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You motivate yourself by seeing what's possible and compare it to what your life will look like if you dont change. What advice do want us to give you? Its up to YOU to figure out these obstacles, stop outsourcing your problems so easily and actually attempt to come up with your own solutions.

This mindset is pretty common especially amongst men who just start to learn about dating. I don't know if this advice is going to click as it takes some nuance to grasp but, change your thinking from "hunting" to "screening." A valuable life lesson is you want to screen people, you don't want any chick coming into your life even if she's hot if she doesn't meet your standards. This is a "high value" mentality which means you have to actually be about it if you're going to be approaching women. Don't view approaching as "I do all this work and all she has to do is say yes or no" Instead come from "She has to meet x,y,z or im outta here, never emotionally invest into any approach if your standards arnt met. If your approaching at a club or in a large area don't invest more than 3 minutes into a set, if your requirements arn't being met, tell her to have a good day and move tf on. Just like hunting, getting good at approaching people is something only a few men can get good at. This requires a powerful personality. This mentality is not something you can conceptuality understand, you must do the self improvement, and approach hundreds of sets to internally understand this the right way. Stay in the Pick up community (avoid bs tho) and keep learning how to build attraction, take time to sit down and critically think how you can improve and pull ideas from many sources, forums ect, Its ok to be frustrated but use this as fuel to understand attraction better. Never, consider yourself a victim or getting good with women will be dam near impossible. Consider it an advantage you weren't born with model looks or a charismatic personality as you now can consciously build yourself into a high quality man. Speaking from expericence going through Pick-up and all of its ups and downs was probably one of the best decisions I made in my life , I can't put into words the feeling of knowing deep down "if this doesn't work out I can get better" that feeling creeps into all aspects of your life so buckle down and overcome this.

Seems that you've got the attraction building part down now its time to learn how to build relationships, check out relationship videos and books and expand your mind on the topic. The "tricks" you've learned on how to gain attraction doesn't necessarily transverse into a healthy relationships

You just do it

Beautiful video, Never paint yourself as a victim, always look to control your life

You seem to have a pretty large gay shadow, you've made other posts that have veered towards your repression of homosexuality, dude just try sleeping with a guy and not judge yourself just feel, what's the worst that could happen?

I dont know if he's being serious or this is satire but I find it ironic he's giving the same speech he used to scam 100's of millions from people to "support" the little guy, hilarious.

I think he knows what he did wrong, gaming women isn't about using some funny lines or witty humor there needs to be a genuine connection before you do that, you don't talk about sex to a girl you just met, let alone dm unless there is obvious attraction. Just learn from these experiences and dont do mental gymnastics to paint yourself the victim or else you won't ever make progress.

He's great, especially for if your getting into self help or still don't understand the fundamentals of self-help that well. Ofc there's better people who can teach self help than him but thats not his audience. His audience is catered to people at the beginner level. Don't know why he gets so much hate

Never read to much into a firsts dates, especially if she agrees to see you agin, the general rule of thumb is this: Bounce locations, start of at a small coffee shop or if your strapped on cash, someplace you guys can sit and talk, then seed the the next location by saying "x place is really nice at this time" and then move locations. I ideally like to aim for three locations before I try to pull to my house primarily using the first location to screen mood, vibe, if we connect ect. Never go into deep shit, you want your first meeting to be light, talk about random stuff, its ok to bounce around, conversations are not supposed to be linear, let her fill in any awkward silences, don't be in a rush to speak all the time. Don't talk about politics, past relationships, or any "triggering" topics just because you're guaranteed a conversation it brings a weird platonic vibe to the date. Look to escalate, Very early on you want her to understand you're a sexual man, (without being a creep) and not some guy whose gonna wait for her to make up her mind of sleeping with you. Be authentic and raw, don't tip toe around answers or qualify too much to her, tease and be fucking relaxed. Dont be afraid to touch or guide her as you guys are walking around but if it feels "awkward" don't do it you'll just look like a tool. Close, Close, Close, Unless you feel a deep connection with the girl don't let 3 dates go by without some heavy sexual investment. Ideally by the third date you want her to come over to your place or at least be able to bring her to a private area where you guys can have fun. Never forget that you should be seducing your girl, not just talking to talk.

Very good, these are the types of posts we should see from other guys who want to get better with women, there's way to many guys on here who complain about not getting any tail but sit at home beating off to there computer screen expecting shit to happen

@coca You should go up to chicks and say "I can't get any girls because all the hot jocks keep banging them" Better yet, why not politly ask one of the frat boys if he can bestow you one of his girls for the night?

Theres no magical way of immediately feeling better, just understand you're going to have to let this go at some point or its just going to eat you alive. Get out a piece of paper and write down all the lessons you learned from experience and just try to forget about it for now. Don't want to sound like a dick but it's only 2 grand, give it time.... and feel into your anger/frustation but dont let it make you bitter.

