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@innerchild I am aware about this because on Netflix I saw a docu serieson Budda and his prime directive of life was to end suffering, so as he was searching gurus in his journey he came across people who thought if you go extreme with suffering then eventually you won't feel any suffering, so he would eat one grain of rice and not have water for days to transcend suffering, only to realise from one young girl who told him that if he would have a body he could end suffering... So he choose the middle way from that time ... And changed his way to transcend suffering... Ultimately he had a break through and attained enlightenment. (I don't know what is enlightenment) I have just told you a story I saw.

I recommend using the body awareness technique using a band to remind you to relax your body.@ZZZZ and daily meditation specially vipassana technique would be very Vipassana will give you the ability to be more aware of your body sensations and allow you to relax them more easily. Also mindfulness with labelling technique or the do nothing technique could be very helpful. The do nothing technique will allow all the repressed thoughts to come on the surface and you could gain more awareness towards them by the act of being aware of them over and over again through practice.Mindfullness with labelling will give you more awareness on the thinking mind and the feeling body as well as their relationship. Keeping an alarm 5 times a day to record your emotions is another good technique to deal with emotions. Also while recording your emotions become aware of the thoughts you were thinking at that time, you will gain clarity on how thoughts affect emotions. Finally I would suggest to read the book loving what is. I feel this book can be very powerful and so can the any above mentioned techniques. Exercising , gratitude and kindness can help you develop good moods too. All the best in your journey.

@wordsforliving I have not personally read the book on Sedona method but have watched Leo speaking about it once and I have used it too but I personally believe that you have to practice mindfulness by meditation inorder to make full use of this technique.Step 1 become aware of your emotion.Step 2 ask yourself if you could let go of the emotion.Step 3 ask your self if you would let go of the emotion.If the answer is no keep asking the question till you would actually let go.Finally Step 4 is Let go of the emotion.

Thank you for the info. Why don't you try this technique called the do nothing technique. It's a super technique to release thoughts you are hiding 1. Sit with your spine stretched straight. 2. Get comfortable in a place no one will disturb you. 3. Set your timer for 5/10/15/20/25/30/60 min or more whichever you are comfortable with. 4. Do nothing. As you do nothing, you will notice a lot of thoughts in the form of voices images or body sensations. As you become aware of them do nothing just allow them to occur.. As you see hear or feel them don't try to manipulate them don't try to resist them just be aware of it .. and that's it..please check out the vedio on actualized.org for better understanding. Use your breathing technique to get settled and them do this until your alarm goes off

@Serotoninluv thank you soooo much I too am your clasamate

@CoruptKirin I use freeletics bodyweight app.. It's awesome when you use the coach feature. There are many other apps too like 7 min workouts. Check funk Roberts and atlean X on YouTube too. Apart from that take care on your diet. I read a very funny posture once cheat on your girlfriend not on your diet ?

@Jamie Universe find your lif purpose or start thinking of it at least. It will bring everything into perspective.

@Ampresus hi how are you ? This is a very good time for you to think about your future.. See you got to be joining the workforce one day and have to be earning your living. But to earn more money you for to be giving value to the word less value is less salary. How will you do it ? How will you provide value ? I hope you realize that doing something you love and providing value will keep you in a better situation than doing something you don't love.. So think about what that dream job is going to be.. think about the what are your favourite subjects, think about your values and strengths.. having a vision of the future can help you finish all your homework and assignments as you will have perspective and will know that to reach somewhere you got to handle what you have at hand now.. All the best man hope you use this time effectively. Having a sense of purpose in school/college can be really powerful.

@Potential of course you must take the advise offered by the above people follow the mastery mindset have a vision follow your purpose or do whatever you find happiness/bliss/joy/flow/passion in. For emotions I suggest you welcome every emotion and observe it allowing and being aware of emotions is a very powerful way to deal with emotions. Also journalling is a very effective way in the long run.. consider making a common place journal it's super powerful I wish I new about this in school... Try setting your mood to feel bettwr this is a underestimated technique I hear no one talking about, I read this in the book the magic of thinking big where the author says that your mind is a thought producing machine and one though leads to another so if that is the case why don't we set good thoughts in our mind first thing in the morning the rest can be a domino effect. I encourage you to try out these techniques as even one thing you follow can change your life for the better.

@Average Investor thanks for the advise but I think it's pretty accurate cause of the types of answers I gave I would love being a leader or full of energy but that just not the way it is... @Wyatt ill take your advice for the development of strengths I would like to have :-)

@Michael569 i have already found it ... The journey towards that seems to be very long at the moment... Like I'm thinking of getting in another profession itself to use it as a stepping stone..

@wk197 find a purpose in life that will re energize you. Work on fitness and feeling good. It may be the best thing you work on.

