Gesundheit

Your mom seems lonely.

There seems to be different layers to what you're experiencing. On one level, you don't like how others are acting fake, from your pov, which is basically resistance to how reality is. On another level, you judge them negatively for being fake, again from your pov, which could be something that you picked up unconsciously from non-duality or from somewhere else. On another level, you don't think you're getting any value out of social interactions, but maybe there is value that you're not seeing. On another level, maybe everything I said above is false and you simply prefer being alone for no particular reason. In this case, you're probably nitpicking reasons to dislike people. On another level, if you really don't like people, then why are you telling us that? We're people after all, and this is probably a fake conversation. Are you looking for reassurance and confirmation from us? What is the value you're anticipating to receive from this thread? Idk, I can go deeper with this inquiry if you want to, but I'm just guessing here and you know yourself better. So you probably should be the one doing the it.

@Chives99 Everything is an indication that you want enlightenment, not just this particular desire, because enlightenment is the ultimate desire for the human being. Your behavior could be due to various reasons, including: Self-haterd & judgement of others. High consciousness narrative brainwashing. Mild levels of autism. Certain personality disorders.

Perspectives are life. We could say that the absolute truth is the sum of all perspectives, so no adjustments are actually required to achieve absolute truth, because it already & always is the case. We lie, but that doesn't make the lies anything more than they actually are. The substance of a lie is thoughts, and thoughts are imaginary. Lies are imaginary, so they don't actually exist. We can believe them, or we can not. But either way, absolute truth remains unaffected, because beliefs are perspectives that occur inside absolute truth.

Most "highly conscious" people seem naive to me, especially in politics. Other blindspots include: High levels of sneaky judgement, which is covered by the belief of being non-judgemental. High levels of neurosis/desire for control, which is renamed to good intentions. False beliefs of superiority, development, and advancement. Double-standards. Stubbornness and closed-mindedness, especially when it comes to their identity. Personally, I think that blindspots are inevitable, and that nobody's perfect. I have some of the things that I said above, but at least I'm aware of them.

@GreenWoods There's only one absolute truth. Perspectives are just perspectives. Absolute Truth is not a perspective.

Potential is a thought, it occurs inside the actualized creation.

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Although, a focused one, and not so flaky or all over the place.

Up.

Acceptance = awareness of change.

This is so true, actually. I used to have a female friend who would keep talking about sex all the time even though I told her it made me feel awkward at the time. When I got over that awkwardness, she told me that a lot of girls watch porn. I asked her what about you? She said that it doesn't turn her on and that she prefers erotic novels, but she watched porn nevertheless out of curiosity. Anyway, the two most important keys in socializing are: Volume. Increase your exposure by meeting more people. Detachment. Don't expect everyone to like you. Everything else is a red herring. Work on these two things, and I guarantee you will have success. In the process, you will notice your levels of confidence increasing, and that's the point. You don't have to fit into other people's expectations of you unless you want to.

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I think it's an impermanent mode of being.

In my entire life, I've only ever asked God for one thing, Truth. And He delivered.

Tread carefully with blissful states. There's a fine line between heaven and hell.

Is hatred selfish/inferior compared to self-love?

@Someone here I can't say that something is healthy or not unless you first define certain desired outcomes, because health is defined by them. And even then, due to the fact that I can't possibly know everything that contributes to that desired outcome, I can't give an accurate answer. Ultimately, I don't think anyone can answer this question for you because it probably depends on your lifestyle and how you want your life to be. But generally, it's known that porn is more likely to set you up for failure in bed due to overestimation and disappointment, but that probably depends on what kind of porn you're consuming and how you're consuming it, I mean intensity, quantity, and the way you're perceiving those images. Then again, what are the things that are allowed and considered healthy and proper for you? We can speculate, but we can never know. Should it all be avoided? I don't know, but humans survived without it, so it's not exactly a necessity. On the other hand, let's think about porn in comparison with regular TV shows. Just because porn shows explicit material that we're reconsidering consuming it more sounds a little bit biased, don't you think? After all, everything around us affects us in one way or another, even radio waves could be affecting us. Then again, many people advice against wasting time on watching TV, and many others are addicted to it. What does TV shows do to us? I don't and can't possibly know. That would require me living before TVs existed and making some comprehensive research into life before TV. And even then, there'd be lots of other technologies that I would not be able to isolate. You see what I'm getting at here? Health is very complex that looking to maintain it loses its meaning and becomes pointless eventually, because you could always do everything "right" but screw up at some point or just have bad luck. There are no guidelines for watching porn, but as long as you're overall happy and able to perform well in bed and satisfy yourself and your partner, there shouldn't be any problems. Allow your body & mind to satisfy their curiosities, but also beware of addiction loops. I think that's the most we can say about porn.

Lol define harm.

Judging help negatively when it could potentially change a person's life is problematic too. You're damned if you do it and you're damned if you don't. You may be feeling hurt, but you shouldn't demonize helping others, because otherwise you wouldn't even be here telling me what's right and what's wrong, which in and of itself, is ultimately a form of helping others. If you're helping me, then who are you to offer me help? And if you're not, then your post is pointless, especially when written on a personal development forum. Demonizing help is like demonizing doctors and hospitals.

@Etherial Cat Cool.

See? That's all you do. You deny that you have made a mistake by starting the conversation on this topic. Because you don't want to take responsibility for your own actions and you want to blame me for your own problems. Your perception is too clouded by biases that now you're providing false information. Leo was not advising me. He wasn't even talking with me. I deliberately replied to him, and you deliberately replied to me. That particular post was not directed at you, and you started this conversation. End of discussion. It is okay for many people/women to see a random dick flashed at them, like it or not. This is reality.

Bravo! ?? You nailed it ??

There is a distinction to be made between being gaslit by someone, and being stuck in a victim's mindset. It requires certain levels of maturity and emotional intelligence to be able to see that distinction. Gaslighting is an intentional manipulative behavior that does not consider the best interests of the person who is being gaslit, and often times it aims at hurting them. Being stuck in a victim's mindset is a lack of insight or ability to see what's possible outside of the current paradigms, while denying that that could even be the case. It's very similar to closed-mindedness, except that it has an additional layer of victim persona. Victims can easily confuse the two dynamics, as it is the case in the other thread. And the ones who try to help are usually the ones who get the most trouble. Because how can you get the blind to see? You see? But victims are not just blind like a normal closed-minded person, they're blind and yet they believe that they have perfect sight. And then when you come and tell them that there's something wrong with their lenses, and that they can be cleaned up, you will be called a gaslighter, of course. This confusion is a classic ego-mind survival strategy to maintain itself from dissolution. The ego does not like to be called out on its BS as much as the shadow does not like to be exposed to the light.