@longusername12345 Man I miss being a teenager, the number 1 thing that will kill you in high school is being to needy, you made a few mistakes that honestly couldn't have been avoided. Give her space go talk to other friends and try talking to other girls, just don't initiate contact with her for at least 2 weeks or until she contacts you first. When she does, completely skip over the car incident and if she brings it up just casually brush it off like you guys were talking about the weather. But expect her not to feel the same way about you after you fumbled the bag Since everybody's giving their failed experiences I got one for ya, Back in 11th grade somehow I managed to game one of the finest girls in our grade and convinced her to sneak out of school with me during a pep rally. We sneak out and tell her to drive back to my house laughing how we got away and I bring her straight to my room. We talk for a little bit, sill not believing we snuck out and started making out. We get all the way to third base and I start gushing how I had a longest crush on her and how beautiful she was and how we should be together and she laughed at me, literally stopped kissing me when we were basically naked and laughed at me. Ended up ruining the mood and she wanted to go back home and left me. I proceeded to go full stalker mode trying to get her back to my house for at least 2 weeks straight, enough to the point where she blocked me. After some time at the end of junior year I mustered up the courage to ask her wtf happened why did she ghost me when we were so close to banging, and she said "you just wanted it too bad it was so weird, we probably would've fucked if you weren't so creepy about it" This was probably the sole reason to what drove me to learn pickup now that I think back on it, letting a dime piece like her slip away after being so close still stings

@Kras It sounds like your relatively new to dating if your concerned about getting a kiss lol, sometimes it could be something your doin wrong, other times it may be completely out of your control. If you've only been on a dozen or so dates you have such little reference experiences you won't know which is which. Also not every woman needs to kiss you on the first date, thats what you want, most women dont want to sexuality commit to a man if its the first time their hanging out together unless you screen them out properly. You should work on building a sexual connection with your girl, making it more man to woman, being relaxed, seductive, ect. The very fact she said you she wants to see again even after you kissed her obviously shows she's still interested. Think of a date as "slowly boiling the pot" I dont know if your using Tinder or online dating but if you want more dtf girls you need a more polarizing profile, cast your net to a smaller audience with a bigger payoff. Join a pickup forum or reddit community and post your date reports on there and get feed back from actual people who go on dates, This would be your best bet on moving forward.

Isn't this a good thing because now there will be more regulation of big hedge fund companies? And if millions of people who are are investing their life savings into these bigs companies all of a sudden go bankrupt won't all their money be gone, so technically while reddit is doing something "heroic" there actually fucking up more people in the process. If this is the case I can see why Robinhood and these other corps are restricting trading.

I recently found out Leo doesn't stand in his videos he sits on a stool, that was a real ego-shattering moment had to rethink my life

Best of Wishes!!

Man you guys are blowing this way out of proportion its just an edgy teen action movie, relax

This is a pretty kick ass mentality but college?? Thats not where I would best use this mentality, go create a business, go talk to cute girls, reach your body's genetic potential all of this shit is difficult and its a lot more fun than trying to brute force your way through calculus or engineering.

Interesting thread, got a few questions for @Leo Gura How did you market Actualized.org when you first created it, did you post the self-development videos to build credibility with your audience to sell your LP course? Was the LP course your product and you created Actualized.org to market it? Was Youtube your main platform of marketing or did you use other methods as well? Why you think your channel stood out from other self-help gurus yt channels (before the spirituality) and gained traction. For people planning on using Youtube to market their services what key principles would you tell them to keep in mind?

Do both, work on your limiting beliefs and get good with girls, don't only do one you won't make much progress

@soos_mite_ah Theres actually a whole subreddit dedicated to finding stuff like this out believe it or not, it's called TrueRateMe. In my opinion the place reeks of incel and Redpill culture but their template on rating looks is one perspective to think about if you're interested. The general gist is that in terms of facial aesthetics a 1-3 is on the lower end end of the spectrum 4-6 is where most of society lands is 7 is your local hot chick or dude and 8-10 are model like status. This is the Rank system they use for Men~ https://i.imgur.com/1EpSoNB.jpg This is the Rank system they use for Women~ https://i.imgur.com/YlBqElb.png And this is how they determine those metrics~ https://i.imgur.com/vA5AUfp.jpg My take on it is that there are certain traits that all human beings find attractive and unattractive. One person may see someone as 5 but to you see them as 8 because they have certain preferences you enjoy (hight, build, race ect). This model does have its limitations as beauty is subjective but only up to a certain point. A 1-2 stands out just as much as a 9-10 does

I can actually give a unique perspective on this, my mentor isn't a celebrity but is extremely successful in his own right and the "vibe" you get from these people is on another level. You have no idea how "average" the people around you are (even that is an overstatement) until you consistently hang around people who have achieved massive success. These types of people are some of the most happiest and psychologicaly developed people Ive met and my worldview has expanded so much because of these interactions.

@Leo Gura Interesting thread, since your on vacation you should reminisce about your pua journey and put it on your blog, I feel it would help put some pieces together for younger guys who were once in your situation or the men who have this victim mindset on the forum. What was your "Wow this pua stuff actually works" moment? Every person I've met who went through their pua stage have all this moment, just curious