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all relationships are doomed to fail, i prefer relating ships, just love people while you have the time and the chance, no need for limits and restrictions love them how you want to be loved, in love you set somebody free and if they come back it is meant to be

yes it is obviously problematic for some but for me is not an issue as i want my partner's greatest fulfillment that is perfectly acceptable and understandable and highly possible ... if with another is where their heart and bliss lies, then that is an expedient development how does one limit and proscribe love and deep attraction? do you enjoy the same meat and vegetables every night?

for me polyamory is, i have love in such overwhelming abundance that i delight in sharing it with many while at the same time i don't burden another with sole responsibility of loving me wholly each gives and each receives out of joy and as they are inclined

yes we were an ENM MFF throuple for most of that time and each of us had others partners as opportunities came ... btw if you are not up on the poly acronyms be sure and check out the reddit polyamory sub, lots of great info and discussions there no none of my poly friends are into self realization like i am but i don't expect anyone out there to be particularly interested in this work; besides, the more "spiritual" one is the less "spiritual" matters arise in conversation since everything is integrated and harmonious; they know my lifestyle namely that i am highly social but also quite reclusive and they enjoy me the way i am just like i enjoy them and would never want to change them from how they are

am committed to a child-free existence myself ... i maintain connection with several poly friends but am not engaged in the poly lifestyle since my long term partner passed away two years ago ... am a happy mid 50s singleton these days and am focused on more meaty matters like self realization

consider instead self vs no-self with no-self ... life still can go on ... but life lives it, there isn't a you to do so ... your will not my will be done o lord mystics such as bernadette roberts enjoyed this kind of ride as she let life steer her as it willed self is accidental and arbitrary, no self is everyone's destiny and fulfillment

love is to untie not to tie, to make the other their best self not your best slave ... for me i choose together whenever rather than together forever

we too selfish, what have we done for the world today to share our bounty both material and metaphysical we are too rich arrogant spoiled while most are struggling to put bread on the table with no end in sight or better to realize that everyone is enlightened and i am the only messed up mutha out there and proceed accordingly

when not irredeemably naive, politicians have a deep inferiority complex ... they foist themselves onto an unsuspecting public and then assert only they can make a difference and leave a lasting legacy the only worthwhile change is on oneself and after that person to person just my two cents

for anyone interested in the mirror of simple souls referenced in this clip https://ia801306.us.archive.org/34/items/TheMirrorsOfSimpleSouls/The Mirrors of Simple Souls.pdf

the guy does not believe in religion so no surprise he is mystical experience negative what is religion? it is god making itself known ... mind cant know this ... so what is needed is mystical experience ... namely get silent if you are atheist, you are not going to trust people who tell us something about god

one thing to understand is that even in polyamory people more often will pair bond, in other words have a primary partner and then each will have additional partners or not as each sees fit and indeed this has been the model throughout history, us humans are more often monagamish - we pair bond in order to conceive and raise children and then take on others partners as we are permitted to / inclined to so multiple concurrent partners is not out of the mainstream

that's beautiful

slowness of time is same as pain namely a messenger designed to show you that p-assing a-way i-s n-ear #pain ... death is close but it's ok as you are not a body

this was an excellent nuanced well researched balanced presentation ... even though i disagree with his stated conclusion i just watched an enjoyable presentation about the 7 story castle of teresa avila another great mystical heavyweight so all this information was most pertinent and synchronous what i know is this, mystical experiences are superfluous consolations, you should ignore them and not strive for them, they are not the goal and have to be dropped, if anything they are for others so they say hey maybe i need to get my act together mystical experiences are nothing but detours distractions diversions you need to keep going deeper

10k steps = 100 minutes of walking ... is what works for me ... i split into three sessions, morning afternoon evening ... i really enjoy these in addition i do 100 x sits ups push ups toe touches every time i take a bathroom beverage break which is about 6 x a day

truth is your level of consciousness to decrease it mingle with the world, to increase it spend time going in not going out

we are given a few breaths here ... did we incarnate in this body to spill our life seed like a monkey? ... are we satisfied to die tonight? as for me i give my all in putting in a good shift today and then if my dream ends i am more than happy with game over

happiness isn't getting what you love but loving what you get

i think it needs faith / trust ... you have to realize the kingdom the treasure the birthright is within and outside is make-believe how do you get faith? look at someone you admire and see what is working for them and emulate it

after the not this not that approach, it is realized that god can't be known god can't be experienced god can't be felt ... it is realized all that was mental trickery ... after all who would know god? even god doesn't know god, it would need to enter the world of language to explain itself ... god is way beyond mental games ... no-words no-experience no-self is the god portal

yes same, just remember that the journey of a thousand miles is completed one step at a time hang in there for existence well knows the sincerity in your heart

you have to assess another's level of consciousness ... it is probably lower than yours but how much lower ... are they a reasonable person or are they beyond hope of betterment... in the later case you better not interfere with them since you will provoke them to worse outbursts and onslaughts ... if you feel the person wants to learn and improve then i say it is within your remit to teach them a give them the medicine they need whether that be the gentle softly kind or the tough love kind ... anger is acceptable in this case since it a way of deeply communicating to another the extent of the pain you suffered from them ... this can perhaps be enough to jolt them into getting their act together family drama and conflict is a whole huge can of worms and has to do with power relationships and some inflicting abuse and trauma on others so i think i will leave that for now though i empathize greatly with the hardships you have endured and truly hope you are seeing some light in the tunnel

it is trust before truth

authenticity is risky, fakeness is easy