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@Everything Bruh ask her to send a picture of herself holding a spoon covering her left eye, but anyways none of that matters if a chick is already asking you to pay her money before you see her the dynamic of this interaction is already a lost cause. If she's not a catfish tell her your not interested in paying for a meet up and would like to see if there's chemistry first and see what happens from there

Not sure if this is your personality but this seems really disrespectful to your bf, imagine he went on some forum and talked this way about you how would you feel? Getting your sexual needs met in a relationship is very important its not something to be put aside. There are ways you can bring your needs to his attention without being confrontational about it. Watch youtube vids /books/ read other forums and come up with new things to try in bed with him. Properly guide him and instruct him on how you like certain things, ask him if there is any new things he wants to try personally. Ideally you would want the guy to know all of this before hand but thats rare especially if hes time crunched doing other things If he really checks off all your boxes and you don't want to leave have a respectful conversation about your sexual relationship and bring ideas to the table to try, dont be passive and expect him to read your mind. Address this sooner rather than later, theres a possibility you may end up cheating on him if another guy comes along and can make you feel a certain way.

Your biggest problem in this situation was failing to recognize her interest and immediately seizing the opportunity You need to learn how to be more decisive and quickly establish intent when you find a girl attractive. Usually the longer you wait the more "out of place" it's going to seem when you try to make a sudden move. Flirting, teasing, a little sexual innuendos, work great to build that vibe, the chick has to know if you two were in a room together you would "make a move" and not just have a platonic interaction. Now context obviously matters if you find she isn't reciprocating, you lay off and be more cordial/professional especially in a setting where things can end bad for you if something goes wrong. There are some things you could have done better when she came over but your attempt wasn't that bad. Next time you must screen harder for sexual compatibility and make sure she understands this isn't a platonic met up. Even if shes alone with you there's very little you can do to convince her to have sex with you if she isnt up for it. I don't know how far you got but next time build up the foreplay when your trying to make a move for the first time don't expect to immediately jump into it. Look up some stuff on kino escalation to better understand. Good job not trying to push the interaction farther, maybe something could have came from it but in all my experiences nearly every time I "pushed it" and we did end up having sex I would get ghosted or there would be a massive lost of interest. If a chick isn't excited to sleep with you or you feel its like "pulling teeth" to get laid, you messed up somewhere, maybe you didn't build enough attraction or rapport. Try to reach out and see if she's down to still meet up, this time don't back to your place and treat it like a normal date. Honestly learning to navigate through things like this takes a lot of different experiences so don't beat yourself up too much of your new to this. Like Leo said if you really connect with a girl it will be hard to not catch feelings, but you have to realize for your mental health if you get caught up on a chick that doesn't reciprocate your digging your own grave, its ok to feel into the emotions but understand letting go is much better than believing in a fairytale. Also you need to have options, you should set up your life to where your always meeting women, make social friends, join different clubs, try dating apps, do some cold approaches ect

Patrick Bet David hes a full blown stage orange guy and runs a MLM but his valutainment channel has really practical and sound Business/ Entrepreneur/ Financial advice

You can date attractive girls as an average guy I've seen many times in my experiences and most people know someone who is dating someone "above their league" so it is possible. For long term relationships though you going to be with someone that is around your level of attractiveness mabey 1-2 points higher if you lead an interesting lifestyle

@B222 Volume and try to meet the girl in person asap after you get the number you guys should meet in 2-3 days. Theres nothing wrong with being aggressive especially when its online just don't be a creep. If shes giving excuses why she can't meet or things don't seem "on" stop wasting your time trying to game her have the mentality of screening girls out quick, when it comes to online game your talking to pixels on a screen everything is imaginary until you meet in person.