@Thought Art hi I had a similar experience with health being my top value and I always engaged in the mist unhealthy behaviours.. However I have managed to change things over time I have backslided a lot and lot of times but 2020 I made it stick probably because of the people in my life too who supported me. In terms of relationships I always sucked in attracting girls but through personal development I learnt alot about the opposite sex and learnt to have sex too.. You can read books on relationships to better them see vedios hire a coach if you can but most importantly work on your self... If you have a will you will find the way(I read this line in one book I guess the one thing )

@SageModeAustin two months ago I was scolded by my boss for being honest .. he said are you a saint ?! Can't you lie and manage such small things ! I was so sad and angry after that conversation.. :-( I am a service guy ... I don't want to be a sales guy...

@a e l i you can do vedio calls with your friends and family.. practice starts at home..

@Buba possibly every one has a different technique that works for them I guess.. Could you share about this psychoanalysis and how it works and share the step wise procedure of how it's done ?

@Kiko okay.. I have personally not seen it but what is it about that series that scares you ? Is it some charecters in it or some animal or some environment that triggers the fear. Is it the thoughts about the charectors environment or animal that triggers the fear? Let's try things that work for you ? Every week we can try one technique ? Consider journalling your emotions and thoughts next time you feel such an episode for at least one week. You might come up with the answers yourself. Or at least gain some clarity and I sight on it, but do it regularly for a week and force yourself to think about why you are really getting so afraid? What is it about that thing you are getting so afraid of ? What are your thoughts about it ? Do you feel any body sensations while afraid ? Could your past be responsible for these emotions? How could you let go of the past ? How could you let go of the fear ? Could there be any breathing techniques that could make me calmer ? Journalling before, after or during your episode is your call..I think you could start by journalling every day in the morning..

@Kiko what it is about the night that terrifies you ? Like what kind of scary things do you imagine ?

@ShardMare get a girl friend and have real sex. Read books on attraction and about masculinity. Learn techniques of semen retention and pc exercises and penis massage Watch vedios where you can learn the art of seduction. Become aware that you are getting aroused looking at a electronic device and pixels on the screen.

@SerpaeTetra the thought of failure is the reason most people are unsuccessful, and the thought of pain is the reason most people suffer. Honestly I didn't understand what you are trying to say here could you describe it more ?

@Thought Art have a relationship with another male and see how that works.

@Name the most important thing about dealing with backsliding is knowing that homeostasis exists . When you are in the middle of backsliding observe yourself and think to your self that it's your duty to get back on track because that is what you want. And get back on track immediately. Make a thread on the journalling section and everytime you backslide eight about it, also write about the times you manage to stay away and how you feel then ... Bro this is 2020 a new decade the last decade is over this is our decade the decade of the self actualizers we are strong and no one and nothing keep us stuck except ourselves. Let's rise to this occasion of this new decade and not beat our selves us when we backslide in whatever endeavour but get back on track immediately instead. We can do it, you can do it, get back on track and work on something you really care about. I too struggled with porn alot but when I couldn't get it up after finally getting girlfriends I was depressed and even after that I quit after 2-3 years ... Man learn from my mistakes, you want to have the best sex ever you want to be more productive with time and not jack off to some pixels on the screen. Just do it man get back on track every time you are not watching it you are on the progress lane. All the best we will win because that what we want.

@lifeisagame you can also switch the pendulum to the extreme by not giving a fuck about what people think. Use affirmation and visualizations for like 3 to 4 months and see if anything changes .. Of course acceptance and compassion for yourself can be helpful too.. Another good way would be trying enquiry, Google 'the work' and see if that helps you 4 questions that can change your life. Most importantly if you think any of this information anybody has given you makes sense or is useful ask your self how will this change your behaviour.

@bewustgeluk try a new method of meditation.. a good magician has many tricks in his bag right ? I would suggest that guided meditation in actualized.org vedios where you keep pushing out if your skull.. Practice self love and acceptance learn how to hug your self maybe that would be helpful. Eliminate wheat, soy, corn, sugar, and dairy and see if it helps. Read some books on auto immune diseases. Use this lockdown as an opportunity to learn new skills or practice hobbies you did as a child.

@Rilles all I had to do was to stop bad habits like smoking,weed,junk food, porn and install new habits like reading meditating yoga exercise and pc exercise. This took like 5 years after a lot and lot of homeostasis.. and I'm still in doubt if the change is permanent or not cause it's been just 4 months.. But whatever it is however I thought I suffered and I was fundamentally flawed I never gave up and kept on trying again and again sometimes took me lot of time to get back on track but better late than never... Now I'm working on success in career which I have never really taken seriously all my life... And I have found my life purpose in the last 5 years (slow but I have found it throught the life purpose course) but I think to get there I need a intermediate step and get very successful first... So when you work on your self and change your self image and become more confident and high on integrity social anxiety seems to just melt away.. Practical advise to follow: find one thing most important to you and do it.. Then see how how your high on integrity... Social anxiety is just like performance anxiety the less you worry about it it will easily dis-solve.. Also not giving a fuck about what people think helps a lot.