Karmadhi

Looks are important and you cannot deny it. BUT they are not essential, they are just a good thing to have if you have it. It is like being born rich compared to making yourself rich through work. That is the best analogy i can use when comparing good looking peeps with guys that build their game. Just dont get dating advice from good looking peeps plz because you ll feel depressed af when you see how little shit they have to do to get girls attracted to them

@Pernani Leo's video on dealing with break up is a good one. Personally, i do not have your experience even though i have experienced immense heart pain due to rejection. I doubt it is at the quantity that you are experiencing it however. My advice is to try to meet new people, date them and focus on with your life. If you have a great life to begin with, it will be harder to get needy attached. Also do a solo retreat somewhere. It will really help you embody the idea that you can be perfectly happy and at peace by yourself. Hope any of this helps

Alright guys. So this is a scene from the tv show Dark Season 3 (SPOILERS INCOMING). It is a show revolving time travel and many different timelines. In this scene the main character tries to kill himself, but because his older self already exists, time will not allow it to happen. No matter what he does, he cannot die since hs future already exists, meaning that every attempt taking his life has already failed, this making every attempt futile. He literally has no free will, everything is already determined. This is part of the mechanics of time travel and quantum mechanics. What if religion, when it said that everything "has been already written by god and your fate is decided" , what if this is what it actually meant. By religion i mean the prophets that wrote the holy books (Bible,Qouran). What if they were given this knowledge of time by the infinite intelligence of the universe since their consciousness was at superhuman levels? This to me shows the connection between spirituality and science. This is a little silly theory i had, take it with a grain of salt and be kind on your replies please

@Preety_India I agree that women are hard wired to respond to those attributes i mentioned but when they are taken too far it is a problem

@Preety_IndiaWell all the people i know that are kind and caring suck with girls though so i feel like there is a missing link here. Thank you for your replies though

@Preety_India Alright. So these assholes were kind caring honest confident funny and genouine in the beginning? If yes then i totally understand

@Preety_India I appreciate your reposnse but you did not understand my question fully. If a guy starts talking to a girl and she is rude, harsh, arrogant, bossy etc the guy will not like that at all. So why dont girls also get turned off by these asshole traits. I understand that only assholes approach girls BUT why do these girls sleep with them to begin with. If only homeless stinky people approached girls would girls sleep with them? Of course not they wouldnt. So why do they sleep with these assholes. I feel the reason is that they get attracted to that. Otherwise if these traits were purely negative then girls would have 0 desire to sleep with them if they demonstrated arrogance, assertivness, dominance, ruthlesness etc

@Preety_India I read your arguments. My question is simple and you always avoid it. Why dont girls reject guys for being assertive, dominant, arrogant and ruthless. If girls dislike people that treat them badly then these attributes should be a NO NO since they make you an abusive piece of shit in relationships. Would really appreciate a response.

@Cireeric What if your authentic self is not charismatic, expressive, flirtatious and whatever the hell all these people promote?

@Shin I ve read that book. It is very good but i tend to be more on the kind sweet caring side than the strong ruthless side naturally. Maybe life's difficulties will make me more like that, who knows. I am quite young.

@Preety_India I know plenty of good guys that try to get girls and they get friendzoned or rejected. I never saw the ruthless heartless player get a " you re a great guy but lets be friends instead" kinda text from a girl. It is not a coincidence that when a guy acts like he doesnt give a shit about the girl he gets her compared to being good to her. Even Leo has confirmed this among thousands of good guys who were treated like shit while being good to girls. Again, why dont girls reject guys if they act assertive, dominant, cocky, arrogant and brash. Answer this please

@somegirl You do not ask the rabbit how to hunt rabbits, you ask the wolf that is successful at hunting rabbits

@Preety_India If that was the case than good guys would be drowining in pussy while assholes would be starving for sex. In reality it is the opposite. You as a female want guys to treat you well but the issue is that most females do NOT go for the guys that treat them well. They go for the guys that make them FEEL the way they want to. Being treated good and feeling good are independent variables. Girls do not reward self actualized guys nearly as much as they reward scumbags. Maybe personally you are different but usually girls tend to be like this, especially between 18-25 years old. You can easily tell if a guy is a jerk of kind in a few dates so if girls were so selective on his kindness then they would not have issues at all. How about you punish guys if they are arrogant, assertive, over the top, cocky and dickish. That would be a nice change.

