Karmadhi

@see_on_see The way you find yourself is by experimenting different extremes until you find the healthy sweet spot. If you have been a super nice guy all your life and let people walk over you then it is a good idea to become a selfish prick for a while to finally find the sweet spot. A lot of people do not act natural because they have been repressed for so long they do not know what is natural to them. Experimenting with the other extreme by becoming TOO emotional will in the end help you find your true self, the sweet middle spot. This process of becoming too emotional is just part of the whole thing, it is not the end result. At least this is my interpretation on Leo's advice. I mean considering how shy and introverted he claims to have been (also average looking guy so not handsome either) and managed to attract very hot girls it shows the advice works. I think though it only works for emotionally repressed people like him, not for everyone. Side note: When i get drunk i also tend to be very loose and emotional and shit like that and many people have told me i become a lot more attractive compared to my sober self where i am a bit too serious and stiff. So being emotional as a guy does have benefits.

@Recursoinominado What is good about this?

@see_on_see This is great advice for emotionally repressed people like Leo used to be. Maybe you are natural at this shit so yeah it seems stupid. If you are very shy, introverted, cant show emotion, basically a soulless empty blank shell then this advice is a good way to swing back into a more human full of life state. It is very over the top but it is good advice for these kind of people. Considering a lot of people that watch this kind of stuff are like this then it is no suprise this advice is written here. If you want advice from an extrovert about getting girls then do not listen to LEO, his advice is for people that used to be like him.

@Thestarguitarist14 outside looks well : kind, caring, honest, affectionate, sexual, likes to please the guy so not selfish sex, smart, intellectual so reads shit not ignorant, ambitious, funny, not super need, open minded. I usually see good looking guys or guys with status or guys with natural charm and charisma get good girls even they are good guys. Usually guys have to resort to the douchebagness if they lack looks, drive or charm

@Thestarguitarist14 I have seen good guys with great girls. They usually back themselves with good looks, ambition, purpose etc not just emotional stiumation while being a total loser and taking 0 care of yourself

@Recursoinominado Yes you are very right. Do you believe in the emotional stimulation thing Leo preaches or do girls actually like some core substance like having your shit together, being independent, kind etc instead of just stimulating them all the time like a drug needle.

Hey guys, so i am a short guy, around 172 cm (5.75 feet) living in a country with very tall people. It has made me super insecure about my height especially regarding girls since almost 2/3 of girls here are a bit taller than me. I would say only like 25 percent of girls would be a little shorter than me (2-3cm) or legit shorter than me. On top of that the guys themselves are quite good looking compared to me and the girls tend to go for taller guys so i am in a difficult spot either way. The thing that makes me most insecure is that like 75 percent of girls i cant even consider dating since here culturally it is unacceptable for a girl to consider dating a guy shorter than her. It really hurts my self esteem. I try lifting and being fit and shit but still my height does not change obviously. I know you gonna say "just game good game bro" and that other stuff but that only works for the girls that would even consider dating me which are like 20 percent of all girls. Also even those have me as less of a preference since they can just pick the tall guys, especially if the short girl is somewhat pretty. Any help or advice please? (moving out of the country is not an option btw), i am around 20 years old

@Leo Gura You can give a girl emotional stimulation without being a dick and hurting her. This giving her lows is really not needed i think otherwise good guys would not get great girls

@Preety_India Could you define a good man please

@Recursoinominado Great advice, thank you. By the way i do lift weights and am pretty built, it is just the way girls talk about dating guys that are short than discourages the shit out of me

@andyjohnsonman Life is simple, reality is not.

@Preety_India If he was such a bad piece of shit how did you even get in a relationship with him? Take it as a learning experience. Personally i have been heartbroken too and it sucks but it is what it is. Notice that you might have done to others what he did to you. Maybe you were not abusive or mean but did you ever reject someone that was in love with you? The pain he felt would be close to what you are feeling. It is easy for us to blame others but all this pain is part of a big system where no one is really innocent or guilty. It just is. Nothing grows you emotionally than being fucked "metaphorically" from the opposite sex. It is good that you have evolved and are dating a good guy now who treats you well.

@Arcangelo Money is not important at all where i live unless you are like a millionare or something. I try to workout and am decently built and decent looking face (usually called cute but i guess its better than average or ugly so i ll take that). Personality i will try to focus on that for sure. Appreciate the responses though it was quite inspirational

@Leo Gura Fair point

@Leo Gura Ironic considering that the most successful guys with girls fail at giving them what they truly want. A normal guy could be better at giving girls what they truly want which is deep emotional intimacy but the Pick up artists are the people that get the most girls. Quite a paradox

@AtmoShark Ok fair point. So what would you suggest i do? Try to get girls taller than me or to try with the girls that are shorter than me.

@Recursoinominado LOL in Brazil girls are like 162 cm so of course 168 is cool. Imagine being 160 cm in Brazil. That is the reality i live. Would you still be cool with it? Also you have you have said you are attractive as fuck in your other posts. That also helps.

@Leo Gura I do not live in the USA like you do where you can just move and nobody cares. I come from a poor country into a wealthy country where i can have a good life, its just dating that sucks here. I gotta learn to deal with it not to move. Moving because of height is as silly as buying elevator shoes or doing heigh surgery to me.

@AtmoShark Love how people always use super famous people as examples. Tom Cruise is an actor, can we just compare a normal guy that does a normal job for a change? If you have to act in front of billions then ofc you ll have insane charisma. Owning your current height wont do shit if girl is turned off by your height if she is taller than you. Leo advice of focusing on only shorter or girls your height is better even if that means i can talk to 1/5 girls

@Michal__ I see the world around me. I see how ruthless and cruel girls are when it comes to finding a partner, how much choice they have. They screen you super hard, much harder than guys screen girls and every single small thing can be a deal breaker. No confidence? Fuck off then. No humor? Fuck off then. You re needy? Fuck off then. You are stiff? Fuck off then. You are short? Fuck off then. You are fat? Fuck off then. Your face i dont like? Fuck off then. You have no ambition? Fuck off then. You are poor? Fuck off then. You are stupid? Fuck off then. You dont lead? Fuck off then. You dont have interesting hobbies? Fuck off then. You are not loyal to me? Fuck off then. You are very logical? Fuck off then. Meanwhile the only fuck off a guy will give to a girl is if she is ugly or fat. So yeah (biased af rant but i want your opinion)

@AtmoShark It matters because females are hard wired to respond to a tall guy, you can get away with a lot more shit as a tall guy @narkuser I have considered buying those shoes, i will to give me an extra 1.5-2 inches.

@Leo Gura Good advice. Thank you. Only note is that there are no girls that short where i live. Its mostly 5.8-5.10 when i am 5.75 so yeah

@Michal__ That depends on your looks skill and country where you live. An averge looking, average skill guy will need like 50

@Timur I mean what are PUAs going to tell you? If you are average looking or short you are fucked? No ofc not, its bad for business. So they say this stuff like talk to 1000 girls and sleep with 5 of them woho. There is some truth to that though, it does help you built your skills and in that way it is good. However a good looking guy can sleep with like 1/5 girls easily as long as he is not socially retarted. With great game which can come either naturally or after 2000 approaches then yeah you can get laid by like 1/10 girls. It is like saying sleeping with girls is calculus exam so you have to learn math till grade 12 first before you can actually be successful in calculus. 2000 approaches is the metaphor for the 12 grade maths. If you are good looking or naturally charming with girls then the 2000 approaches thing is not needed

@Michal__ @Michal__ Alright, thank you for the advice