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All I’ll say is this frustration you experience is quite normal for guys. I don’t really know what else to say. It’s just something you have to learn to deal with and not care that much about. Eventually you’ll find a girl who hooks hard on you and will want to text you 24/7, but it takes a bit of effort

I mean this is pretty typical. It’s kinda annoying but it’s why you should focus on meeting girls in person more. In my experience texting girls you don’t already have a solid connection with is usually a bit of a minefield and sucks a lot of your mental energy which is prob what you are experiencing now

Dude are you delusional? What in the fuck. Please don’t do this. What are you even getting out of this…

Then you kinda need to work on that instead of girls. Girls can pick out unstable vibes a mile off

Wrote you off how? If you’re going to chat to lots of girls you have to be ready to face a lot of rejection too, it’s just part of it and it isn’t usually personal

Usually this kind of stuff happens when you are super invested in them and they are not that invested in you Us guys will invest in a girl pretty quick and we will stick with that decision, while girls typically will come and go with investment until you have sex because they’re still working out how they feel about you until that point This is a generalisation, to be clear If you also build up some abundance for yourself you can become a bit more immune to this, which I would recommend You wanna feel like you can go and meet lots of new girls weekly and reliably

I kind of just spontaneously dropped a couple tabs of acid last night, I wasn't expecting anything toooo crazy but it was by far and away the most intense trip I've had so far. It was a dosage I'd taken before (same dose from same strip of tabs) but it was not even comparable to previous trips. I don't know if it's because I took them spontaneously that I was more relaxed and open to the experience perhaps. But visually it was insane, like full open eye visuals of the room folding in on itself. The peak was kind of hard to put into words and I'm not sure how much of this is going to make any sense at all. But I'll do my best to try and explain it clearly lol It felt like an experience of consciousness as infinite. It felt like my consciousness had literally zoomed out and allowed me to experience the other structures of consciousness that I'm not normally aware of day to day. The best way I can think of to describe it was like experiencing all of reality as an infinite fern branch fractal, like the one in the picture below. It was like my day to day consciousness exists as a single leaf at a particular zoom level in that fractal, and then the acid zoomed out my perspective and allowed me to see that there are infinitely many leaves, infinitely many perspectives, all originally manifesting out of the same infinite material which was folding in on itself infinitely in a fractal pattern, almost like it was exploring itself? It was almost like every branch of the fern was another feeler being sent out to explore another facet of consciousness. And like each leaf was a different manifestation of the infinite nature of reality. Of which my life/ego/existence was just a single manifestation. I took them 16 hours ago, so I'm probably still under mild effects and it's possible this doesn't make that much sense at all, but it felt like an important enough experience to write down while it's still fresh in my mind. I'd say it's my first strongly mystical experience on psychedelics, so I figured I'd also share it too

A biological radar based on billions of years of evolved intuition is more powerful than most of the puny rational thought humans are capable of

IMO "being yourself" is a cliche way of saying "stop being anxious" When you are anxious, you are holding back your authentic personality, beliefs, values, out of fear of judgement. You are acting in a muted way that is intended to control and manipulate how others see you out of fear, rather than showing your true personality.

Look, I can't even really give you a concrete reason why I'm starting to not like that section, it's just something I've noticed that I've been feeling drained and frustrated whenever I get involved in any threads there. It could just be me There are men and women commenting in that section who post what I would call frustratingly selfish takes. With guys it's normally just pretty blatant sexism, misogyny or total lack of social tact, with women it's mostly "men are all terrible" type posts. So really we are agreeing. It's the lack of understanding for the other gender in both cases that bothers me I think. I just mentioned that it repels women because it is undeniable that it does and that is worth noting. Almost all of the major female posters on this forum are gone, that is not something to ignore.

The point I was implying with the 'illusion of value' part is something like this: If you have 100 people and 10 of them are going to be successful no matter what, then those 100 people take a course and 90 of them remain unsuccessful but those 10 people become successful afterwards, then course is not valuable. But those 10 people will attribute it to their success and they'll tell everyone about it. What you are really looking for are the courses that take people who would not have been successful otherwise and make them successful. That is real value. It's hard to argue against the idea that most self-help content is crappy. Because almost anyone can make self-help content no matter how qualified they are to do so. So naturally 90% of it is crap. It's just Sturgeon's law.

Of course. I think there is plenty of valuable content out there and I think overall the self-help industry is a valuable resource. But a lot of it is also not that valuable. Or it's the illusion of value. The problem is that it's possible to start your own self-help business for free based on nothing but pure marketing/fluff then try to exploit people's desires for a better life.

