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I have this fond childhood/teenage memory where I concentrated so hard during a chess game that it felt like my brain would shake out of my head. It was pure bliss after I won. I never concentrated so hard ever again in my life.

When I was out of a job, playing chess was the only thing I was daily doing that I felt helped my brain stay challenged, sharp and engaged. I also think chess played a big role in keeping my old grandpa relativly sharp

I think most PUA's are overdoing this. I recently went out with my old PUA coach (not paid but just as buddies). And I was shocked at how try-hard and cringy he seemed when he kept persisting by constantly coming up with new things to say. He has spent years training this talking skill but I noticed how inauthentic it was to him. He is generally a "successful" PUA and I learned a lot from him but in my opinion, is a more silent "energy/chemistry focused game" way superior to constantly speaking. Also, I just don't believe in persistence on girls that are not open/interested.

I've seen it grow wild in some parts. It's really a beautiful plant. It got this aura to it. Same with opium poppies and peyote. Something about them makes you know they have these sick mystical powers.

Tap into the Godly visual beauty of the flowers and keep it at that(;

Personally, I just embrace the quiet, if there is a click this will build pressure. Ideally, you'll let her bask in your energy and let her release the pressure by making it a back-and-forth interaction. Or what about saying "I don't know what to say" when you don't know what to say. Also, observational remarks can be good. "you must be very creative". (when she has an unusually creative outfit for example).

@Vercingetorix Good! Not depending on anyone is the most powerful thing here. I daygame alone mostly because of that. And honestly having a wing in daygame who is not an experienced pro will only hold you back. It will just increase the cringe and not to mention you'll have to share. But I also have a special bias because I do mostly day game in a city where I relatively often stumble into people I know. Therefore I put a lot of value on subtility and situational awareness to avoid drawing attention. Only when I am at the very point of doing the approach I go into full "not giving a fuck-mode". For me personally, a big lesson from daygame is that I have to prioritize my mental health. My main struggle was not to feel like a crazy person for doing this. I was either going to quit or continue in a way that is respectable, cool, non-cringy and even beautiful. (all for me in a highly subjective manner). This means that now I push myself less, go home when my energy is off (when girls react more closed-off than usual and this pattern doesn't seem to improve), I don't persist when she is not open or impressed by my presence and I keep within my integrity and authenticity as much as possible. Integrity > standard pick-up theory.

Hmm... When I do an approach, I often in the first few seconds intuitively know if she is "open" to me. AKA whether we click. Personally, I never persist with a girl that doesn't click. Because I authentically lose interest in her, in my mind if a girl is not impressed by my presence I'll just think she is dumb and defective as a woman or we simply don't match, and that's perfectly fine and normal. If I approach and she looks away from me, that's a big no-no for me. Like, that's an immediate "bye have a nice day!". My intuition is obviously not perfect but I do sense these clicks with girls. Sometimes a girl will click very well but has a boyfriend. Or it will click but I do bad game. That would be a more "true" loss. I know some girls will subtly test men by acting like a cold fish. Though this is not most girls and personally I find that very unattractive. Most feminine girls won't help themselves but to express their "openess"/interest in all kinds of tacit ways, acting feminine for one. But also her sprinkling in some shit-tests. Ironically these are some of the most explicit indicators of interest. Personally, I put a lot of value on click. For me having a click trumps all in getting girls.

I have recently been doing some 5-meo-malt. Each time I can really feel my lower back energies. Maybe it's nonsense but I can Intuit that my awakening will go hand in hand with an explosion of energy from my lower back. I am afraid I will not be able to handle the intensity of energy (nor do I really want to). Any tips, what should I do?

I sense it in my spine but I don't want it to "escape" or burst out. I don't feel ready

I Intuit something like that. Like: no awaking for me without releasing this energy. Where can I find people that offer these services? Sounds cool but I don't desire that intense energy. I just don't desire a kundalini release or awakening but my lower back energies do act up when tripping, so I am afraid I don't have much of a choice in this matter. In the past I actually did some kundalini yoga, but now I kinda regret it.

Recently I started going out, I notice I do get some attention from girls: stares, shit-tests, and dancing. Though it's so chaotic in the club I just end up losing them by literally losing them. How do I make a girl attach to me? And more generally: what to do with girls in clubs that show openness and interest?

@something_else @StarStruck @Leo Gura Thanks, I do need to be more proactive, ballsy and take more risk. My other big issue is that I run out of energy relatively quickly becoming groggy. Also on the following day, I am basically knocked out from doing anything productive. Ideally, I would want to go out 2-3 times a week but right now I am just keeping it at once a week due to these energy issues.

I got a HCI batch with >97% purity. I have some experience with plugging 5-meo-dmt, How is Malt different when it comes to method of administration? What is a good dosage to start with? just for dipping my toes and testing the waters.

