mandyjw

People love to do a lot of things. People like to compulsively eat ice cream but that doesn't make it a wise decision. Would you feel guilty about giving people advice on how to get the best deals on ice cream? Would you feel like that was a good use of your time?

Women commonly get cervical cancer as a result of having multiple partners as a result of being infected with HPV. That's why the HPV vaccine was developed but that only helps younger generations. We still don't know for sure how safe that vaccine is and many parents still don't vaccinate their girls and boys. Having casual sex is almost never worth the risk for a woman. It's not just that her friends will think she is a whore, she is actually engaging in reckless behavior taking in account everything. The views of sex and the normalcy of hookups that our stage orange society has is absolutely mad and ONLY favor men, even if it's sometimes sold as empowering for women, it's not. If men actually care AT ALL for women they would intend to have long term sexual relationships or have no sexual relationships. Anything else just perpetuates real risk, frustration and misery for everyone involved. Just because technology and medicine has come up with a few terrible bandaid solutions to a few of the risks women incur by having casual sex, does not make things equal.

Yes but reading the signs isn't nearly as powerful as appreciating the sky, moon, stars and planets in dumb thoughtless appreciation and wonder.

The best tip I have for success is to talk about money often and make it a fun subject, dreaming for the future, making goals, enjoying your progress together, researching and discussing saving and investing strategies together. My husband and I both have strengths and blind spots in different areas, and are both fairly frugal but not excessively, so we are a good couple. In the past I usually got really worried about money easily and he would have to talk me down from that. I'm trying to learn to do that for myself. He graduated college in the worst of the financial crisis with a degree in a hard hit industry. I had lived with my parents and started a business that turned out well while he was in school. For the first part of our marriage I made a lot more than he did and paid for the down payment for the house, mortgage, wedding and most of the bills, then after we had kids I wasn't able to work as much and his income rose and he took over most of the bills. We just shuffled bills around as it made sense at the time. I have heard that the best thing to do is combine your money if you are married. We still haven't combined ours. I know that I'm neurotic about money so I don't want to monitor all of his transactions because I'll be tempted to nitpick. I also have a business and an independent streak and it motivates me to easily see how much I make.

I seem to have lost the sense of insight and the seer of the insight. I seem to have believed so many crazy things, I seem to have done many crazy things, and yet there is nothing or no one to decide what's crazy and what's not crazy. My best understanding is to say that my craziness in practice was mostly a fear of being seen by others as crazy. Eckhart Tolle's description of crazy makes sense again, only know I know that what resonated with me then was the tip of an iceburg, not just the floating sheet of ice. It's funny to remember how BEWILDERED I have been in the past when my reality doesn't match up with other people reality. And how ridiculously fucking simple the depth of this stuff is. Every insight along the way was "REALITY ISN'T WHAT IT SEEMS!!!" screaming the same thing. I guess it's fun going from every facet of the diamond as you see it. "OH, that one reflected pink and blue!", "oh THAT one was an image of the entire rainbow, who knew?" You can't see the whole thing at once. I'm not sure why, maybe because either it would break you or it would be boring. Last night we ran out of milk and my husband said something about it and I said "why don't you go buy yourself some milk?". I ask him frequently to go buy a gallon of milk for the kids as soon as we run out so I assumed that he would buy a gallon. He left the house, went out and drove back with a single serve bottle. For himself. I'm so glad I've done all the spiritual work, because I laughed and made several jokes, and dramatically showed my bewilderment but I did not beat him to death with it. My reality is not your reality. Duh. "There are as many different worlds as there are perceivers."- Abraham Hicks

Great! That's so funny, I was thinking about jack o' lanterns lately and how they are pointers. Empty shells, imaginary faces with a light from within.

Go outside and sit it a pile of dirt until you see the wonder of it and love the pile of dirt as yourself. Then you know the fabric of the universe itself is love and satisfaction. Then it doesn't matter what you do, grand plans or otherwise, success or failure, it's all fulfillment.

I do. I wonder if it's because we leave that space so often, we're like a dog owner who is gone all day, and Source is like a dog that is so happy to see us when we finally return, it jumps all over us, pins us down and licks our faces and can't contain its excitement that we're finally back to play with it. Maybe it would act up so much if we didn't leave so often, I don't know it's just a guess.

I still don't know the difference between setting boundaries, letting people know how I feel and asking for what I need and unconsciously magnifying and perpetuating problems. The ego strengthens the more attention we give it, the ego of the conscious person dictating how we should act, yet the word is conscious for a reason, how do you not watch the ego and see the effects of the ego without law of attraction inflating it up? I have an awful back and forth of seeing the beauty in the small, unseen, ignored things, and feeling indignant that they should be overlooked less. 120 years ago a man took a lot of money that he had made in NYC and built a mansion here on a hill. No one had ever seen a mansion before, and now they had one in the center of their very poor town. People looked at it and saw physically manifested before them a shining example of wealth and success. There were many different energies and intentions placed upon that spot, many dreams were given birth to there. Then it burned down and the spot was just a memory and trees grew up around it and people went there to get drunk and threw their litter all over it until they moved away to bigger brighter more prosperous places. It was never before a more magical place.