You've understood my point perfectly Most of the self help industry is marketing and grift

My only criticism of the forum is that I am actually starting to understand why women are repelled by the dating section. I don't really know if the dating section got worse recently or if it's me that's changed but it's actually starting to irk me slightly how bad some of the comments are from some people. As for Andrew Tate, I guess like JP he's probably the right role model for some people's stage of development. Most of his HU course looks like it's themed around marketing heavy businesses (grift), or stuff that you would want to be thinking about once you're already making good money (crypto and stocks). His website also gives off very very grifty vibes. The self help industry has this way of gaslighting you about grifty content, which makes sense because most of it is grift. But I don't really see anything in there about creating an innovative and valuable business which is really where I'd want to go with a course if I was going to pay for one. Maybe that's actually in there though, I don't know. I haven't actually seen enough of his content to know what I think of him as a person. General vibe is just hyper stage orange masculinity which again is not necessarily bad. But it has a tendency to influence young guys to behave like total dickheads and feel justified in it. Again, if you are a weak, shy, wimpy guy then that's growth for you. But it isn't going to make you into a well rounded man. It's going to move you more towards the man-child territory in the long term. It actually doesn't even matter if he directly encourages shitty behaviour, encouraging young guys to enter this space of thinking is often enough to inspire them towards misogynistic behaviour even if he himself doesn't directly encourage it.

I might be wrong on this point but I’m fairly certain Ehrlich detects acid and not the presence of NBOME I use that reagent to test for acid but I’ve never done any more thorough testing. Buying from a reputable vendor + ‘contains LSD’ is enough to satisfy my personal risk tolerance anyway. If I got it off some random dude I’d test more thoroughly

Most women are impressed by guys who are socially calibrated. They aren’t impressed by day game. I guarantee if you go up to 90% of women in the population and tell them you spend every Sunday approaching tons of women on the street they would not really be impressed by that But yea, if you talk to a girl you see confidently during the day naturally that’s very attractive. I think this is an important distinction to make

Are grifty marketing techniques really aiming for the stars though? I think that's my issue with a lot of money making self help courses like that. They teach you marketing fundamentally, which is alright, but true value comes before the marketing stage and is much harder to teach. You can't really teach it because if you could then everyone would do it and it would no longer be valuable. I remember watching a video about how to build a YouTube channel and the guy (who ran a popular comedy YT channel) said he would commonly have the following exchange over email: You can teach marketing but you can't really teach someone how to innovate and have good ideas.

I think if your business relies entirely (or even just substantially) on affiliate marketing it is very unstable. Stable businesses are ones that add lots of concrete value to the world in and of themseleves, like with a great product or exceptional advice/content. Affiliate marketing should be like something at the back of your mind that is nowhere near the core of your business. Like having amazon affiliate links in the description of your YT video for products you talk about or recommend. If you make some money through them great, but it isn't core to your business. Chances are if affiliate marketing is core to your business no one is going to take you seriously.

If you’re doing all the work to make a valuable brand/product then why not focus on monetising that instead of bothering with kinda grifty stuff like affiliate marketing? The secret sauce here is in making an innovative and valuable product/brand, not the affiliate marketing

Ehh, this is the kind of stuff that irks me. It's back to front. You should become an affiliate when you already have an established brand providing value to people rather than trying to establish your brand just to be an affiliate. The problem is going to be that no one is ever really going to take you that seriously if you are based entirely around affiliate marketing. Your word is never trustworthy because you're only in it to get paid. That's a pretty decent setup actually, nice.

'Following' and 'Learning to integrate values' are almost as far away from red as you can get, so that's kind of the wrong attitude to begin with. Your best bet to integrate red healthily is probably just to do stage red heavy stuff like sports or martial arts.

Affiliate marking is like grifting 101, almost no one without an established platform makes any money from it, it's not a skill based thing really Fair enough for the copywriting though. Out of curiosity how do you make the money for copywriting, is it like freelancing or something he encourages?

In what ways did you and others there make money?

Fair enough, well played Although, most of those do talk about their pretty heavy limitations. The biggest one is that this is so difficult to measure because it could easily just be that happiness causes people to get married rather than marriage causing happiness. Or as one of those studies put it: And it is also really difficult to measure happiness in the first place which is another issue. Especially over a long period of time.

This is a really sus thing to say. There are lots of problems with this sentence. Happiness is very very hard to measure. Happy people are more likely to get married, doesn't mean getting married makes you happy. 'Study after study' makes it sound like this is a sure thing, when it absolutely is not. Link even five clear cut studies making this point. If it's such a widespread and easily proved notion then that should be easy.