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Dont frame it as "being dumb" its called being authentic and having fun. Getting women isnt a calculation its should be looked at as an art form, more intuitive. Girls want to have fun they don't want to feel like there being "gamed," they should be thinking "this is a fun relaxed guy lets see where this goes" To much theory does that to your personality, you over analyze things small details and words, make up these theories, while the guy who never studied any of this stuff gets the girls you want because he can go "dumb" and meet new chicks.

Theres gotta be more to this story that you arnt telling us your getting mad at her for asking questions?? If this is really about that talk to the professor after class and tell him sometimes answering certain questions take away from the lesson, he will be more aware of this during class. Also you could have phrased this question much better. Shes an adult she can wear what she wants. Women slut shame other women way more often than men and then try to claim its men that are keeping women sexually oppressed lol

Definitely agree with this statement, its like not letting your mind go certain negative scenarios is a byproduct of taking a proactive approach to things in life. I wanted to see what people had to say in regards to cheating I think we can all agree if there's no marriage or kids involved you'd be better off leaving your parnter but why do those two variables change someone's boundaries on cheating? (assuming he/she admitted to cheating quickly, took responsibility of it and set a plan to make the relationship work?) More of a food for thought kind of question

@Ineedanswers I wonder if context might change the answer to that question, say you and your parnter have been married for 5 years have 2 kids, you guys are going through some issues nothing serious though, she catches up for drinks with an old friend things escalate they end up sleeping together. As soon as she gets home she immediately confesses to her husband profusely apologizes, explains how she hurt you and how regretful she is, blocks the guys contact info and says she wants to make the marriage work, what would you do? Do you end up divorcing ad splitting apart the family or sit down and try to work this through with your partner? This question is opened to the ladies as well. Would like to hear @aurum thoughts also

Thats the way the world works, i hate to play the biology card but men don't have to have high standards to have sex with women there's no sunk cost in it for them they can afford to mess around with just about any girl, its not like that for women they have to screen harder in a man and look for qualities that would make good offspring, its a cliche perspective but you can't outwire human biology. If you yourself were a girl you would behave the exact way they do now. People will always be entitled to things they don't deserve thats how the ego works also just because girls can have sex easier it doesn't mean they can't experience heartbreak as well, they dont value sex nearly as much as emotional security.

Thats rough hes going to need a lot of healing after going through something like this. There's is a lesson to be learned in all of this though. As much of shitty situation this is there had to be red flags in the beginning of the relationship. Someone doesn't do something like this without leaving a trail of breadcrumbs. Being able to properly vet women your thinking about entering LTR is so important. @Breakingthewall Learn some empathy ,such an ignorant take, its easy to have a reaction like that when you aren't in his shoes

@Insightful27 That sucks man I feel for you. First off you won't get in any trouble for dancing and no police will get involved. She either had a really negative experience in her life that reenacted itself when you made your advances or maybe she was already dealing with some emotional issues. You should try to think through what you did, are you framing yourself as the good guy in this scenario? Did you miss any obvious signs of unease? I remember when I was in highschool I once misinterpreted a sign of interest from a chick and was way too forward, in my mind I had done nothing wrong but looking back there were clear signs of disinterest, confusing times in high school lol Don't become jaded towards women after this incident btw I can see how an event like this can lead you down the redpill spiral you just happened to escalate on the wrong chick. Don't assume every girl is going to act like this, 9/10 if you make a move like this and the chick positively responds good things will come out of girls also want to have fun.

@chakra_7654321 DIdnt read your whole post just making some suggestions, Practice screening really hard for sex, I actually suggest you try online dating. Based on your on how you describe yourself you should do fine. Find other guys who enjoy going out to events/parties/clubs and practice fast physical escalation approaches. You don't need to do "spiritual work" or do meditation to get laid, organize your life where your constantly meeting new women and screen hard, if you don't if you don't close between 1-3 meet ups keep it pushing. Your sex life is a very important need to satisfy especially as a man you cant just "think it away" just don't let it derial your life though. A lot of your posts reflect heavy redpill dogma, the issue with such ideologies is that they make blanket generalizations that do not accurately portray life. Some concepts I agree with but this one is absolute bs. Getting women in your 20's is not as difficult as Redpill makes it out to be, its ironically the easiest time in your life to get laid and get into relationships you essentially have no real responsibilities. Most women are not some hyper sexual marketplace optimizers, if they meet a guy there attracted to, feel emotionally secure with, and is someone that doesn't have a dull personality they will be pretty loyal to a fault.

