that much I don’t think.

  6. Posted

    Digital nomad is probably the most accessible way.

    Get a tech job at a chill startup that’s kinda small, as they don’t have to worry about the tax implications of you being abroad a lot. Or go freelance and get some clients, then you have total flexibility.

    I’m travelling for 10 months just now, and so far I’ve met a few people trying the travel vlog thing to make money while travelling and its always really cringy. None of them are unique in any way and none of them are making any money. 

    If you’re going to do it, you need to do something different. Focus on some kind of niche type of travel, like minimalism or no-plane travel for example.

  8. Posted

    8 hours ago, thierry said:

    Maybe, personally I’ve never seen an improvement due to plastic surgery. Generally the only improvement is in the eye of the one that did the plastic surgery cause they are so obsessed and focused on « fixing » what they believe to be ugly on themselves. 

    This kind of thinking is very vulnerable to selection bias, because you only ever notice the bad plastic surgery. 

    You never notice the good plastic surgery.

  9. Posted

    4 hours ago, Raze said:

    It’s pretty unlikely the condom will fail, and she’s lying about birth control / birth control fails, and she doesn’t want to take plan b or get an abortion.

    Fertility rates vary among men and women. In theory it’s possible for some woman to get pregnant from the tiniest amount of semen. And especially if you’re having sex multiple times in a row, that stuff is gonna get everywhere even if you’re using condoms.

    I don’t think women lie about birth control that much, but they do suck at taking it properly just like most men suck at using condoms properly.

    As bad as this sounds, most women are pretty irrational when it comes to making decisions about kids. Even if they say they’ll get an abortion beforehand, when it comes down to it, the emotions involved are intense and even if having a kid is the worst possible decision for both of your lives, she may want to keep it because of motherly instincts which make no sense to us as guys.

     

  10. Posted

    You must give off very different vibes in real life from on this forum lol

    Honestly it’s not a huge deal. Nothing is more of a turn off to women than guys obsessing over being perceived as a stereotypical bad boy when they aren’t. Just playfully respond to the comment and move on with your life

    FWIW I get that comment a fair bit from older, cougar type ladies. I think it is a pretty good way for them to identify guys who would be down for that kind of age gap setup. 

  12. Posted · Edited by something_else

    I want to start by saying that I wouldn’t say I’m a pickup artist, I don’t think it’s a great term. I like going out and partying to have fun, and I like chatting to girls and seeing where it goes.

    This is also a bit of a ramble formed from some recent experiences, so sorry in advance, but maybe someone has some insight! Anyway, here goes.

    I’ve done pretty well with women, for the most part. I know how to flirt, escalate and also notice when women are not interested and leave them alone. But this has all mostly been with girls who are attractive but not ‘hot’, if that makes sense. 

    I’ve noticed a really consistent pattern with really attractive women in that I feel I’m able to be extremely flirty and sometimes they will often be flirty back, giving signs of interest, even making out at times, but never do they wanna do anything more than that.

    It sounds really bad to say this, but it’s starting to drive me crazy. It’s like being teased over and over, because I feel like I’m almost there but something is just off.

    Plenty of guys I’ve met while travelling don’t seem to have this issue. It seems so effortless for them to get with really attractive women.

    If it was a few instances I’d understand that it’s just bad luck, but this is a really consistent pattern, so it’s making me think there’s something about me that is the problem.

    My instinct for the root cause of this is that I’ve never been in the popular group socially. I’ve always gravitated towards the groups of introverts, people who didn’t quite fit in, if that makes sense. I enjoy that vibe so much more than being in groups of masculine extroverted guys, even though I feel like I can hold my own in those groups now that I’m older and more sociable.

    Part of me feels like the hot women (who would always have been extremely sociable and popular) see straight through me and realise that I’m still that shy and insecure nerd I’ve been for most of my life, even though I wouldn’t describe myself that way anymore. Does that make sense?

    As I said, this is mostly just a rant to get stuff off my chest, but maybe someone has some insight.

    Thanks :)

  15. Posted

    7 hours ago, Emotionalmosquito said:

    “Don’t worry if you look weird or embarrass yourself. It’s all in you head, bro. It’s a much bigger deal to you than it is to them. After ten minutes go by, she’ll have completely forgotten about you or won’t care anymore.”

    “Approaching in a smaller city is likely to get you a negative reputation.”

    These two takes on the matter are 100% at odds with each other. You may pick only one. Which is it?

    They aren’t at odds with each other at all. The scale of the city makes a huge difference. In a large city with 8mil people the former is true. In a 100k city the later is true.

