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Hello everyone! I know that is important for all of us to have a journal. The importance of having a journal is stated by many people. It's good having something to remember you how you were in the past what experiences have you gone through, how they changed you and how are you now, how can you improve something based on your past experiences. So how exactly do you start a journal? What is essential to write in your journal? What not to write in your journal? I'm more of tech guy, can I write it on my computer? If yes, do you use a specific app or it doesn't mater? I wanted to start holding a journal a while ago but I didn't know what to write, and if it will be of any use if I will write something there. Thanks!

@Consept Yeah, my needyness with women is one of the problems that's stoping me from getting them.... I know, objectively, it 's just how you look at it, it could be just a thing that everybody does therefore there's no need to feel ashamed or to have any kind of negative emotions towards it. But once you got into strong religious believes there's hard to see the things that way. I think that I want to stop it more to improve my overall well being than because it's a sin. I saw the major benefits of abstaining from doing it when I stopped it for 4 months when I was in another country. My social interactions were better, I could speak to girls more freely, my health was better, everything was improving.

@Mercy Hmm, I thought that I could us Grid Dairy but I've seen that it's only for ios , I'm using android.. So I started downloading OneNote immediatly Good goal! My typing speed is pretty average.(didn't measure it but I know). It will be good to look towards improving it as well

@Vibivub I will start keeping a journal the way you're keeping it now. Also, if you make improvements to it please let me know. Thank you!

@Arman Now, this is the kind of answer I was looking for. Relevant and insightful! Thank you! It's hard to master my psychology, especially my emotions, the hardest part for all of us, I think, is to deal with powerful emotions. Can you recommend me some good books on this matter, or just some good psychology books in general? Thanks again!

@Toby Easier said than done. I can't do it... I stopped doing it for a long period of time, wen I was in another country, 4 months exactly. There I had many enjoying activities and I just didn't think of it. But when I came home I've done it in the first week... Just couldn't hold it, I mean, what else to do when you're alone in your room? And with your laptop in you lap and phone in your hand... It's hard.

@Toby The question was stated in the title

Essentially how to stop masturbating and watching porn, for now... These are the things that bother me the most. Thanks! Any insights?

Hello! I have a little question. How do you manage to keep your calm regardless the situation? I mean, is part of the human nature to act strangely when fear kicks in, when unexpectable things happen. But what about this fear of public speaking, or talking to your crush? These are not situations which can endanger your life but yet your heart is pounding and you start trembling and sweating. Or is this happening just to me? Is there any way of stopping this sort of things from happening? To be really grounded in though situations? Thank you!

Hello everyone! It started last week when I realized that whatever I will do It will never make me enjoy that enough. I'm almost always in a bad mood always capable of turning angry even the happiest person. Is like a dark circle around me. Only when I do something great I feel contentment but that won't last and will barely alter my mood. I was always the most serious person on the planet which won't laugh at your jokes. I just don't find reasons to be enthusiastic, joyful, optimistic. But when I do, I quickly switch back to my pessimistic state because I know that that thing won't last, and I'm all the time in a sad mood. So, I'll ask you: Can you find/create an optimistic, full of enthusiasm state of mind that will last? Thank you!

Hello! I have heard of this term some time ago but still, it is not clear to me what it really is. I even took a test from which resulted that I have a very poor, below average Emotional Intelligence. Why is even important to be emotional intelligent? How can I develop it? Can you recommend me some good books helping me developing my emotional intelligence? Thank you!

Hello everyone! It all happened several weeks ago when I begun to notice that I have a poor sleep quality. Right before falling asleep I start thinking about all things that I've done during the day and I will do in the future. It seems like I'm writing an entire novel in my mind just before falling asleep. Because of this it's hard even to fall asleep sometimes. It's not only that which bothers me, but a major point is that I wake up in the middle of the night very often and doing so, I wake up in the morning with no energy for the rest of the day. So, my question comes to you... how can I sleep better during the night and wake up rested? Thank you!

