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if I eat 2 apples in 30 mins I’m going to feel fine, if I eat 10 apples in 30 minutes I’m going to feel sick If I do an intense 30 minute workout everyday I’m going to feel good and well exercised, if I do an intense 4 hour workout everyday I’m going to feel exhausted, drained and, overworked A small amount of something can be healthy while a large amount of the same thing is unhealthy. And that can change per person too. The amount of energy you lose jacking off is less than you’d lose from a healthy workout by a magnitude of like 10x. Your body produces semen at the same rate whether you ejaculate or not, so the only physical energy loss is the actual physical effort you use which is probably like 40 calories worth at most

I probably wouldn’t be thinking about sex that much for a day or two. But I could def get horny still if I wanted. Physically it’s just like a workout so whatever my normal recovery time is for a reasonably intense workout

I think that being extremely tired for over 30 mins after ejaculating makes you the special breed, not the other way around. Yea, you feel relaxed after cumming, you're supposed to. But it should last like 30 mins or less. The problem is that if you believe you're going to be exhausted and depleted after cumming then that becomes your reality, because of placebo and guilt. If you feel no guilt about it, it's just something you do and then you go back to your life as normal without being distracted as much by sexual thoughts and horniness. 95% of nofappers are creating guilt around masturbation and cumming. You did it here: This is the literal definition of sexual repression. If you cum, you're weak. You're a coomer. You're shameful and evil. That's what you believe. That is sexual repression. it's the same shit religions have done for thousands of years. Biologically you're programmed to impregnate as many women as you possibly can in your life. It would be the dumbest evolutionary trait ever if ejaculating made you weak and useless as a man. It makes you weak if you use it as an escape from actually being able to attract women, which a lot of guys do. But if you're not some nerd sitting alone in his man-cave for 16 hours every day and you can actually attract and sleep with girls then jerking off is not going to hurt you at all. Because someone said it, it must be true? This is also a woman! Imagine a man born in the 1940s saying that women shouldn't masturbate because it makes them a slut. That's equivalent, and you wouldn't take that seriously. It's just silly.

The reason is because they can sense that you're not actually attracted to them and you're only going for them because you think they'll be easy. People don't like being degraded like that. And women can sense that you're doing it.

I don't think that I would have even asked. in my head I'd like to think I'd have just given them space even if it the rejection made me feel bad, but who knows. Yea, thinking about it, you're right. Thank you for this external perspective. It's been helpful. The more I think about it, the more shit he did that I actually think reflects pretty badly on him. Notably, he admitted he was going to try and steal the girl off another guy we ended up talking to in a casino. He sat with both of them for like 45 mins, I assume trying to do just that. I can't imagine how irritated the dude must have been. So it's then kind of hypocritical for him to take issue when the other girl he'd set his sights on went for me instead. Oh well, I'd be lying if I said I didn't love chaotic nights out like this anyway. It's all part of the fun. But I did feel a bit guilty at the end, and I think the perspectives here have helped a lot, so thank you.

This is the funniest thing I’ve read today

yea, I think the fair conclusion is probably that neither of us were really in the right. It’s just a shitty turn of events I suppose, if the other girl had been into me it would’ve worked out better.

@Sucuk Ekmek @Carl-Richard Thanks for the re-assurance Well after he left we were alone sooo.... It's weird. Somehow the fact that all this happened made the sex soooo much hotter, which makes me feel like even more of a dick. Re-reading what I wrote, the only part of the narrative I left out is that much earlier in the night we'd agreed he would try to go for the girl I ended up with and I was gonna try to go for one of the other girls. But she wasn't interested in me in the end and the girl that we'd agreed he was gonna go for was. So I figure that makes it a bit worse. Or at the very least much more emasculating for him. I think you are right. I think that I could have handled it better when he came to me in the kitchen and maybe he would have been less upset. He wasn't really a loser. He doesn't seem to struggle with girls or guys too much. I think he'd just got his hopes up for this one girl and then got let down. I think if the roles were reversed, and I had to walk home alone knowing my friend was fucking the girl I'd got my hopes up for, I'd also feel pretty bad. We were actually pretty decent together as a team talking to girls, we had lots of fun and I am kind of sad that we won't be able to do it again.