It's fully possible to carve out space, while having a very busy even chaotic life. In fact, having all that chaos will make you want that peace more than anything. The trap of materialism is not the desire for things and experiences, it's also the belief that in choosing not to have them you can trade or buy for yourself some higher state. It's the belief that some circumstance will make you happy. It makes no difference if that circumstance is some low level pleasure, a life or environment conducive to meditation or enlightenment itself.

recognize The verb recognize comes from the Latin root words re (again) and cognoscere (to know) – literally “to know again” or “to identify.” understand (v.) Old English understandan "comprehend, grasp the idea of," probably literally "stand in the midst of," from under + standan "to stand" (see stand (v.)). If this is the meaning, the under is not the usual word meaning "beneath," but from Old English under, from PIE *nter- "between, among" (source also of Sanskrit antar "among, between," Latin inter "between, among," Greek entera "intestines;" see inter-). Related: Understood; understanding.

Being feminine has nothing to do with looks or how people see you but everything to do with how you perceive.

@FuriousGeorge I'm confused, what exactly are some examples of things you think she should do to be more feminine? Do you sense that she is holding back her feminine side to protect herself or fit in or do you want her to put on an act for you?

There are times when power flows through you strongly. They are judged by the mind as either intense joy, bliss states or intense pain, depression or anger. The mind perpetuates the state but if you can surrender right there (literally feels like you're going to die and you will watch the mind come up with all kinds of objections), take a belly breath, go into the body and feel the energy as just that, energy, something amazing happens. It's a kind of alchemy. Suffering is an opportunity, but it's always a missed opportunity because as soon as you take it it's not suffering anymore.

I remember a conversation I had years ago on another forum that had nothing to do with personal development, and I expressed my assumption that everyone recognized that very tendency in themselves. They enthusiastically corrected me and let me know I was bad and abnormal. This tendency goes deep, we enjoy being mad, we enjoy drama. Why else would people want to see any movie ever made or read any story? We enjoy misfortune, drama and conflict as long as it's made purposeful and transformational in the end. Only as long as we are a comfortable distance from it, of course. Being made in the image of God comes with all sorts of strange effects.

As a general rule women experience and more freely express the depths of emotions more intensely than men, so they hit the rock bottom "this is over, I'm done" feeling first. Initiating a breakup can sometimes be a way to test a man's stability and commitment, usually unconsciously. There are plenty of relationships where the woman is more stable and the man more emotional, so it's a trend, not a rule. Personal development is about being able to experience the full depth of emotions without becoming reactive.

@Guru Fat BastardSo THAT'S why the smell of freshly cut grass makes us so happy.

I have a hunch that you all may see some changes if you begin to pay more attention to the things you are seeing/(feeling) OUTSIDE of your meditation practice.

Trust that if life doesn't offer you the opportunity to take them with a clear conscience then they aren't part of your path just yet. Honest faith and desire to know truth/god/the nature of love itself is more powerful than any drug.

“He willeth we know that not only He taketh heed to noble things and to great, but also to little and to small, to low and to simple, to one and to other. And so meaneth He in that He saith: ALL MANNER OF THINGS shall be well. For He willeth we know that the least thing shall not be forgotten.” ― Julian of Norwich, Revelations of Divine Love

I haven't tried RASA but I've had experiences that make me believe in the power of transmissions, in all instances there was an element of love present. I would not try it unless I felt a real connection to either Ramaji or Ananda. You can only ever give to yourself so the transmission would be a deep awareness/feeling that they are you. Choose teachers and methods that deeply draw you in and resonate with you. Don't do something because it's supposed to work or worked for someone else. Don't close your mind to anything either. When the student is ready the teacher appears... often in in the strangest of places.

What is the position of your jaw when you meditate?

Julian of Norwich lived through the time of the black plague, had an awakening while she was very ill (with a different illness), very cool stuff. Her book Revelations of Divine Love is the first surviving book with a female author. About her history, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Julian_of_Norwich Quotes, https://www.goodreads.com/author/quotes/156980.Julian_of_Norwich The book, http://www.documentacatholicaomnia.eu/03d/1343-1398,_Julian._of_Norwich,_Revelations_Of_Divine_Love,_EN.pdf “All shall be well, and all shall be well and all manner of thing shall be well.” “Truth sees God, and wisdom contemplates God, and from these two comes a third, a holy and wonderful delight in God, who is love.” She compared Jesus to a mother, “Our Savior is our true Mother in whom we are endlessly born and out of whom we shall never come.”