It would help but the issue will never go away humans are going to be humans

@Tboy If your asking this question it means its obviously eating you up inside. You don't have to 100% tell them your going to bars or clubs to pick up chicks tell them your going out with friends and meeting new people and its been really good for you. The more important question to ask is why do you care so much if you lie to your parents? Do you feel what your doing is wrong? Do you think your parents wont look at you the same way if you tell them the truth? These are more important questions to consider

@Thought Art Just curious if you were 20 again what would you do different would have taken your music passion more "serious" or spent that time building survival skills?

Your on a good path building, that foundation of just being able to approach people is a great skill to build, just something to keep in mind don't take the girls who ignore you too serious, being approached by a stranger can surprise most people and their first response is usually to disengage, theres no issue with that, never take these personal as the other person could just be having a day or is in a slump weave all been there.

Also look intro using TOR Browsers if you want to go into the extremes of internet privacy. Many Journalist that live in extremist countries use TOR networks for anonymity as well. Go down the internet privacy rabbit hole there's a lot more you can do besides buying a VPN that can help protect your privacy.

@Fleetinglife If i'm understanding your question correctly your asking is it worth using a vpn if your outside the U.S? If that's it then yes I recommend everybody uses a vpn it costs less than $7 dollars a month in most cases and you can use it on all your devices. Theres too many benefits to not use a vpn considering how easy it is to install, also go to other forums and reddit and learn more about internet security as were moving on in technology you'd be surprised how much info these big tech corporations have on you it's ridiculous.

It seems your really interested in her and leaving her wouldn't be a good option for you. Try just having an honest conversation, as simple as it sounds bring up the issues your having with her and and see what she has to say, if you want any chance of making this work you have to lay out your issues regarding your relationship and your beliefs and pay attention to what she says. Going back and forth with other strangers on the internet about survival agenda isn't going to help you at all, do this first and then assess whether this relationship is worth pursuing any further

It really is sad. There are many paradigm shifting moments when in comes to pick-up but by far the biggest ones comes from gaming a 9/10, 10/10 stunner and having her receptive to you, hanging off your every word, it doesn't even feel real. A couple months ago I went out with good friends/wings to a high end club and approached this absolute bombshell we engaged the group and I left with her contact info. Later on in the night I saw her again and decided to re-open, her friends gave us space and we talked for about 30-45 min. I usually don't try to pull at night clubs because logistically its too complicated and not worth the effort when you can get a high quality number instead, but I could feel the attraction for me radiating of her. We were talking about food and I told her there was this great burger spot I had to show her right now if she was down, and began to lead her out the club, she went back to her friends told them she was leaving then bam that was murder she wrote. During pillow talk I come to find out she's a fitness influencer on Ig with over 2.5 million followers, didn't end up contacting her again but once again completely shattered my expectations on how far you can go if you go out consistently and push the envelope. Every guy needs to experience something like this

80% of your game should not be explicitly implied being up front and telling the girl you like her without building anything up only works if your in a setting where you can heavily screen girls and not have it bite you in the ass, like cold approaching or online game, if your in a setting where being to forward could have repercussions like social circle game, work, a place you visit often then you have to be more subtle. Its not that complicated is just social calibration.

@Everything Bruh ask her to send a picture of herself holding a spoon covering her left eye, but anyways none of that matters if a chick is already asking you to pay her money before you see her the dynamic of this interaction is already a lost cause. If she's not a catfish tell her your not interested in paying for a meet up and would like to see if there's chemistry first and see what happens from there

Not sure if this is your personality but this seems really disrespectful to your bf, imagine he went on some forum and talked this way about you how would you feel? Getting your sexual needs met in a relationship is very important its not something to be put aside. There are ways you can bring your needs to his attention without being confrontational about it. Watch youtube vids /books/ read other forums and come up with new things to try in bed with him. Properly guide him and instruct him on how you like certain things, ask him if there is any new things he wants to try personally. Ideally you would want the guy to know all of this before hand but thats rare especially if hes time crunched doing other things If he really checks off all your boxes and you don't want to leave have a respectful conversation about your sexual relationship and bring ideas to the table to try, dont be passive and expect him to read your mind. Address this sooner rather than later, theres a possibility you may end up cheating on him if another guy comes along and can make you feel a certain way.