@IndependantKouhai You're right about it, I think that the main reason that I can't sleep is that I'm getting anxious that I can't get to sleep. You see, I tend to go to sleep late and I'm thinking that I won't rest well enough in these remaining hours before dawn. So, I don't

Hey! I often find myself gazing in void or thinking of nothing. I also get "bored" fast and I start thinking of something else and sometimes I miss the best parts of the discussion. Most of the time I am not really present with all my being into the moment. My thoughts are carrying me in the past or future. I think that this prevent me also from having a genuine conversation. How can I stop this daydreaming? Any advice?

I am new to this concept. I did read a lot about this topic but I never went to actually practice it. I've also heard about the many benefits that this may offer and I really want to stick to it. So, what is the best kind of meditation you advise me to start with? I mention that I've tried to stay cross legged but this is kinda hard. And to stay straight is hard too. I've heard that some meditations are focusing on emptying your mind, but this is also very difficult to a newbie like me. Well, what is the easiest way to start with meditation?

Firstly, sorry for my poor English. I am not a native speaker. Last year, in my first year of college, I met a beautiful girl that I fell in love with instantly. That was love at first sight. Every time after that day I wanted to tell her what I feel but a barely could say hello to her. Every time that I met her my heart was pounding, my entire body was shaking and most importantly, I've lost all my words when I saw her. I needed nothing more but to see her. I spent many days (and I still do) thinking of her and after a while (a month or more) I've decided to tell her what I feel about her. I couldn't tell her face to face so I used the socializing networks to help me out. I think that this is one of my biggest regrets, that I couldn't talk to her face to face. I still have doubts that I could talk freely to her if I will have the chance. So, I told her what I feel but she told me that she do not feels the same. She told me that we will remain friends and nothing more. In the first place I liked that, I agreed that. But after a while (not more that a week) I did ask her why here can't be more. She replied that it can't be... So I insisted even more, and she replied that her mind is in the past, to another boy, her ex. She even said that she feels very sorry about me, but we can't be together. I insisted even more till I got her angry on me and she said some things that really convinced me that time that it is over. So, I did unfriend her from the social media and decided that I will never contact her again. But after 5 months (yesterday) after I went on deleting her form my friends list I texted her again. That time, when we talked to each other I only asked her about her studies, how is she doing... just ordinary things, and she replied me. I want to mention that to all messages that referred to love she did not replied. Now I did send romantic pics, text and gifs to which I expected a reply, but all I got was a "seen". On the one hand I want to let her go (~20%) because it hurts me. Not only psychically but physically too, I got hypertension... (I think that this is the main cause). But on the other hand I still hope that one day, in the future we will be together. Deep down inside my heart I still hope. I want to mention that on that 5 months after I deleted her from my friends list I did not bother her. Eventually I stared at her photos (just once or twice). I want nothing more from her than to be by my side, to see her everyday, to hug her everyday to grow together. So what do you think? Is this love? Is this obsession? Should I hold on or should I let go? Have some advice on what to let go? If this is the final decision... I don't want that... If I could just talk to her face to face... Any opinion is welcomed! Thank you!! One more mention, my grades decreased considerably after I deleted her from my fried list... I'm worried, not to mention that I never had a girlfriend... Help, please!!!

I'll keep that in mind then, she does not matter!!

Everything reminds me of her. How can I forget everything? P.S. I still listen to a song that we both like. "Unconver- Zara L."

Ok, then I will take your advice too and I will no longer have contact to things that leads to her... P.S. I keep hided some paper sheets where I've expressed all my feelings/my thoughts about her, and everything that happened... I need to get rid of those too? And I made a video for her(for his birthday), with her photos, that she liked very much and thanked me a lot for that video. I watch sometimes on that video, should I get rid of that video too? And I memorized her birthday and her phone number, and her whole facebook link, how should I get rid of those?

I accepted that I will let her go so many times. But I've changed my mind when my heart started to crumble, when I started to feel sad, lonely... What can I do in that situations? How can I deny my feelings when they come? Easy to say, hard to do...

Thanks, I will watch this! I hope that this will help me...