Bando

Pretty good video I like how Tyler tries to relate spirituality to practical advice/concepts, "low vibrational" people must be avoided at all costs, because sooner or later their energy transfers and the next moment you get randomly mad and don't know where it came from.

Instead of worrying about becoming a leader you should address this first. The way you carry yourself must scream "weakness" if your always designated as the butt of group. When someone says something about you you don't like call it out and address it, you will lose friends if you do this but the ones that stay will respect you and would be more inclined to let you take the lead.

@Gianna Be straight up if a guy wants to spend alone time with you and you think he might make a move make it clear you don't see him more than a friend and you appreciate his company but you could understand if he didnt want to continue your relationship. If he's a man of weak character this will show it right then and there, but if he's like most dudes hell be understanding and move on.

Volunteer work or becoming a teacher at something or engaging in hobbies you have interest in or already good at.

Sad thing at 13 she isn't mature enough to recognize that not addressing or healing this trauma will 100% fuck up her future/ how she forms relationships. Find subreddits that have a similar story to her, (theres tons of them) and ask her to create an account and read others stories/ encourage her to write about her own experience. She isn't going to be able to confide in others because she blames herself and her mother trying to cover it up has made her lose all faith in others trying to understand her. When she realizes that others are going through this and its not just her she will open up. 13 is such a vulnerable age because maturity hasn't even started to form the most you can do is show her the resources she can use to understand herself and try to lead her to them.

Don't worry about this, getting a strong number close is just fine, you want to make sure you at least meet her by the end of the week, the earlier the better, you want to set plans to meet the same day no later than 1 day after the #. The more sets your in, the better your "intuition" will be in determining your next move, this isn't something you can be consciously aware of this takes many trails and errors to get down. Getting the lay, one of the best advice one of my wings taught me was to aim to sleep with 10% of the girls I attract, if you can get to that number you'll be considered advanced. That means out of 10 numbers, you get 1 lay, this is much more difficult than it seems btw. This is why you have to run more volume, take a moment to think about it from a woman's perspective, that girl you met probably has an instagram, Tinder, Bumble, active social circle that she can go to events/parties with and lets not even forget the random guys that might approach her during the day. Imagine getting bombarded with girls like that everyday you'd have a very short attention span as well. Most guys have no social life, don't use dating apps, no social media and rely on being the "lone pick up guy" and magically think there going to be surrounded by quality women, thats not how it works lol. After doing a few approaches by yourself, I always recommend first finding 2-4 like minded guys you can routinely go out with, not only is it much more fun you can tap into their social networks and get invited to events you regularly couldn't get into by yourself. But to do that you first have to come of like a dude who enjoys his life, has hobbies, takes care of his body ect.

This is like asking why are so many people broke, they do everything but ask themselves the important questions

@Consilience Very solid interaction, good job going into the field and not creating threads complaining about women. A few tips to keep in mind next time is to screen for logistics early especially when you recognize there's interest, ex, "how do you guys know each other in the group" or "how long are you staying in this area." Not handling logistics is what's going to kill most of your leads that you get. Recognising interest and calibrating to it is one of the most important things you learn when gaming. You have to learn when its best to set up an insta-date, try to go for the pull or just get a strong number. In this situation, I would have asked to meet up the next day if she was available. Counter-intuitively you must strike while the iron's hot, especially with an attractive girl. With the amount of options a girl has if you wait too long she will literally move on to the next interesting guy she meets. Also don't worry about the whole "bro thing," find out the availability of a chick via logistic screening and then your good to go. Just don't be to gamey or to push too hard or else the group will get defensive and closed off. Many of your sets will go like this, One Rule of thumb is that you'll only be able to close 10% of girls that have interest in you and that's if your game is tight. Always remember that an average woman that's in shape has 10-30x more options than the average guy, 100x if the girl is attractive, it's not that she looses interest its just she has so many other options she doesn't have to wait around, this is why they do things like pull back out of nowhere, its not even a conscious thought, she just moves in her own way and most men will typically follow because they have such a scarce mentality.