Your biggest problem in this situation was failing to recognize her interest and immediately seizing the opportunity You need to learn how to be more decisive and quickly establish intent when you find a girl attractive. Usually the longer you wait the more "out of place" it's going to seem when you try to make a sudden move. Flirting, teasing, a little sexual innuendos, work great to build that vibe, the chick has to know if you two were in a room together you would "make a move" and not just have a platonic interaction. Now context obviously matters if you find she isn't reciprocating, you lay off and be more cordial/professional especially in a setting where things can end bad for you if something goes wrong. There are some things you could have done better when she came over but your attempt wasn't that bad. Next time you must screen harder for sexual compatibility and make sure she understands this isn't a platonic met up. Even if shes alone with you there's very little you can do to convince her to have sex with you if she isnt up for it. I don't know how far you got but next time build up the foreplay when your trying to make a move for the first time don't expect to immediately jump into it. Look up some stuff on kino escalation to better understand. Good job not trying to push the interaction farther, maybe something could have came from it but in all my experiences nearly every time I "pushed it" and we did end up having sex I would get ghosted or there would be a massive lost of interest. If a chick isn't excited to sleep with you or you feel its like "pulling teeth" to get laid, you messed up somewhere, maybe you didn't build enough attraction or rapport. Try to reach out and see if she's down to still meet up, this time don't back to your place and treat it like a normal date. Honestly learning to navigate through things like this takes a lot of different experiences so don't beat yourself up too much of your new to this. Like Leo said if you really connect with a girl it will be hard to not catch feelings, but you have to realize for your mental health if you get caught up on a chick that doesn't reciprocate your digging your own grave, its ok to feel into the emotions but understand letting go is much better than believing in a fairytale. Also you need to have options, you should set up your life to where your always meeting women, make social friends, join different clubs, try dating apps, do some cold approaches ect

Patrick Bet David hes a full blown stage orange guy and runs a MLM but his valutainment channel has really practical and sound Business/ Entrepreneur/ Financial advice

You can date attractive girls as an average guy I've seen many times in my experiences and most people know someone who is dating someone "above their league" so it is possible. For long term relationships though you going to be with someone that is around your level of attractiveness mabey 1-2 points higher if you lead an interesting lifestyle

@B222 Volume and try to meet the girl in person asap after you get the number you guys should meet in 2-3 days. Theres nothing wrong with being aggressive especially when its online just don't be a creep. If shes giving excuses why she can't meet or things don't seem "on" stop wasting your time trying to game her have the mentality of screening girls out quick, when it comes to online game your talking to pixels on a screen everything is imaginary until you meet in person.

@johnlocke18 Dont be so judgemental he's probably a hard case and is new to talking with women its good that hes going out and making approaches, trying different things and seeing what works. @Hardkill I remember I used to do something similar like when I was in college, I wouldn't out right insult chicks like you did, but I would see how far I could neg her before I got blown out of a set. As others have said pushing interactions to the extreme is necessary when learning to get good with women because it deepens your social calibration. Also women do respond well to "Assholes" but not the way you think, being authentic, relaxed and enforcing boundaries is what gives that vibe off not "insults or acting alpha." You never want to explicitly try to convince a chick your a certain somebody with words she should feel that vibe off you

@Leo Gura It seems John doesn't view you in a good light either, in recent interview with Spenser Cornelia he said you were "known as a creep in the community because you were too RSD Flashy and it would turn off girls" Yea John Anthony is not a good guy guy to follow, he has a few good concepts that helped me but if you follow this guy long term you start to develop a cold, robotic, salesy approach when dealing with women which feels off. Find teachers that teach you to be better man that also dabble in dating.