@Leo Gura Could you please tell me the "struggles" women have to face which are equal to those that men have to face, since you locked my post. Putting make up does not count since that is a choice and a good way for women to cheat their looks while men cant. Men also have to take care of themselves like going to gym, grooming etc. Slut shaming is no longer a big deal in western countries, calling a girl a slut now makes you a sexist asshole. Women get paid less but that is because they tend to have more agreeable personalities, not because they are strictly female. Women do not get cruelly punished for showing weakness like men do. Fear of being raped is the only valid one which i can think of.

@Thestarguitarist14 Because girls have insecurities and need validation. Not all girls are super hot and know they are hot and great. A lot of girls have guys they like not care about them and compliments can make their day if done at the right way and at the right moment. I dont like very hot girls because their personality tends to suck. They can have an amaizing life because of their hotness so they never bother investing on themselves. Also the competition for them is insane and not worth the work just for some sex. If i want sex with a hot girl i can just fuck a hooker, from a girl i want a good personality first

@Thestarguitarist14 All good except compliments. Compliments when done geniounly and strategically are very good, especially with decent girls (not super hot ones)

@Thestarguitarist14 Tell me then some ways to stimulate women emotionally

@Preety_India Could you give us some ways to stimulate her emotionally please? People on this forum always use that term but i never understood what it meant. Give me some examples please.

@somegirl There is nothing wrong with falling for a fuckboy and ignoring good guys. I have a problem when girls start crying after this about how guys are jerks and they cant find someone good for them. It is like eating only junk food because its tasty and then crying about how you are fat and food makes you fat. Learn to enjoy salad too not just junk. It might not be as addictive tasty but it is better for your well being overall.

So the title of the post is from a video from a youtuber. He is basically saying that girls all they have to do is look good and society will be a lot softer and nicer to them compared to guys where they have to perform, offer something besides their looks and be strong. If a guy does not do a lot with his life he is considered a loser or a failure while a girl can just marry a successful guy and society in general will overlook her poor performance if she looks good. Guys, even good looking ones do not have those freebies. I want your guys opinion on this. I know it sounds super biased towards guys (and it is) but i think there is some truth to it (just like there is some truth about every perspective). I personally have noticed this in western countries where i live where girls only have to offer looks to at least find a partner.

@Byun Sean Define a high quality man please I love your replies to my points. I do think they are great but there is 1 thing i disagree with. On point 3) i did not say great guy in terms of being nice guy. I am not saying a needy manipulative guy at all. I mean a geniounly kind caring honest cool person. You can be those things without being bold or assertive or dominant or charismatic. A stage green person so to speak. So you can be independent, grounded, decently confident and passionate about stuff without the qualities mentioned above

@Thestarguitarist14 Alright, thank you for your advice. Although a big problem i have is friend-zone problems. Girl loves me as a person but is not attracted to me. They don't see my as a sexual being at all. If i ever told them i liked them they would be surprised since i never made any moves.

@Thestarguitarist14 Attracting girls is a skill, its not something that is there. You are saying because you are 0 at playing the piano then you have no value. Of course i have a lot of value but i suck at specific things which you need to get girls attracted to you. I suck at flirting, leading, making moves, showing the girl i am into her, dont approach, a bit shy and serious.

@Byun Sean Good perspective but i have some points to make. 1. If a girl takes care of herself and looks decent she will get so much positive reinforcement, guys simping on her and society pleasing her than it will be hard for her to have low self esteem 2. Guys struggle about insecurities about looks too. Go on google and type: "Do looks matter", all answers will be regarding whether looks are important for a guy to have. Guys get tossed aside if they are unattractive just as harshly as girls get. (talking about developed countries here) 3. There are plenty of kind caring decent guys out there that will not dumb you and treat you well if a girl wants to date them. You can ignore the alpha traits and get treated super well by a great guy. Being alpha and being a great guy are independent variables. 4. Girls can always approach guys if they want and that gives them a huge advantage. Usually a girl can get a guy who usually wouldn't approach her just because she made it easy for him and since most guys hate approaching, it gives girls a cheat code to get guys since most girls never approach. 5. Even though girls have more need for intimacy than guys do, if guys try to act like they need love and affection then girls tend to loose attraction while guys dont care as long as the girl is hot The period and that they have limited time, want more intimacy etc arguments are legit. I would like to hear your opinion on the points i made here.

@Thestarguitarist14 It is a good start if you are 0. Then you can integrate what you teach after you have a base built