SonataAllegro

@Yarco I hear you on these points, but consider that an integrity test is more valuable than a shit test here… If she’s a 10 then yeah she’s probably shit testing him. But why should she deserve to sleep with a truly high value man if she’s so spoiled she feels she needs to size him up like that?

Lol this was about language, not about hustling. Eat the grapes and spit out the seeds.

Curious what this means

This is not a simplistic answer. Start giving yourself the kind of attention you seek and you will notice that people observe you with way more interest, even if you aren't known by millions of people. You'll drive yourself down an attention seeking path of insanity if you don't start by seeing yourself. If you want to be known for positive qualities, notice those positive qualities in yourself and strengthen them. Others will start to see them when you aren't trying to get them to. Sorry if that's not what you want to hear but its really the only way.

Don't ask if she's interested in building a relationship if you've just met her. That's something you can only do if you're insanely good at pickup, which you're not. So just ask for numbers to start, that communicates clearly enough. If you ask her about being in a relationship right away she'll think you're just trying to get her into one as fast as possible, and that feels like a trap to her.

Nice job being direct and also subtle in asking if she wants to go out with you. Now, keep being decisive. It doesn't matter what you do, just be decisive and take the lead. Think about it: does it matter to her if you call or text? NO, she wants to see you make some clear choices and have fun being yourself around her. You say you've been approaching for months but you never ask random girls for their phone numbers? Then why are you approaching them?

It would be based on the empirical research of your own direct insights. So long as you own the fact that it's biased and personal it's still a legitimate tool. After all, everyone has their own personal and unique understanding of SD which is skewed by their own experience, biases and interpretations -- there's no actual "empirical" model out there to cite when doing this research, it exists only in the minds of humans. For example, if I've discovered that I am God and that I've imagined the entire social world that SD is describing, I could say that that's a stage of development and consciousness somewhere on the model based on empirical, albeit solely personal, insight, right? Even though that state of consciousness is beyond all modeling and conceptualization, someone might find it useful for understanding what's being pointed to. I say this especially because I'm trying to understand if these models are at all useful for this new Alien stuff, seeing as SD was one of the ways that I opened my mind to mysticism in the first place. @Leo Gura i'd appreciate your thoughts on this.

@Leo Gura If you had to make a model to fit your awakenings with SDi, especially the latest ones, what would it look like? Do you think there's any merit to conceptualizing of stages past turquoise even if we don't have much evidence for them? After all, I've found merit in conceptualizing of stage yellow/turquoise even though I'm not centered in them. Doing so gets me to see through my own bullshit when I'm acting from orange/green.

@Leo Gura Is this accurate: I am lost in the social matrix of human bullshit The social matrix is a creation of my mind to keep me asleep to my own infinitude When I break out of all mental frames into infinity, I experience God as loving and self-creating This loving quality is a smokescreen to protect me from the scariness of Alien Love, which cares nothing for my comfort or sensemaking ability

Fellow composer here. Can you tell me about/show me some of your stuff? I've found it helps when other musicians listen to my music, it helps me remember why I'm inspired to do it.

yes I've experienced this. Hint: it means you've been trying to run away from something.

Most therapists are stage green people beholden by the DSM-5 to hold a certain approach to mental health and to ignore its spiritual underpinnings. Most of them will teach you mindfulness but will woefully underestimate its importance and will not have a clue what you're talking about if you've accessed mystical states. They are compassionate and skillful people, but I think it should be clear that their specialty is in helping people who have very limited awareness of their emotions and thoughts to develop basic coping mechanisms. They will NOT guide you along a spiritual path. What benefits people who have stepped into mysticism and the integration work that comes with it is either a life coach or a transpersonal psychologist. I've been working with transpersonal and it's wonderful. It's like having a weekly chat with Eckhart Tolle. Also don't make the mistake of thinking that just because you don't have a mental disorder that a therapist wouldn't want to work with you.

^^^^^ your only mistake here was romanticization. Learn not to trust your romanticizing mind. Treat it like a toddler telling you about Santa clause. Compassionate disbelief.

Lol the cat is fine. You’re more likely to get hookworms up your ass from the bucket toilet. Outdoor toilets should be at least 6 feet deep because if it’s shallower hookworms can get to you. And yes oral sex can give you diseases but rarely.

@Leo Gura What do you think about studying philosopher's ideas as though you're studying animals at a zoo? i.e. not expecting to get a very profound understanding but still learning about what "very smart" people have thought throughout history and how that affects the minds of people today? I find it exhilarating and somewhat useful, even though it has nothing to do with truth. Or sex.

The key is empathy, if you were in his situation you may very well want a friend to give you a compassionate kick in the ass, but you don't want to be shamed. The right time and the right words will come to you, just focus on having the right intention.

Looking for resources may be a tactic for the patterns to continue by filling your mind with more content. Chances are your mind is too filled with noise about personal development to actually hear yourself. Pay attention to how you feel and how different chemicals you consume, things you watch, and people you talk to enhance or sabotage your energy. This takes mental silence. Compulsive, sabotaging behaviors can't happen consciously. Currently I'm working on talking to myself less, or writing instead of talking, because I've realized that I've been doing it for a decade and it creates various sub personalities that fight with each other. So when it comes to making decisions that affect my energy and focus, I can't think clearly because my mind is pulled in so many directions. When I instead be the unbiased, non-judgemental listener of the mental chatter, it's no longer able to control my actions and I make more rational decisions.

Silence is the best part of being with a girl. Cherish it. If you show you're comfortable with it, she will be too, and that's when the connection with her can get really intimate. Don't fill the void with mindless garbage. Enjoy her presence. That's because you can't do small talk anymore from the place you used to do it. That version of you was anxious and obsessed with your appearance in the social matrix, and this version of you is calm and detached from the social matrix (if I'm understanding correctly). Small talk now is not going to be random shit to fill the anxious silences, it's going to be spontaneous and playful banter that emerges from feeling joy in the Now.

You bet i did

Why can't they know?

This blew my mind, these things can think with their arms!

The only solution is to start doing things you don't really want to do but which are simple enough that it doesn't take much effort, then you'll naturally (NOT by force) want to do more things. Make your bed, run around the block, take a cold shower for one minute, read one page of a book. You're suffering from a perceived lack of agency because of how debilitating the tasks in front of you seem. You may be a pluralist in your thinking but you haven't integrated the discipline of the conformist.

I'd rephrase this as: to actively practice and develop the SKILL of detachment, one needs CONTENT in one's life to practice it on, such as a career, relationships, and personal projects. I too have been trying too much to strip my life of contents and see what it's all about, and I agree that it's not the best strategy. Spot on!

Not the clip you were talking about but he's crying in this one ^

The highest truth is also the highest gaslighting