@johnlocke18 Dont be so judgemental he's probably a hard case and is new to talking with women its good that hes going out and making approaches, trying different things and seeing what works. @Hardkill I remember I used to do something similar like when I was in college, I wouldn't out right insult chicks like you did, but I would see how far I could neg her before I got blown out of a set. As others have said pushing interactions to the extreme is necessary when learning to get good with women because it deepens your social calibration. Also women do respond well to "Assholes" but not the way you think, being authentic, relaxed and enforcing boundaries is what gives that vibe off not "insults or acting alpha." You never want to explicitly try to convince a chick your a certain somebody with words she should feel that vibe off you

@Leo Gura It seems John doesn't view you in a good light either, in recent interview with Spenser Cornelia he said you were "known as a creep in the community because you were too RSD Flashy and it would turn off girls" Yea John Anthony is not a good guy guy to follow, he has a few good concepts that helped me but if you follow this guy long term you start to develop a cold, robotic, salesy approach when dealing with women which feels off. Find teachers that teach you to be better man that also dabble in dating.

Read my post again never said you should compete for women, thats pointless. When you feel physically capable as a man weather it be through sports or liting you will 100% percent feel more comfortable around other men or not think about "competition" when talking to women.

How often do you compete with other men? Healthy competition between men is a great way to build self-esteem especially when around other competent people The best thing ive ever done was competing in amatuer kickboxing matches and playing basketball both sports force you to evolve yourself so you can compete at a higher level. The confidence you get especially from winning bleeds into other areas of your life and you stop taking things seriously. You go into interactions with a "take it or leave it" attitude and the thought "she could find another guy" doesn't really pop in your mind.

Gotta respect it how he was able to scale this scam tho that level, for his next business venture he should sell marketing courses on youtube hed fit right in with that crowd

Start out by joining social clubs and begin forming friends who like to go to events and parties its much easier getting laid in college when you play the social circle game, cold approach works but it shouldn't be you main way of meeting chicks.

Condoms arnt bad if you get them fitted properly, look up nominal width and start buying thin skinned condoms. Ofc its not going to be the same as going raw but if your going to out on the casual scene its definitely better than using the standard thick condoms

Its good your getting matches, One of my wings was absolutely killing it on dating apps and shared with me the template he uses. Ive been using it since then and have gotten good results from it. Give her a compliment or point out something unique on her profile, ask how things have been going for her on the app, ask what she's looking for, agree with whatever answer she says, say we seem like a good fit, and ask if she would be down to meet for drinks. If she agrees ask for the number, and move it to whatsapp or text anything where she isnt being flooded with messages, Re-introduce yourself, ask for her availability and set up a meeting. Thats it My main principles for online game is to be efficient as possible, get her off the app asap and schedule a meeting. Ive experimented being funny and using humor on the dating app and also once I got the number but found I converted better when I kept it very casual and straight to the point. Save the charisma for in person You must take every opportunity to screen when it comes to online game, women are so fickle that its pointless wasting emotional energy trying to be "charismatic" over text. Try to get the number after 3-4 texts if you cant get her of the app or she isn't responding move on even if you manage to re-heat your lead the chance of flaking skyrockets. As one of the users pointed out you will always be at a massive disadvantage doing online game unless you have a top 10% profile. I've always treated online dating as something passive, that's why I'm able to detach so easily from it I much prefer going out to events and gaming with wings.

Nahh most women aren't that extreme in real life, that subreddit is just like the redpill subreddit there the same people but different genders. Be careful formulating a worldview based on the extremes of a particular group. Shitty people exist everywhere

@Yali Ive seen this trend from you in other threads, you place way to much authority in Leo stop being a fanboy and seek out your own answers from direct experience can't you see no matter how many questions you ask him you'll still come back to ask more? You know what you have to do just go do it & learn from it

This is such a defeatist mentality, how does understanding any of this help you with women, all it does it warp your view on reality and slowly turn you into a shitty person. To much PUA and attraction theory is toxic, nobody should be studying it that much if they don't intent on becoming a coach or something. At some point you must assume all the information you learned is false until YOU put into action. To answer your question yes you can attract beautiful women, get your fitness right, live an interesting life, learn basic attraction/social theory and go meet 40 women a month, you do that this question wont even appear in your mind.

