Miguel1

This is key.

Push-pull should be natural in the sense that there are things you don’t like about the girl, so you tease her about them or even push her harder away, depending on the things. Then there are things you like about her, which then will make you pull towards you. This is not a technique. It’s called being a high-quality human with standards and values.

There seems to be a lot of repressed anger coming out, which is understandable. I recommend giving that part much more attention. Perhaps you already are. I notice there are still gamey stuff in your list of no gamey steps. Things like seeding, consciously getting her to qualify herself to you, and to invest in you. Texting 2-3 days and testing the waters etc — all these are part of game. I am not saying not to qualify. But qualifying happens naturally when you have standards and are looking for a specific, higher quality woman. Vibe and feel her for 15 mins. If good, take number, with the premise of hanging out. After number, chat couple messages, then go for the date setting. It doesnt have to be more complicated than that. In fact, you could also set the date sometimes while talking to the girl, right there and then. Time and day.

In order to invite people into your events and circle, you still need to approach.

Today I learned a new concept in Aesthetic Intellignece: Aesthetic Sensitivity. https://share.google/aimode/Msdqj9LHoLQqCA2Nj - - - - - While we are at it, there is also Aesthetic Coherence. https://share.google/aimode/4kiieK5qw5va9HVu7

A few tears dropped reading this. But I am listening to quite emotional music as well. Anyway, solid first post. Everything you said is pretty spot on. I have been doing this transition as well. To the point where I don’t know if I should even meet women in nightclubs anymore. Seems like there’s just too much trash there. What would be a place where higher quality woman go to? Museums? Art events? @Natasha Tori Maru @Emerald where do people like you go to in the evenings after your free time (except trolling on the internet 😉). And I totally agree on the point that if a girl is attracted to all the gamey bs and asshole behaviour, this girl is not a high quality person (is not mentally stable, cannot self-regulate and is not psychologically developed) — and someone who I have never been able to build anything meaningful and deep with. As of now, they feel like completely waste of time and instead of wasting shit ton of valuavle time on them, it’s better to, as you said, focus on finding the few higher quality leads. Man its crazy how accurate our transitions away from game is, and the timing. I’ve also been privately talking to couple other members who are having same realizations but yours is just all the way. I resonate all the way. I realized we need to connect. Let me pm you. At the end of the day, I feel fucking awful and misaligned doing all the pickup bullshit. It served me until my mid twenties but its been 5 years. I was in a relationship since then, where we dedicated ourselves to developing integrity, truth and consciousness. Now that we separated and I have gone back to unconscious sexual marketplace, the contrast is disgusting.

This is beautifully made.

Wow, what a lovely thread. In my own experience, the more mature and conscious I become, the more graceful, aesthetic and beautiful my dancing becomes — and original! I started off as a hip hop dancer which is foundationally kinda aggressive and ugly, but nowadays I have developed my own style which has a hip hop foundation but is completely beyond it. And my music taste has totally transformed. From hip hop songs to majestic ones. One could call my dancing style ’Majestic’ nowadays. I still visit my foundations from time to time as it has its own beauty and its where my roots are from, but my developed style is just a completely different phenomena in its level of beauty. This thread gave me a bunch of clarity into understanding all this change. Thanks guys!

What can you expect from monkeys?

Leo is correct here. Women are generally more interested in feel good vibes and emotions, whereas men are more interested in hard facts and truths. Doesnt mean that neither are full of shit.

That’s how intelligent God is in hiding from itself.

I cant with your 7400 posts while using that profile picture

Wait until you realize that even in a community like this, theres too many people interested in crap. Also, go tell people in this thread how it is:

Again, you can understand where they are coming from, but not connect with them. That’s the whole point here. You can understand a stage red terrorist, but have zero emotional connection, nor any connection to them.

Then what is that but acting / having a character where you don’t tell your honest opinions but hide them?

You would be disagreeing with too many things if you were honest and authentic.

Lol, me at my peak social mood. Ask the few guys here who has gone out clubbing with me hah. I am not often in this mood tho, especially when going out solo. Or since I kinda know everyone in my city, being too hyper is counter productive. I just often chill, and let them come to me. I’m kinda a mini celebrity here.

Yes. I ”cry” about this here all the time. My nickname could be ”lonely” lol. As an extrovert, it is extra bad. Introverts have it easy doing this work, in so many freaking ways. I can make it manageable by socializing a ton to find a few rare gems here and there. I recently just broke up from a long term relationship so it definitely affects. In a year of socializing, I’m sure to find a few rare gems to add into my immediate circle of friends. Also, finding and focusing on your life purpose is another key to deal with loneliness. Getting more in touch with God is the ultimate solution. But this is not accesible for most.

I’m completely with you here.

Sounds like an effective way to jail in todays day and age. But sorry if I put words in your mouth, wasn’t the intention

I never studied John. But from the little I’ve seen from him, I’m surprised Leo gave him so much props. This guy is a complete loser.

Well, that’s a first! Imagine being able to discuss Leo’s work with your own two parents! I would feel so loved

I believe in your first comments on this thread, you let us understand that you are taking a more careful approach, seemingly you learned some lessons from Curt’s Podcast, and want to put those lessons into practice in this upcoming one? But now you seem to even prefer for them to see you as insane, and to be afraid of you? As long as you are clear on what you are doing man.

Easier to understand people, sure. But it turns into a game of acting where I pretend to relate with their worldview. Otherwise they sense the nonchalantness from me.

I just read the blogpost and yes, I agree with others here. Makes one think: what is the point of a normal human being (everyone in the audience) to consume / study this? Even if they do, they just close off and become defensive, which will definitely not lead anywhere good. Finally, you can come across very arrogant ’Mr. Above Everyone Else’, which is not good either for the same reasons. Every year I am more and more convinced this is a work you don’t intentionally go out to spread and teach others. If they want to learn, they come to you. As you said, this is too hardcore. I suggest toning the disclaimer down. I understand why you think it is so important, but at the same time, you are setting quite the impossible frame to begin with. As someone with a personality type where its core thrive is social harmony, and an absolute natural at it, and who has struggled their whole life to spread these more hardcore stuff to others.. you gotta be more subtle with it. If you want others to learn that is, which I assume is your goal, otherwise what’s the point? It’s a subtle skill to go into someone’s world and jujutsu them to open up to the possibility of something completely outside their paradigm. This is very different to having people intentionally entering your world to learn from you, where you can then be much more direct (Youtube), and even then you have to hold back (Solipsism video).