Ofc its hard for guys to imagine why girls would treat nice guys bad, the average guy literally has close to 0 options when it comes to meeting woman and often have to settle with someone "beneath them" Imagine being hit on 24/7 the abundance mentality you would have would be unbelievable, why would you need to treat someone you dont like with respect when you can just move on to the next guy? If women had the same amount as options as the guys on this forum there would be no threads like this that exist because everyone would get along. Abundance mentality is what what creates entitlement, (which isn't a bad thing btw)

Avoid anything and anyone who talks about black pill guarantee you there's nothing good there except more limiting beliefs and useless info

@Javfly33 This is like being 50 and discovering that self-imporvement exist and now all you can think about is how much time you wasted, notice the feeling and use that as a sign to approach it gets better down the road

If your dealing with a shy guy who isn't a social person he may not be able to pick up certain social cues or indicators of interest you may throw at him. You may have to make the first move to get the ball rolling. I suggest you ask him to hang out or grab a bite or catch a workout, (if you still go to the gym) and have warm, inviting personality, the rest should fall into place if theres interest.

This is very true I used to run with a club promotor back in my pua days and routinely run into stunners at many of these clubs, id talk to the other dudes at that club and bring up a particular chicks name and they'd say "really you were with her too?" and we would laugh about it. You don't understand how many options hot girls have, they can easily attract many high value men and often times loop them around their finger, its like a fat kid at a candy shop. Id say most women nowadays have a body cu** of 15-25 and hot girls 40-60 based of what ive seen.

Thie mods should feature this, this was a very foundational episode and you did great work summarizing this, all while making the information digestible. @FlyingLotus

Stop listening or watching anyone that gives of this terrible advice. Combined with strong character, enhancing your appearance can littely 4x your success in attracting women i've went through it personally. Best tip about fashion is to first build a good body, (decent muscularity, no belly gut or noodle arms ect) and then wear pieces that fit. Finding good styles is the easy part turing your body into something that looks good in clothing is where the real energy goes to.

High calorie smoothies are your best friend for gaining weight. Get a blender mix Protein Powder, 2 cups Milk, Peanut butter, Oats, Spinach= 900-1000 cal, Drink this twice a day one in the morning one at night, thats 2000 calories all you have left is about 1000 more and thats pretty easy to reach in 2 meals. I was also tall and skinny and couldn't seem to gain weight no matter how hard I tried until I learned about blending my meals and downing it in like 2 min.

@Virtus ofc it is its highschool

Reframe the question to "should i learn how to talk to girls and develop good social skills" and then you've answered your question. I would work on building an attractive physique and learning about proper diet, start building out a good appearance and the rest will follow naturally. Also for the love of god DON'T get into incel/blackpill theory and tread carefully around red pill ideology. @Virtus

Make sure you don't use that camera you used during the charisma on command interview you looked like a tomato on that one

Next time do it, feel into the regret your experiencing right now for wussing out and realize if you would have gone for the kiss good or bad you would have an outcome that you could live with

No not just a regular dude, littelry 90% percent of the population, also BJJ is useless in an actual street fight, you never know if the person your fighting has other buddies who can kick the shit out of you when you on the ground. Never get put on your ass in a street fight that should be your primary goal after defending yourself. Learn how to box, learn a few takedown defenses and submission holds and your good. Also to OP, being physically capable is one of the most important thing a man can learn. Subconsciously understanding you could take another guy on if shit was to hit the roof gives you a deep internal confidence, also woman are more likely to follow your lead if she feels you can protect her.

Thats her boundary she may even want another 6 dates just to make sure your the right guy for her, if you want sex you have to screen that out earlier which requires the ability to walk away, which requires having options.

Dating for the average guy is already difficult, add the fact that most people in society aren't even "average" you get desperate men with a scarcity mindset

@Arcangelo Who cares, did you guys watch the documentary about him the dude was basically his own war lord, responsible for many deaths/torturings the dudes done enough damage in his lifetime

Don't do anything at all your not serious about life if people have to push you to do things you love, wait another 5 years and then look back and regret how you wasted time asking people when/how should I start instead of just starting.