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This could be due to a variety of reasons, including high investment in the female agenda and lack of awareness. She wants a gentleman, not a gentle boy. She assumes all males are men by default, yet the reality is different. I can't blame them, though. This is a Tier Two/Post-Conventional skill that rarely anyone has; To step out of your own perspective and agendas, and then include the other person's perspective as your own. It's just so rare within humans. Most men cannot see the validity of women's perspective, either. So, if we're totally objective, then everyone is to blame, or no one at all. That's one way to deal with criticism, but definitely not the best way. Inclusion is far more effective than exclusion, and it's beneficial for both parties. Women are roses, but roses have thorns. I'm learning this the hard way. Actually, it's the other way around. A healthy man will care about the safety of everyone, not only his woman, and regardless of everything. If he's a danger to anyone at all, then he's a sociopath.

The way I see it is that when women give advice, they usually assume that the male is already a man and knows how to handle people and life in general. Most of the male dating advice that I have seen so far teaches males how to be men in general, not only with women. The advice is not exclusive to one's dating life. It can and should be applied with everyone, because it makes masculine males out of the goofy & inexperienced children that most males are. For example, male coaches teach you the importance of purpose and the masculine frame. Such things aren't usually addressed in women's advice. It is extremely important to have that part covered in one's learning experience, because it is the foundation for everything else. Women certainly cannot teach a male manhood, but they can tell him what they like about men. On the other hand, their advice is extremely effective in the context of relationships. If you are already a man, their advice is gonna increase your success. But if you lack in masculinity, they won't be able to help you, generally speaking. For a woman to be a good dating teacher, she has to put a disclaimer like this: Go become a man first, and then come to me, and I will help you understand women.

The burning monk thing does not necessarily have anything to do with peace of mind. It's similar to a radical terrorist taking a drug and then blowing himself up. The difference is that the former is done consciously, while the latter rather unconsciously. Normal people who know nothing about enlightenment or consciousness work have been protesting and doing hunger strikes for decades, maybe centuries, regardless of consequences. This does not automatically make them egoless. Only two can play the death game: A human full of ego, and another devoid of any.

There's also the temptation to control the narrative, which is the hardest thing to get over, in my experience. I haven't been able to let go of all narratives except for brief periods of time. The rest of the time, I have some narratives running deep down in the subconscious mind. Even in the deepest states of meditation, it's still hard. The mind is conditioned by, accustomed to, and comfortable with false knowing. I know this as truth in theory, but cannot really make it a reality yet.

Remove gender from your head, and then judge. What do you see?

The number one thing that makes music great and timeless is its authenticity. Some music tracks feel so familiar, yet somehow strange. Just the perfect amount of each to create the most intimacy. Like you know them as part of you, yet somehow it feels like you're meeting with them for the first time. Love at the first hearing.

I was able to tap into the essence of intelligence during meditation and gained a few insights. Intelligence is one's ability to make distinctions combined with their capacity to go meta on them. For example, a newbie in chess can only see a few moves ahead into the game. A more intelligent/experienced player is able to see tens, maybe even hundreds, of moves. This keeps increasing with more intelligence/experience. Basically, intelligence is complexity. But intelligence is not a singular axis. There are different kinds of intelligence. They are all interconnected and affect each other in infinitely complex ways. You can be very intelligent on one axis but not very much on another. The sum of all the different axes will give a certain result and manifestation of your intelligence. For example, an excellent chess player is not only able to see hundreds of moves ahead, but they're also able to trigger their opponent's emotions without getting triggered themselves. These are only two axes of intelligence. We can add another one, like the ability to see that chess is just a game and that it's not real, especially when it is practiced in competitions. Another axis could be the ability to see chess as a game and still be able to play it seriously on demand. Another axis could be the ability to create traps for the opponent in the game. We can create infinite axes and measure the intelligence of a certain person according to them.

Correct, but I think what you said has more to do with embodiment than with realization. I'm not there yet, even though I've glimpsed it before. It's really hard to embody in practice.