@OBEler Oke understood Really!? I get so much more productive with a microdose of LSD. I make decisions much easier, It's easier to start a task and to get really sucked into it.

Got a batch, but I heard that taking small dosages will just be disappointing. If you have experience with micro-dosing AL Lad I'd love to hear your experience and advise.

I have noticed this psychosomatic trend when each time a girl flakes I get physically sick for a week or so while also going through the 5 stages of grief. I know you're not supposed to get attached before the sex but I just do. Some girls drive me mad with their flirtatious, cute and "innocent" acting and I know for a fact that they are attracted to me but nonetheless their level of flakiness and not-really-caring is absolutely profound. This one girl I meticulously "courted" for more than a half year and after we agreed to go on a date, she "kinda forgot" and I kinda reacted butthurt out of the frustration. Which is of course a giant mistake. But damn she drove me mad. This other girl (I already had a date with) is very into me judging by the sweet and cute way she texts me. But each time I go for the date she is too "busy". And so I have some more of these frustrating cases. Of course, I realize these girls have incredible abundance. Like it's insane how easy they can get a guy. Anyhow, I just hope these attachment issues will get less severe with time and experience.

This is a front-page article in one of Israel's leading news platform: https://www.jpost.com/israel-news/culture/article-707136 They seem to have mixed up Incel culture with pick up, and equivalate approaching with harassment. Pickup is here really painted as some degenerate loser cultlike activity. Of course, there are toxic and immature elements within the community. But from my experience, most of my pickup mates have decent attitudes towards women. Of course, there is the occasional "guy (shit) talk" amongst ourselves where we basically judge girls and act all macho but that's like every guy (and girls have their own version of that.) Not gonna lie, feel kinda saddened by this article because it will lead to more societal demonization. I myself already struggle mentally with the "societal unacceptability" of pick up, and this is not helping. @Leo Gura) Do you think this article makes fair points or is it a total misunderstanding of the phenomenon?

@Raze @somegirl @puporing Thanks!

Thanks for the advice, I will stop investing when a girl doesn't go on a date within a reasonable timespan. Are night numbers any good? Because I heard they are notoriously flaky and unpractical. I am also asking because I am already familiar with the "interacting and date-close" and have never done a "club game and sex-close."

Of course, but most regular people will only get that dynamic after sex and love. Nope, they were open-to-date alright (at least the girls in the example) I just wasn't a priority. The difference between a girl's loyalty before and after sex is like heaven and hell. Though I agree with most of your points.

Fair enough, of course, this is what most people think because they are closed-off and judgemental towards it. This makes it more socially unacceptable and thus generally (mentally) harder than night game. Also, I am not really talking about "spam" approaching, as I bet most people would imagine day-game. I just mean approaching the occasional hot girl in a calibrated way. Haha no, first of all, I really don't go out to (just) get laid. Second, there are all kinds of ways to avoid lying. Like you can have a secondary activity. for example I love to combine it with going to museums (I have a free pass). But yeah in some approaches I do tell a white lie like "I am shopping" when really I am not. I am not going to pretend this is all pure and innocent. Though I do try to be as honest as possible and be in integrity with my emotions and thoughts. For example, this means not closing when the vibe is off. Again I am not talking about cringy game forms. good day game that wins is as beautiful as a piece of art. Beginners will usually have a lot of "painful" cringy approaches but this is why day game forces you to grow more than night game (given that you persist, which most people do not). As for the "getting in trouble" part, this is mostly paranoia, sure there are some risks and you have to keep common sense. (I discussed reputational issues in an earlier posting). But in night game the risk of violence/intimidation/getting mugged/drugged and even std is much bigger.

If you've never really done it how do you know this belief/assumption is true. You don't have to lie. And don't act like night game is some pure and honest method of getting laid. I get it night game works best for you but this is pure projection. I can argue that meeting a girl on the street and dating is more wholesome and romantic than a club lay.

This is paranoid as hell. As I said and described in a previous posting you must avoid clownish and cringy game methods. But there is nothing illegal about approaching and people don't give a shit about you and what you do. Yes, if you live in a small town, day game will be extremely hard. In that case you have to be even more discreet. my rule of thumb is to just walk around and don't stay in one place for too long and go home after 5-7 approaches. I Usually game in Amsterdam (1 mil people). But sometimes also go to a city with a pop of 300 000. This means I just walk around the area of the central station and adjacent shopping area. After an hour or two and 5-7 approaches, I go home. In a sense, this is more Ideal than Amsterdam where more time and walking are required. My Dutch cites are not ideal for day game but still doable. If you live in a city like Paris or London you basically live in a day gamers paradise

@Striving for more Hey man, cool. In what city do you day game?