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I don't think you are able to fix your current issue by just learning more about how the ego works or even getting a paradigm shift. I think you could consult more with your therapist about some techniques to discipline yourself and get yourself to focus on stuff that are important to you. You don't need high level stuff to fix your basic level needs.

I agree with you. However I think Leo just wants to be himself instead of being put on a pedistal here. So if anyone feels bullied from his response, I think they can talk with someone else on the forum. I do think Leo has toned down his aggressiveness after his apology post earlier.

Totally agree, there is just not a viable solution so we can only kick the can down the road till a chance appears.

Absolutely brilliant take! The problem with the conservative view is that not only does it sound negative, its ideal can only be actualized by a few while the over 90% majority suffer when they chase this narrow-minded dream. Better to accept reality as it is.

So I guess the relationship with your parents is very complicated to say the least. I know it is very hard, but you have to find a job and move out first. Get out of any toxic environments.

You have asked them to teach you before, right? If there are relationship issues, at least they could borrow you the car and perhaps you could ask your siblings to teach you?

It seems like your image of yourself is dependent on what other people think of you. I understand that is very hard to change, the urge for recognition when you've rarely experienced it is hard to overcome. You can do it Kobe style, use the hatred as fuel and take action. Start small and give yourself praise for anything you accomplish. Get a normal job, make some short videos with your phone, get into a skating social group, learn how to drive a car, connect more with your siblings/cousins, etc. You're not stuck, you only lack motivation. Everyone has been here, baby steps will become larger steps as you move forward. In the future when you look back, it is not where you are and what you have that you're proud of, but rather the journey you've been through and what kind of person you've become through the journey that will be your true source of confidence. The end is never sweet without the journey.

So we should learn how to scam and manipulate people?

This guy has nailed it. The heroes of today just don't see having a child as a necessity, if they're going to do something they're going to do it right. Countries that want to fix birthrate crisis should just find a way to legalize immigration I guess.

I disagree, conservatives are mostly idealistic and religious minded. They might appear to be truth seekers in some cases, but what they really want is to believe that the old world view still works and things should stay as they are. Most democrats are pragmatic and think in way that works objectively. I would say democrats are more realistic in this sense. However their disregard of moral standards and new ways of thinking about old values upsets conservatives.

I have felt the same way as you in the past, believing that only when I have accomplished something great and earned a lot of money can I love and accept myself. You are not incapable, it is only that the goal you've set for yourself is way too high to be achieved in a short amount of time. So in this situation your body would tend to feel that the effort is not worth it, because you cannot achieve greatness or become rich overnight, thus giving you the emotion of laziness. You're not in a bad place, it is your strong desire for the good things in life that is making you feel negatively about yourself. The way you're looking at things is not healthy, because you're placing judgement constantly on your condition whilst not comparing with yourself but with others. And I believe when you're comparing yourself with others, you're always comparing with them in the area they are strongest. If you give yourself space to find a job and gradually exercise, you can eventually get to a place you feel good about yourself step by step. Also you might find that you probably won't need to become rich and successful to be able to find happiness. Maybe you just want a hot girlfriend, the guys I know who can get hot girlfriends are not rich or successful. Depends on what you want, but you don't need to have everything to be happy.

If the bitcoin ETF gets approved, it might behave like the gold ETF in 2004 flying to the moon and never coming back.

I used to hate myself too. Then I gradually found a way to accept and love myself.............. as a fucking villian. Bring your expectations of yourself so goddamn low so that you actually will appreciate what you have NOW! I have nothing to lose, why not live another fucking day however I like?

If you value intelligence, then you will naturally be around people you look up to. The feeling you described being demoralized feels very real, it is a deep emotion in your condition. I used to fight this emotion all the time, I would try to study harder or work harder and chase more productivity. I would try to be friends with these people who I feel are doing great, and see if any of their attributes would rub off on me. Now I work at a large IC design company and I'm surrounded by excellent people, whenever this feeling occurs I just let it gradually sink in. I try to feel into the loss and emptiness of the entire emotion. Then when I'm alone sometimes I contemplate what I can do or why I'm feeling this way. I never find a real solution, but eventually I am just able to let it go. I'm still very happy that I've joined such a talented team and the IC industry has been rocking the past few years.

