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As someone who’s done a lot of online dating, I’d rather be ghosted than lead on I understand it’s not always so cut or dry, sometimes you’re just seeing how things go and aren’t sure if you’d actually take things further But if you have no intention of going any further with a guy, just ghost them or politely move on. No matter how nice or polite they are

You sound very similar to me. I have received a lot of validation too but it never seems to stick and fix the core anxieties. I think what you have is likely just a very bad case of social anxiety. It’s most likely what I have too. I wish I knew the solution, honestly. Couple questions; Were you bullied as a kid? Are there ever times where you don’t feel like you have these anxieties about expressing yourself?

Lengthy, detailed communication is for later in the dating process. At the start you should be sending short, playful, fun messages. You shouldn't be that invested. Why is it that you care so much? So what? Just move onto the next girl. Girls will ghost you for any number of random reasons. It isn't their responsibility to make sure some random dude online doesn't get his feelings hurt, they have their own shit to care about.

I think he was being sarcastic

I could maybe see a micro dose being a good idea if you’re already an experienced tripper. But that’s about it. Anything more I’d bet $100 it ends badly. In my personal experience acid makes me just apocalyptically bad at expressing myself. And I get quite anxious when there is pressure/attention on me and I’ve taken a decent dose of acid.

I know one of the most common and dangerous combos is LSD and certain anti-depressants, but as far as I’ve heard SSRIs are alright. They supposedly dampen the high though. Please do your own research on this rather than relying on forums however. I have not researched this much, it’s just based on stuff I’ve heard and could be completely wrong. One of the disadvantages of psychedelics not being regulated is that you don’t always get a clean list of stuff you should never take them with, the doctor prob won’t tell you “don’t take acid when you’re on these anti-depressants or this medication” I’ve drank alcohol and been fine. Though the mix is not exactly complementary. It feels like the alcohol kills the acid effects a bit. Food is fine. Some people get nauseous on acid though and then food wouldn’t be ideal. I’ve eaten food and bad food and never had problems. Never tried caffeine really, don’t think it would cause any serious problems but the nausea/anxiety caffeine causes may be an issue for you

These women are probably not even going to tell you they have a BF even if you ask, so it makes no difference. If a girl wants you to leave her alone and she has a BF, that's going to be her immediate excuse, you don't need to do any digging or asking about it I mean it doesn't hurt you to ask if the girl has a BF. It simply isn't necessary, because if she is in a happy committed relationship she will tell you quickly and then you leave her alone Maybe it's worth it if you think she is leading you on, but again, in that case she would likely just lie. IMO it's better to just assume the girl is single until she tells you otherwise. It's smoother. Then again I mainly talk to girls out at night where the chance of them being single is probably substantially higher

It is something you need to be careful with so the caution is sensible. Honestly your best bet is to go out to a club or something and ask around for numbers. I’ve gotten a few numbers this way

Don't ask, if she has a boyfriend and you are trying to flirt with her she will tell you she has a boyfriend

Never buy anything from anyone online anywhere that doesn't have reviews. The dark web is reliable because any source you use will have reviews, and any good market will use an escrow system so if you don't get what you buy, the seller doesn't get their money. This is another reason never to buy psychedelics over the clearnet, it's almost always a scam unless you use it to arrange a meetup in person.

It would take some next level confidence to pull that off at most of the clubs I go to hahahaha It helps reduce the creep factor significantly as well. It transforms pickup into actually just becoming a sociable human being who wants to have a good time

Where are you going that you need to wear a suit? Lol Go to a bar or a casual night club, way more chill vibe, way more fun A good way to do solo is to make some guy friends when you first go in. Just talk to lots of people instead of focusing on talking to girls

i don’t blame you. But chill, you’ve got this my man. Take a break and let yourself detach from the situation. Trust me, it helps.