Bro just go on the dam date and have fun you dont need this much autistic level advice jesus

Changing your environment is the best way to deal with your situation, start looking in your area if there's any affordable housing and try to get a roommate. Get a job within your area and learn to be independent. This isnt the most feel good advice but your an adult, (im assuming) you can take responsibility in this situation, maybe your dad treats you the way he does because he knows you don't have options, your still going to be there whether he does it or not, its still a fucked up thing to do as a parent but you cant control other people. Set a goal to be independent in the next 6 months- 1 year and overcome any limiting beliefs your going to encounter while your going about it

Context matters, if shes your perfect woman in your eyes and she tells you she slept with 30 people will you view her different? From my experience any chick that has admitted to me she has had over 25 partners has always had some major red flags. No woman is realistically going to tell you she has a high body count because she understands it makes her lose value if she wants a relationship. Its up to you to be a good judge of character and screen out chicks that show "hoe behavior" This also relates to guys as well the more promiscuous a guy is the more limiting beliefs he will develop regarding relationships, that's something I had to consciously correct.

@Rasheed Go to youtube type in "More Plates More Dates" followed by hair loss. He makes very good videos investigating what causes hair loss and practical solutions for fixing them. Your young so you can still prevent a lot of hair loss take the time to educate yourself. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6n-L-g9WaNM Start with this video and go down the rabbit hole from there

Anybody who has takes internet security and uses Nord VPN deserves what's coming to them lol

@Emotionalmosquito Have a learners mentality, all women want a confident guy to approach them in a calibrated respectful way. Out of the hundreds of cold approaches i've done I can only count on 2 hands a time where I got a really negative reaction, it was in the beginning stages of learning this stuff and half those times it was my fault. Stop complaining about stuff like this and make a genuine attempt to see what the guy did wrong

Notes about the first approach He should've calibrated his approach to his surroundings and the chick he was talking to. In the video it looks like he was the only one in that area and so was the girl. He shouldn't have went up to her and sat down immediately, he should have started of saying something like "Hey im (insert name) you look interesting, just wanted to come over an introduce myself" before he sat down. Pay attention to her body language if she doesn't seem receptive or anxious be courteous, give her a compliment and leave. He should have been able to pick up on her uneasiness and bailed. Any chick you cold approach should have some level of curiosity or receptiveness there was none here. Even if he sat down and tried to build up that receptiveness and managed to get a number she would flake immediately. You must be able to identify under a minute whether a girl is receptive to you if not move on there's no point remaining in that set. Also this girl is only 18, she seems very socially awkward and even mentioned this was her first time being approached, i believe her reaction was well justified she wasn't rude, she just didnt know how to process what's going on. The guy seems like a newbie, my recommendation to him is to pay attention to body language, its ok for a chick to be awkward but she must be receptive to you if not move on. He lacks experience and the rejection wasn't bad it just happened to be caught on camera can't do nothing about that Notes on Second Approach There isnt much to critique here. This dude is just creepy he's following people around on his bike recording them. He literally followed one chick for a full minute before he talked to her wtf. Don't follow people around if your going to open them thats a no no. This guy also doesn't have any vocal range he gives off Elliot Roger vibes. Vocal tonality is very important when cold approaching. You must seem open and fun this guy is too serious and sounds like he's giving commands or something, really of putting. There's also a "fakeness" in his opener which the girls pick up on immediately. This guy got jailed because he uploaded videos of women he was hitting on without any consent, he also seems really uncalibrated and cant sense when these chicks are uncomfortable, he tried to force one of the girls to kiss him for christ sake. Key points Kudo's to any guy who has the balls to cold approach it takes dozens or hundreds of approaches to develop the calibration needed to pull good results consistently. Being able to recognize receptiveness is the most important part of cold approach. Be open, easy going and relaxed, have a normal opener nothing cringy and pay attention to her body language. If she's not engaged leave its a numbers game for a reason. You should be able to know how a set is going to turn out 30 seconds in never spend more than 1 minute in a bad set.

Don't know if your spewing dogma or if your speaking from anecdotal experience. If you have a good profile it adds more to your character as your going to appear more interesting. If your going to approach a woman go for the number close first if not just casually ask for an ig. Ive had women who's ig I got, who weren't really that receptive to me during the initial approach dm me personally commenting how I live an interesting life based on my stories and from there i'd set up a meet up. Social Media isn't bad if you have a healthy relationship with it I do cool stuff and want to share that with other people it just so happens its also useful when dealing with women