@Dodo I agree with you. I bought some bitcoin a while back, the next bitcoin halving is almost here. Everyone should join the revolution and learn about crypto!

You guys need to give Leo a break, I think he's already done enough. My opinion is that his current videos are all revolving around similar topics and the ideas that he's sharing recently are basically the same as before. I don't think he has anything significantly new to share, and until he does I say just let him live his life. You don't need any new videos from him, just do the work.

I think the results of therapy really depends on what you really want to get out of it. People who grow up from a toxic environment not only have a damaged sense of their own identity, they also have trouble functioning socially. And in life, social experiences and meaningful relationships are a big part of a person's fulfillment. I believe that a lot of people would think therapy doesn't do anything for them because the effects of therapy doesn't show immediately. Therapy only shows you how you are behaving in a disfunctional way, and the root cause of your psychological problems. But it does not enable you to fix those problems immediately, and there shouldn't be any medicine to fix yourself in a very short time. The person who has the troubled past normally would only be able to put their past behind once they've changed entirely. It's like if you were called stupid or poor during your entire youth, and then one day you've finally achieved something that made everyone think you're brilliant or allowed you to sell that business for a billion dollars. Then you would totally forget what happened before or not even care if people thought you were dumb or poor. You would be over your traumas. So the pain is actually in the NEED to become someone who can fulfill their desires. I believe the problem is also in this NEED to change. The difficulty of this situation is how the individual finds the path to accept what happened to them unconditionally, I think this is the true answer to the problem. However that is just too damn difficult so most people can only do personal development, hustle more at work, earn more success and then find themselves "worthy".

What I meant was like even if a car hit you when you were riding your bike, you most likely won't die. So you don't have to be too afraid, because the worst scenarios are not as bad as you think. Also Leo had a video about fear, not sure if it would help you but here it is:

He is a perceiver, opportunitist, and a con-man.

Life is a struggle. If you want to let go of that voice nagging you constantly, you probably have to give up getting your dream girl. However that's not what you want right? So your subconscious mind is pushing you to achieve your goal, but your body is reluctant to budge due to enormous amount of work that is required. I think you should clarify what you really want first, are you looking to satisfy your desire of lust or are you really looking for true love? Obtaining a higher income or improving your looks may not be the most straightforward way to achieve either case. Perhaps you could get a dating coach to help you?

Sounds like a good plan, the importance of cybersecurity is definitely going to skyrocket again in the near future. Do you have a job currently that is related to cybersecurity development? All you need to do is to locate a high paying job within a cybersecurity company, learn about what detailed skills and experiences you need to get that job. Then train yourself on the stuff that will get you the job, pay for courses if there are any to learn as quickly as possible. The interesting thing is that getting the job doesn't require you be an expert in that field, you only need the basic skills required for the job and the attitude that allows the interviewer to believe that you'd work your ass off if you get applied. You can train yourself further to be a real expert once you get into that company. Once you get in, we could say your income explodes almost overnight.

This is a question for everyone, doesn't your life purpose not necessarily allow you to escape wage slavery? From my experience, the higher the purpose, the harder it is to make income out of. Not everyone becomes rich, so maybe we shouldn't use wealth as an indicator of our success?

I remember seeing a Youtuber video that explains how getting rich doesn't necessarily have to do with being smart. Dumber people are more capable of pursuing wealth because they don't allow sopisticated thinking get in the way of their non-stop attempts to pursue their goals.

@Zoomy I think you shouldn't be judgemental about the whether this purpose is good or not. If you have game ideas that are market worthy, you should absolutely do it. If the market loves your games, you'd earn maybe a ton of money. Then you could climb out of the rat race if you choose and gradually pursue something higher. But I believe there is no external purpose other than what the consciousness that is observing the world thinks. Purpose is just a concept within people's heads, so don't let anyone tell you what you should do and just pursue what you want.

I totally agree with your post and your responses in this thread. Just ignore the other guy, I wonder if he has a girlfriend. If he's ever gotten a hot chick girlfriend before, maybe he would realize eventually that sex alone doesn't cut it.