Jacob Morres

https://www.shinzen.org/wp-content/uploads/2016/08/SeeHearFeelIntroduction_ver1.8.pdf Comprehensive and practical

you were pretty clear haha. but its all good happy youve grown ?

What happened? Didn't you used to insult guys like that

You can definietely find therapists that fit these needs Just a thought but maybe a therapist that has training in life coaching. Especially since your goal you said to self actualize I'd suggest to read people's bios and get a sense of people's style and see if it's a fit (through reading bios, speaking with them (consultation), or doing a session)

Also I just realized that mindfulness is a great tool you can use. When you are mindful and in the moment, such thoughts just get observed in the present moment rather than identified with (therefore reducing the suffering that it causes from them) https://www.shinzen.org/wp-content/uploads/2016/08/SeeHearFeelIntroduction_ver1.8.pdf I'm using shinzen young's technique for the time being

?? something something correlation =/= causation

@Raze results r skewed bcuz of the uneven #s lol. If it was even # of ppl both sides the results I'd wager be equivalent

@Raze there is a trap with stats where they dont account for the whole picture for ex: that graph doesnt account for the fact that dating apps have multiples more men than women on the app hmm maybe confirmation bias?

you attract what you are ? LMAO god i gotta stop

this guy was an ex-rsd coach, he talks about a lot of the traps within rsd and pickup. may be helpful to some if it resonates https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCl3DQIFqAzhu6nJoyVpf2HA/videos im still pretty pro pickup but noticing its traps can be very beneficial in the long-run

https://www.reddit.com/r/exredpill?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share Interesting find

i think simultaneously everyone can and also can't

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@Rilles thanks for sharing

Getting back w my ex was the worst decision of my life. Ofc our situations are probably different but I'd check your intuition on this one

@Happy Lizard i think there might be an issue between values and emodiement of values wdym not being able to fathom? like she thought u would be extremely mysigonist or be anti-lgtbq or something?

Yeah my opinion is similar to this I think generally when you have a perspective bashing another group, there's a bigger perspective missing Like maybe bad similarity but when u call a homeless person who complains, a lazy person without work ethic, you are missing some key insights about the person and the system that created him and what makes it hard for him. Like maybe mental health and therapy for certain disorders for example. But then we apply the 'lazy' label and it's not a holsitic, empathetic or nuanced opinion.

Too negative of a perspective He treats women weirdly on his podcasts Some of the stuff makes noo sense when he's calling out women. He's being way more immature than the women sometimes on the podcasts. He's more or less on the same level of immaturity as them

Same I'm undoing a lot of the old ways I did personal development. I love stage orange. I love making $, competition, mastery etc.

@Lyubov ye I've heard bdsm can be done from anger or lust. The former I think is very unethical. Maybe even abuse rationalized as bdsm

I don't like using a ranking system, but leo to my knowledge only goes for 10s and he's not a 10

same. when i was ripped it literally didnt help cuz my game was so bad LMAO. dudes cant get away without game (or confidence, whatever)

@itachi uchiha keep your eye out for 7s with guys that are less than 7s. you will find a lot

@Blackhawk damn bro, i empathize with you bcuz if i hadnt had some lucky experiences i would have felt the same way. i felt like that for over 5+ years. it's not true, i would definietely put some effort into help and finding some friends/therapists who can help every self-image you have about yourself, it doesn't matter what it is for the most part is just a confirmation bias. i'm smart, i'm stupid. i'm funny, i'm unfunny, im attractive, i'm unattractive, i'm lovable, i'm unlovable etc. etc. are just self-fulfilling prohecies and confirmation bias. but how do you undo these confirmation biases/self-image? ime what worked for me: Eckhart tolle Law of attraction 6 Pillars of self-esteem Mindset - Carol dweck Tom Bilyeu Good philosophies and teachers that help Good friends to help An intention and desire to improve Meditation Self-image therapy It took many years for me to undo it so I understand. It's not an easy process, but there is a light (and other methods) To me it seems as though you just wanted to be validated. Which is totally okay. I understand that pain you feel. it's so real and i understand. It's also not true, an illusion

facts thoughts you've identified with . You can see through their illusion with enough presence . If you practice eckhart tolle mindfulness you'll notice these are thoughts not truth Tara Brach on Real But Not True: Freeing Ourselves from Harmful Beliefs: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yn8c1ex_eWs&t= The beliefs are probably stemmed from some trauma which youve identified with and then spent many years in confirmation bias with that belief. I know bcuz i'm still undoing mine but ive made a lot of progress in the last 3 months Since psychology is so complex i cant give advice because i dont know you personally - but trauma work by david r hawkins and self-image therapy has been helping me with this these realities are also available to you. 'Women love me', 'my brain is great', 'i'm good enough as you are'. not instantly but a work in progress. good luck! PSA: This is just a reflection of my own healing process and not meant to be diagnosed advice to everyone