    Also the scale of your social fuck ups makes a difference too. The more people in a city the weirder you have to be to build up a reputation, so if you are seriously under-socialised then moving to a bigger city gives you much more breathing room to fuck things up while you are learning how not to be a weirdo.

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    4 minutes ago, Osaid said:

    Isn't it the other way around? Apple literally purposefully slowed down their software through their updates and got in massive shit for being exposed for it.

    This was done to preserve battery on older devices because modern iOS versions naturally used more CPU, and were burning through the smaller older batteries super quick.

    Better to have a slower device with passable battery than a faster device which runs out in an hour or two.

    I think the feature is also toggleable now too.

    As for not supporting stuff, yea, that’s very annoying. It’s designed to keep you in their ecosystem and use their products, which is ethically bad. But as long as you stay in the Apple ecosystem one of their top priorities is to give you as smooth and high quality an experience as possible.

  18. Posted · Edited by something_else

    7 hours ago, Osaid said:

    Bad company and bad products. Apple has proven time and time again their priority is not the quality or consumers, just profit. Do yourself a favour.

    Ethically a terrible company yea, but their products are not bad. Quality wise they are pretty top notch. There are iPhone 5’s or older out in the world which still work reasonably well. Any Android phone from that long ago would be broken or unusable.

    And I like, maybe even prefer, Android, it’s not like I’m a fanboy or anything.

  19. Posted

    I met a guy in an hostel recently, we chatted a bit, and then we met a group of three girls there too.

    The guy was like a stereotypical alpha, always tryna be the center of attention, making decisions, funny, confident. I was being much more chill, and talking here or there, making occasional jokes, not high energy at all cos I was jet lagged as fuck.

    Typical dating advice would tell you that what he was doing would be considered far more attractive, but once he left the amount of shit the girls talked about him was insane. They were not into him at all and said they found him very annoying. Turns out they were all in relationships anyway so maybe that had an impact, but it changed my perspective a lot.

  20. Posted

    3 hours ago, Israfil said:

    You don't want your daughter to have a kid with some horndog that does nothing in life but complain about their situation and annoy people on the streets. So we created environments and social norms to ensure that properly developed and socially apt people have more chances of having sex.  If you want to have a fulfilling sexual life, that will come when you develop the rest of it. 

    Really well said

  22. Posted

    5 hours ago, Emotionalmosquito said:

    What is cold approach if not spam approaching people to up your social game through practice? Leo even suggested to me directly to go to college campuses and talk to the girls there for cold approach practice. I thought spam approaching was most of what pickup is? 

    If you are in uni, you should start by:

    • going to hobby/interest clubs and societies
    • going to uni parties and cold approaching women
    • going to clubs and cold approaching women
    • just generally building up a social circle

    If you are avoiding all of these mind-numbingly easy ways to meet women in uni in favour of spam approaching them on campus streets, then you are an S tier dumbass.

    If you're not in uni, the same list of starting points applies to be honest, it's just a lot harder to do these things outside of uni.

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    I thought spam approaching was most of what pickup is? 

    Yes but choosing your location is really important. Pickup almost brainwashes you into doing cold approach on the streets like a door to door salesmen, when for most guys this is such an awful option. Especially if you are new and just trying to build up some social skills.

  23. Posted

    If you want an unhealthy relationship where a guy spends lots of money on you, you could probably find that quite easily. But you need to ask if that would actually make you truly satisfied.

    if you want a healthy and rewarding relationship where a guy spends lots of money on you, the only way for that to work is if you offer lots of value to a man yourself in return. Most likely that will be through looks and a feminine personality.

  24. Posted

    10 hours ago, bebotalk said:

    Nobody dies without sex. At best it's a lesser-order "need". there are people who are celibate for life, or only need sex once a month or week. those who say it's a need are projecting. 

    In theory if you put a person in an entirely isolated box for the rest of their life with access to food and water, but without any social interaction at all, they will survive.

    But the stress of that situation will cause your body to have all sorts of ailments you wouldn’t otherwise have, and you may die 20 years earlier than you should. Stress is a deadly killer.

    Not being loved will create enormous stress in your life and cause you all sorts of indirect problems. 

  25. Posted · Edited by something_else

    7 hours ago, Emotionalmosquito said:

    Pardon the hateful talk in this screenshot and take note of what he’s saying 

    You just know this dude has zero social life at uni.

    If you can’t find socially acceptable ways to approach girls at uni and resort to bitterly spam approaching on campus streets, you’re doing several things wrong.

    If he looks half decent and got a couple of friends to go to some parties or clubs with he’d be totally fine, but instead he’s choosing possibly the most difficult way possible to get laid at uni and then complaining that it doesn’t work.