Man I go through weird phases with girls too. It’s never consistent. Sometimes I do great, sometimes I do awful and I get frustrated as hell. I don’t know why You’re talking to a decent amount of girls so you’re doing something right. Just keep meeting new girls and you’ll get through this period of frustration

Obsession with respect is usually a pitfall. Why do you care whether people respect you? if they don’t just move on and look for others who do. Don’t let it anger you. It reflects more on them than it does on you I’d bet most guys get heavily frustrated with girls at some point in their life. But then you can also look at the horrors that some guys bring upon some girls (and it’s not that rare) and you realise both genders are shitty to each other in their own ways. Guys don’t have it that bad all things considered

All I’ll say is this frustration you experience is quite normal for guys. I don’t really know what else to say. It’s just something you have to learn to deal with and not care that much about. Eventually you’ll find a girl who hooks hard on you and will want to text you 24/7, but it takes a bit of effort

I mean this is pretty typical. It’s kinda annoying but it’s why you should focus on meeting girls in person more. In my experience texting girls you don’t already have a solid connection with is usually a bit of a minefield and sucks a lot of your mental energy which is prob what you are experiencing now

Dude are you delusional? What in the fuck. Please don’t do this. What are you even getting out of this…

Then you kinda need to work on that instead of girls. Girls can pick out unstable vibes a mile off

Wrote you off how? If you’re going to chat to lots of girls you have to be ready to face a lot of rejection too, it’s just part of it and it isn’t usually personal

Usually this kind of stuff happens when you are super invested in them and they are not that invested in you Us guys will invest in a girl pretty quick and we will stick with that decision, while girls typically will come and go with investment until you have sex because they’re still working out how they feel about you until that point This is a generalisation, to be clear If you also build up some abundance for yourself you can become a bit more immune to this, which I would recommend You wanna feel like you can go and meet lots of new girls weekly and reliably

I kind of just spontaneously dropped a couple tabs of acid last night, I wasn't expecting anything toooo crazy but it was by far and away the most intense trip I've had so far. It was a dosage I'd taken before (same dose from same strip of tabs) but it was not even comparable to previous trips. I don't know if it's because I took them spontaneously that I was more relaxed and open to the experience perhaps. But visually it was insane, like full open eye visuals of the room folding in on itself. The peak was kind of hard to put into words and I'm not sure how much of this is going to make any sense at all. But I'll do my best to try and explain it clearly lol It felt like an experience of consciousness as infinite. It felt like my consciousness had literally zoomed out and allowed me to experience the other structures of consciousness that I'm not normally aware of day to day. The best way I can think of to describe it was like experiencing all of reality as an infinite fern branch fractal, like the one in the picture below. It was like my day to day consciousness exists as a single leaf at a particular zoom level in that fractal, and then the acid zoomed out my perspective and allowed me to see that there are infinitely many leaves, infinitely many perspectives, all originally manifesting out of the same infinite material which was folding in on itself infinitely in a fractal pattern, almost like it was exploring itself? It was almost like every branch of the fern was another feeler being sent out to explore another facet of consciousness. And like each leaf was a different manifestation of the infinite nature of reality. Of which my life/ego/existence was just a single manifestation. I took them 16 hours ago, so I'm probably still under mild effects and it's possible this doesn't make that much sense at all, but it felt like an important enough experience to write down while it's still fresh in my mind. I'd say it's my first strongly mystical experience on psychedelics, so I figured I'd also share it too

A biological radar based on billions of years of evolved intuition is more powerful than most of the puny rational thought humans are capable of

IMO "being yourself" is a cliche way of saying "stop being anxious" When you are anxious, you are holding back your authentic personality, beliefs, values, out of fear of judgement. You are acting in a muted way that is intended to control and manipulate how others see you out of fear, rather than showing your true personality.

Look, I can't even really give you a concrete reason why I'm starting to not like that section, it's just something I've noticed that I've been feeling drained and frustrated whenever I get involved in any threads there. It could just be me There are men and women commenting in that section who post what I would call frustratingly selfish takes. With guys it's normally just pretty blatant sexism, misogyny or total lack of social tact, with women it's mostly "men are all terrible" type posts. So really we are agreeing. It's the lack of understanding for the other gender in both cases that bothers me I think. I just mentioned that it repels women because it is undeniable that it does and that is worth noting. Almost all of the major female posters on this forum are gone, that is not something to ignore.