@integral Look, all of what I said was to prevent a negative narrative placed upon me. I can play with narratives and make up whatever stories I want to suit my agendas and preserve/survive my identity. The bottom-line is that I don't want to feel like a bad person for doing what I'm doing. As long as I don't want to continue that behavior, I am fine, at least in my opinion. You were right when you called it mental gymnastics, because mental gymnastics is the only game in town. I've never really thought about my behavior until it was questioned here. But what's the point of telling me that I'm wrong when I already know that? It's only useful if I am ignorant of my behavior. But once I am aware of it and seeking resolution, I will not allow a negative narrative to be attached to me, because I love myself. People trying to spin negative narratives around my behavior are not entirely wrong, just not loving enough of me, but loving enough of themselves. I am loving enough of myself. Regardless, there is a middle ground. I think it is recognized when people stop trying to control me and just accept me for who I am and not take my behavior personally, because I stated that it's all about me not them. Really, whatever I say or do is only a reflection of myself. I realized that last night during a 3 hours session of walking meditation. It's an example and a proof of how powerful mindful/conscious debating can be.

But now you've finally had the honors of conversing with one, even though indirectly

This guy @zeroISinfinity is one sneaky undercover genius, but he's also clearly a fucking psycho. Reminds me of The Joker.

Yep. The concept of infinity is extremely crude in comparison. I'm looking at it, and it isn't actually a continuum, but rather an infinite set of distinctively separate elements. Twisted!

@zeroISinfinity That's because you don't realize that your perception is not absolute truth.

I was once like that. The need for appearing masculine is a social need being met unconsciously (truly masculine do not care what others think of them). Society places expectations on males to be strong, but most men aren't conscious enough to meet those expectations correctly. So, they suppress their feminine side and demonize it, which then turns into a shadow, which manifests exactly as described by OP. I learned this from Emerald.

Arab Muslims lived in the desert. It makes sense that they were rough because of the atmosphere. However, that didn't affect their affection towards beauty. They were mostly invested in poetry, by the way. Other forms of art came in later as they began to expand and include other cultures. I believe that the psychedelic arts came from Iran and India, but I haven't looked into it, so I don't know. It is said that Arabic poetry is Arabs' record of history. But that's around Mohammad's days. Nowadays, Arabs and Muslims are pure shit, to be frank.

Good grasp on epistemology is all you need, externally. Internally, however, there's no other way around spiritual practices. And actually, it's a lot more important than the books themselves. I would spend 70-80% of whatever time dedicated to spirituality on practice, and 20-30% on theory.

Seems like the last step, regarding realization. Passing through the gateless gate. Or in other words, accepting not-knowing as the ultimate truth.

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At first sight, I thought she was recording from the toilet lol.

I think Sadhguru is the smartest guru in our era, and by a landslide. I think he's very sneaky but only shows a little. There's something about his mind that makes him unique, but it's intuitive to me I can't put it into words.

Yep. Debating is actually a very good technique for horizontal growth, i.e. identity survival. But for vertical/transcendental growth, i.e. enlightenment, it is a limitation, unless applied with awareness.

Veins do not pulsate, arteries do. Veins are the vessels that bring the blood back to the heart, as opposed to arteries. Arteries pulsate with the heartbeat. Veins are the superficial vessels that you can see with your eyes, arteries are somewhat deeper and you can only feel their pulsation. An angry man who is not really conscious will not likely notice anything until there is pain, so his experiences are basically irrelevant. I mean, because veins could pulsate lightly at a higher blood pressure. The pineal gland could be the crown chakra, but I'm not entirely sure. I've read once that the third-eye chakra is not a single point, but rather a tunnel that connects the back of the head to the forehead. So it's more likely that the pineal gland is part of the third-eye chakra. The crown chakra is probably the frontal lobe of the brain. You want to be open-minded, but you don't want to do the research. How convenient? You don't know the difference between a vein and an artery, so you don't have the basics of biology covered. Maybe start with that.

@Emerald I see 0% absorption and 100% rejection of whatever I say. At this point, it's literally pointless to keep talking. Have a good day/night.