mandyjw

Nonduality, no exclusion. You are even more wonderful and imperturbable than that state. Because there is no exclusion in actuality, you can only imagine such a thing as exclusion, and because there is no such thing as exclusion, it feels AWFUL to do so. So stop doing it. When you were a kid, a new pack of bubble gum made you blissful. Direct your mind again and again to go back to that state of complete sensitivity and full blown appreciation. It's everywhere, in everything.

I have to get outside in the cold everyday for a walk, run, ski, skate, etc. Also I drink tea or coffee, but still, I feel the same way a lot of the time. Are you taking vitamin D? Another thing that can help is focus on self care or a creative project. Or a good book can be the best of both worlds, it gets your focus on something else but also gives your body rest if that's what it's asking for.

Writing. Is. Magic.

You boys playing big balls with enlightenment picked the wrong game. There are no balls.

You mean it put you in the present-ing?

Eh, I'm just making it up as I go. The big bang. Obviously. Or that time your dad your looked at your mom. Or the day you got your driver's license. Or the fact that you decided to take the car out in the first place. I mean, obviously we can discern cause and effect, and should take responsibility when appropriate but there's no real reason to deep down believe that we are a piece of trash for making a mistake and hitting something with the car. Coincidently, that makes telling the truth and fessing up to the neighbor 100x easier than if we actually feel responsible on an inner level. It's a subtle distinction but worlds apart.

You aren't a noun, you're a verb, an activity, or not even that. The line from the song "are we human or are we dancer" finally makes sense to me now. Whenever anyone tells you you're something just turn it into a verb. "Me crazy? No. I'm just crazying right now." On second thought, yeah, maybe the monks are right and it's better to just shut up all the time.

You are no fun whatsoever. 0% fun. This is how we really feel about you though.

You know how when you want to learn a new skill or create a piece of art how you have to just jump in and do it knowing that you'll learn from your mistakes? And sometimes those mistakes and the willingness to make the best of them actually make you aware of some new technique that you wouldn't have discovered otherwise? I'm a glass artist and that's exactly my experience, I've discovered some really shocking things that way. Lets ponder three quotes and then consider your statements "You are God." "Man is made in the image of God." "Know thyself" I'm not infinitely intelligent, yet I also am. I absent mindedly put things in my refrigerator that should go there, but I also get brilliant insights out of no where sometimes. I know that my capability to learn is beyond what I can understand right now. I also know that I cannot excel if I don't allow myself to make mistakes. And I know that my mistakes often make the end product better, even if the end product is not actually ever the end product and creation never ends. I am a very silly fiction. I mean your intuition is right, but your attitude, will all due respect and love. Sucks. Signed, Godamndy (that's my name and God's mixed together. I quite like it, do you like it?

There is no responsible. Responsible implies preceding, coming before. There's no before. You can only be response able. God can only be response able. There's no preceding God. What you are is beyond primordial.

No, it makes them also God.

You mean God does not believe in the superiority of a perfect race of people like the Nazi's did? Disease is not imagination in exclusion to anything else being real. Often when we try to focus on health we're actually thinking thoughts of fear about disease. That fear is our true motivation, not health. No duality.

@28 cm unbuffed Good luck! I know that feeling. I personally think New York City is equally magical and terrifying, which adds to the magic, but I've only visited as a tourist. Gotta stay focused on your dreams though. Don't force it, stay focused and look for signs to guide you there. There might be something even more magical on the way to getting there you'll want to experience first.

I like to sleep toward the east. Intuitively designed my bedroom that way before I considered it, but I don't think it's a very big deal. Instead of trying to follow rules tap into your intuition and what feels good and natural for you.

God is so good, there's no bullshit. It's all just fertilizer for more beauty. Nonduality, means there isn't duality. But in order to say there's no duality, we must use the word duality. What a bunch of bullshit. So nonduality and duality are one. Except that's bullshit too, because there isn't "one" without duality and the possibility of "not one". You have teachers talking about levels and you have teachers denying levels. Believing in levels is a major problem. Believing that there are NOT levels is a major problem and still in order to believe there aren't levels, you must actually believe in the concept of levels just like in order to talk about nonduality, we must assume we know what duality is first. Watch like a HAWK what's pre-assumed. Here be dragons.