No, no it is not ridiculous. Malls aren’t meant to be particularly sociable places and there’s a good chance you end up annoying or creeping girls out if you’re doing forward approaches. If you’re gonna talk to girls in a mall you gotta be more subtle, but honestly I wouldn’t say it’s a great place to begin with unless you have an actual reason to be there that isn’t picking up girls

Getting relaxed is pretty normal, it’s kinda the whole fuckin point

Why would your body care how much semen it has in it? Testosterone maybe but the amount of actual semen is not going to affect your mental well-being

If I remember correctly it produces semen at the same rate regardless of whether you ejaculate or not anyway

Those aren’t niggly little details, those are the entire basis of your argument. If you feel bad after cumming there is likely a reason for it, but your conclusion of physical energy loss seems very incorrect

Semen has like 5 calories and 200mg of protein per average ejaculation. You are losing as much energy and nutrients as a would be in like 5 cheerios.

I think it's pretty common for people to answer almost all personality tests with how they would like to be instead of how they really are, it's kind of a fundamental problem with them.

12/40 Though I feel like internally, I can be fairly narcissistic. But when I look at my external behaviour and how I act in the real world, I score quite low. I'm an only child, but I also would say I had bad social anxiety for my whole life, which as a combination might explain that. I also find it interesting how university students are getting increasingly more narcissistic as time goes on, according to the results page on that test.

He is an absolute dickhead of the highest order

Yea, the guy is a total tool. I do wonder how much blame the women involved should get. It's kinda hard to judge because I expect he used lots of really scummy methods to make them do his bidding. But at the same time I'm sure plenty were perfectly willing for the amount of money they made. I also find it exceptionally interesting to see how all of the dudes around him in that video react, or rather how they don't react. They don't seem to care or question him much at all. It's pretty disgusting.

It's not even that I think he'll get convicted for that necessarily, so much as it's a really good demonstration of how he incriminates himself just to show off. Here's the part of the 30 seconds or so of the video I'm talking about. You can watch the whole thing if you like. But this is the section where he literally and categorically admits to fraud. He said in one case a dude sent one of the girls working for him $1m. Don't know if it's true, but that's a lot of money for fraud.

There's a video of him literally admitting to scamming lonely guys. In it he talks happily about how he'd get Russian or Ukranian girls to meet American men online and ask them to send money for a visa, then if they agreed, they'd say they need a special visa that costs more because they are high risk, and if they agreed to that then they'd say they need money for a bank account they'll use when they arrive, and that they also need to buy flights etc. Then eventually they'd get like $10k from the guy. And he talks about it like this is just a normal ethical business that he's happily earned 10k in to split 50/50 with the girl. It's fraud and completely illegal. He just admits a lot of the sketchy shit he does to show off.

I don't think most suffering is the kind that produces deep trauma. Generally anything valuable that isn't immediate gratification requires some amount of suffering or sacrifice in order to obtain, for example. And most of that isn't traumatic.

It does, to a point. Suffering that induces deep trauma is probably not going to build character. Unless overcoming that trauma is something you put a lot of effort into. But the kind of suffering that is not going to give you any trauma is very good for personal growth and character building.

The thing is that unless you have the social parts of your life down, the higher consciousness parts are a lot harder to focus on. Well, for a lot of people anyway. Look at the hierarchy of needs. Sex and social security comes before actualisation. If you can’t focus on work because you want to explore sex, that’s not a bad thing. It’s your body telling you its priorities and you should listen.

Did you already cheat? Lol

Ask your roommate to take you out to meet girls, he’d probably make a good wingman lol Turn the jealousy into a strategic advantage