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@Emerald If abundance mindset changed who you attract, what shifted first? Your mindset or the people you met? Because I'm past the illusion of grinding to meet mature women. I do sense there's something to that mindset shift, but I have zero evidence except for girls circling more around me, waving, smiling and all that weak signal stuff.

This is good, leave the smart women for me! 😈

No problem. This doesn't apply to just girls though. You keep moving, and if someone wants your attention they better buckle up and join you. You wouldn't ask half these questions if a girl reached out and wanted a date with you. It's more about sharpening your radar and give attention to those who are open to meet you where you're at.

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What makes you think women need to be decoded? Consuming manual after manual to understand half of the population. Start decoding that impulse instead. This guy intellectualizes his resentment around women, wraps it up in historical and evolutionary context and socialogical analysis, so it sounds profound and grounded. That's how you end up knowing everything about "market value" but still can't connect on a human level. Nothing new and definitely not helpful for you as an individual who wants more than temporary comfort.

When you finally see that isolating yourself in truth seeking is the same trap as losing yourself in relationships, that’s when the real insights start.

@r0ckyreed Your mind is sneaky. If all your relationships feel shallow maybe you're not meeting people where they are. You can't deconstruct the matrix before you've succesfully built deep intimacy.

@Princess Arabia Chill, I didn't say you trash talked. You got lots of great insights, I was just poking at the pattern of "women this, men that". Women ☕

Yeah, and yet most of these stories are just about bad choices and settling for less. That's the pattern. Same with guys trash talking women.

@Puer Aeternus Let them wake slow. No need to scare the sleepers.

I see a lot of guys who aren't bored with women.

Basically, go about your business. You asked her out and if it was a yes you would have gone out with her instead of analyzing her actions. If a girl is into you she will find a way, especially since you've made it easy for her to walk through the door, which she hasn't. That's all you gotta know. Don't bend over backwards for breadcrumbs.

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Calling someone a metahole is the most metahole move ever

Something like this. A girl who knows how to gear up, ride hard and share the peace.

They do. You just don't hear about it cause they're not loud, they just live. And don't forget about all the quiet readers either.

@Santiago Ram You were seen because the system was built for that, not cause you brought more worth. Society doesn’t hand you prestige, it mirrors what you bring, and right now you're not bringing much. That’s what you notice. Thinking you're no one when you don't get attention isn't very deep, it's dependency.

Are you prepping for some risky stunt? One finds them attractive, another doesn't care, simple as that.

Duh, not in these exact words of course. But I did go over to give the dog some closure, so she must have intuited that I'm a beautiful soul. Sets you apart for sure.

What's scarce is authentic men who don't parrot other men. And lose yourself in the process. That shit doesn't work for most men. Nobody needs to see themselves as the prize or think of another human being as the prize.

They even craft their own coincidences: "You had two cats when you grew up? I love horses and dogs, we are meant to be." Or: "You're into spirituality? I love esoteric fluff, make me your gf already!"

The other day I saw a guy on a bicycle, helmet on, reflective vest on, kid on the back. His woman rode in front, leading the way. He looked like he was following orders in a war he didn’t sign up for. Women don’t need men to be jacked or stoic machines. Men who get ripped at the gym aren't even using their fucking bodies for anything useful except for show. And women know they won't last a second in the trenches. But they sure as hell aren’t drawn to men who’ve let themselves be house-trained either. They’ll keep one like that around, but they’ll crave the man who keeps his fire.

Not yet to be honest. I want tangible results for grinding my ass off, not just merely a voice inside telling me: "Wow, look how far you've come!"

And if you manage to get your ass out of this shithole it does not give you any applause, no pat on the shoulder, just silence. Hence why they stay in it and never get out.

I just appreciate honesty...how you interpret it is up to you.