I have hypothyroidism and I just take the thyroid meds. I might delve into the issue further in the future, but for now my resources are better spent elsewhere. Personally, I'd cut back on the lifting, cut back on or cut out dairy and add in a lot of veggies. Add in sardines. Cut out the whey protein and rice protein. I'm finding that it's really tricky/expensive to get clean sources of protein that are healthy long term. That's quite a lot to ask your liver and kidneys to handle long term.

@lmfao When a master is in the flow of doing what they've mastered, like a master pianist, pro tennis player, etc, are they reflecting upon how they are doing?

Why not use that as clarification to be the Dad you wish you would've had? You don't have to sacrifice or give up any of your life dreams for your kid. Don't use your life dreams as an excuse to skip out on your kid and don't use your kid as an excuse to skip out on your life dreams. Either option is fear talking and making excuses. The kid might help you clarify the shit out of your life plans though. It might seem like you're making sacrifices. You've been given a gift. You can have your cake and eat it too. Really. You cannot ruin anyone else's life without their permission. Let yourself off the hook, drop this fear and then you'll be free to act from the heart. Also likewise your ex and her influence cannot effect you without you giving it permission. Is it easier to cut someone off so we aren't affected by them? It seems that way in the short term but that's only kicking the can down the road. We'll inevitably run into the same kind of thing down the road with another partner in some other way until we learn to face the issue.

Yes, both men and women do that. A lot of men (especially younger men) have a hard time reading women's hints, especially if they are ASD or anywhere near the autism spectrum. What to a woman is bold and obvious doesn't even register to a guy who is close the spectrum. It's incredibly frustrating and most women either give up or realize they have to take a risk and be blunt. Other people just flirt constantly just to entertain themselves and generally don't mean anything by it. If they act the same way with everyone, then it's just for fun.

Find something you care about more.

If you were the child what would you choose?

@Keyhole It doesn't matter if you do or don't have a relationship, no need to make any conclusions or promises to yourself about it to try to limit what may or may not happen in the future. You're free. Perfectly free, unconditionally free. Any limit of freedom you impose on yourself in order to protect yourself comes from some wound. We try to cover up the wound but that's where the light enters in.

I'm not even bisexual and I love looking at women. I love the female form. Maybe it's from art class and doing portraiture? I don't know. It goes to reason that men especially do also? And sometimes it's actually innocent? Is that weird? For sure, if you're being cheated on and it's not dealt with then you aren't safe in a relationship. But people often get so worried about partners cheating that they actually drive their partners to cheat, because you can't honestly feel connection with someone who is suspicious of you all the time. If I tell my 4 year old to not take a cookie from the cookie jar 20 times a day should really I expect her not to, or should I expect her to take the cookie? Yeah, I think the value is in seeing that we're still stuck in survival mode as a default, when really life is actually pretty amazing and we're missing the gift and not seeing the full potential.

@Preety_India It's not emotional abuse if a guy looks at another woman. I'm just pointing out that our minds have the tendency to create drama when there isn't any, or even to attract real drama and emotional abuse when we aren't focused on working toward what we want instead. This is one of the first times in history where women have real choice, and where survival isn't a huge all consuming concern. My own parents lived in some pretty extreme survival conditions, they built a log cabin together by themselves in the middle of the woods, dug their own well and lived there the first few years of their life together. I don't think a lot of couples today really learn how to work together when they don't have to. My dog was bred to hunt birds, so he instinctually knows how to catch one without me needing to teach him how. Our minds are trained to look for problems, but now in a safe environment without bears and blizzards and poison ivy, we hyper focus and pick at our partners instead. What kind of life could we create if we saw and complimented each other's strengths and dreamed and schemed together instead?

A lot of people have learned to talk negatively in order to connect with others. You seem really understanding of why they are the way that they are. Sometimes when we see that we missed out on something or were treated in a way that was not ideal, it gives us clarity on the kind of life we want to create for ourselves and others. This evolution thing is a co-creation and it only moves forward.