Jacob Morres

how to vipassana; by tara brach Find a sitting position that allows you to be alert - spine erect but not rigid - and also relax. Clos your eyes and rest your hands in an easy and effortless way. Allow your awareness to scan through your body and wherever possible, soften and release obvious area of physical tension. Because we so easily get lost in thoughts, vipassana begins with attention to the breath. Using the breathe as a primary anchor of mindfulness helps quiet the mind so that you can awake to the changing stream of life that moves through you. Take a few very full breaths, and then allow your breath to be natural. Notice where you most easily detect the breath. You might feel it is as it flows in and out of your nose; you might feel the tough of the breath around around your nostrils on your upper lip; or perhaps you feel the movement of your chest or the rising and falling of your abdomen. Bring your attention to the sensations of breathing in one of these areas, perhaps wherever you feel them most distinctly. There is no need to control the breath, to grasp or fixate on it. There is no “right” way of breathing. With a relaxed awareness, discover what the breath is really like as a changing experience of sensations. You will find that the mind naturally drifts off in thoughts. Thoughts are not the enemy, and you do not need to clear your mind of thoughts. Rather, you are developing the capacity to recognize when thoughts are happening without getting lost in the story line. When you become aware of thinking, you might use a soft and friendly mental note: “Thinking, thinking.” Then without any judgement, gently return to the immediacy of the breath. Let the breath be home base, a place of full presence. While you might notice other experiences - the sounds of passing cars, feelings of being warm or cool, sensations of hunger - they can be in the background without drawing you away If any particular sensations become strong and call your attention allow those sensations, instead of the breath, to become the primary subject of mindfulness. You might full heat or chills, tingling aching, twisting, aching, stabbing, vibrating. With a soft, open awareness just feel the sensations as they are. Are they pleasant or unpleasant? As you fully attend to them, do they become more intense or dissipate? Notice how they change. When the sensations are no longer a strong experience, return to mindfulness of breathing. Or if the sensations are so unpleasant that you are unable to regard them with any balance or equanimity, feel free to rest your attention again in the breath. In any similar way, you can bring mindfulness to strong emotions - fear, sadness, happiness, excitement, grief. Meet each experience with a kind and clear presence, neither clinging to nor resisting what is happening. What does this emotion feel like as sensations in your body? What does this emotion feel like as sensations in your body? Where do you feel it most strongly? Is it static or moving? how big is it? are your thoughts agitated and vivid? are they repetitive and dull? does your mind feel contracted or open? as you pay attention, notice how the emotion changes. Does it become more intense or weaken? does it change into a different state? happiness to peace? when the emotion is no longer, compelling, turn your attention back to the breath. if the emotion feels over whelming for you, or if you are confused about where to place your attention, relax and come home to your breath. The particular sensations, emotions or thoughts that arise when we practice mindfulness are not so important. it is our willingness to become still and pay attention to our experience, what it may be, that plants the seeds of radical acceptance. with time we develop capacity to relate to our passing experience, whether in meditation or daily life, with deep clarity and kindness.

6/20: Cool comment I saw on reddit "A weak person will always be nice, because he is afraid of confrontation. But a confident person being nice, is a dangerous person. Because you never know what his true motiv is. Kindness however, comes from the heart, and anyone can be a kind person, confident or insecure, as long as it truely comes from the heart."

I think the way we perceive things is mostly the issue rather than the things themselves. I think trauma healing could help a lot here

Can we see your notes

Almost my experience too

@mr_engineer ah okay gotcha. Can def agree that there are a lot of negative parts of the left that I hope get tempered too My guess is hopefully it'll be weeded out in the long run

@mr_engineer Which pov do you prescribe to? The right has a ton of biases. Status quo bias, nationalism, traditionalism, free market bias etc.

Befriending and learning from guys who are good at talking to girls is also really high leverage

Found this pretty nice video of a guy doing 100 approaches Got mostly no, but got a few yes, despite having low game lol

it's hard to say theres so many variables. Id need a ton of context to know what happened. Could be a personality mismatch, maybe a social cue missing, maybe something you could change in your grooming, maybe girl is in a single phase idk. part of it is a numbers game, part developing social and flirting skills, part working on your self esteem, part working on your general attractiveness

maybe good looks (face, height, body), fashion sense + grooming, $$ and field of work, status, social skills + charisma + ability to flirt, emotional availability

Yeah I notice this too. Even can happen when you get money, status, skill. Can float your ego. I think its like a hierarchical thinking in humans head I don't have a full solution, but personally doing contemplation on the importance of equality, and deconstructing hierachies and that nobody is higher or lower has helped me a lot I think that's actually an entering point into stage green ?

totally get why you want him to realize his mistake, and it's only fair that he puts in the work to fix things. But at the same time, you gotta remember that a good relationship needs respect and open communication. If he's really sorry and wants to make things right, he's gotta understand why what he did was wrong and actually do something to change And I get it, you might want him to feel bad about what he did, but holding onto that anger might end up doing more harm than good. It could get in the way of you moving on and healing from this and could dmg him too Just my 2c- Let him know how you're feeling and how his actions hurt you. If he seems genuinely sorry and willing to change, then decide if you want to give him another shot. But if he just brushes off your feelings or doesn't get why he was in the wrong, id bounce Sorry in adv if advice is unsolicited

My favorite: Big picture: Videos on self-love Spiral dynamics Practical/success: Power of asking questions Massive experience is king How to contemplate (with a journal) Mindfulness with labeling What is wisdom 65 principles on the good life Epistemology: Science series What if reality is nothing but perspective? Holism Content vs structure How ideology works What it means to go meta Understanding relativism Meta-learning: Learning = observation = making distinctions = behavior change Damn I just realized how much gold homie put out. Christ

@Danioover9000 yeah could see that. Unfortunately what gets viral are toxic versions of a pov, even for the left. Which is what op is reacting to actually

@CARDOZZO i feel that. same with India. A lot of people think it's just poverty

@Danioover9000 I'd love to see a healthy, nuanced example of a conservative saying that tbh. I've not seen that type of critique yet. Ben Shapiro, classic popular conservative, for example has a lot of bigoted takes mixed in. I'm not sure how far you can get with that ideology https://glaad.org/gap/ben-shapiro/

I agree with that post but not this part, that it's the pov of the conservative. Ur like critiquing progressives from above but Many conservatives are against the movement as a whole, they'll point to one part of the movement as evidence of the movement being negative as a whole. Basically throwing the baby out with the bath water, lacking nuance, like OPs posts. It's like a blue vs yellow critique I guess

@Boethius ? sheesh good post On top of that, gave me a great idea on how to turn theory into practice ?

Ah i see I think a lot progress was made i do think a lot of progress can be made. I don't think cultural acceptance is here yet Gallup poll 2022 says that 30% of people don't support gay marriage in America. Now that's crazyy https://news.gallup.com/poll/1651/gay-lesbian-rights.aspx And acceptance just started very recently, maybe in the last 10 years. Things like internalized homophobia, that takes a long while for everyone to be on board. It doesn't heal so quick

Honestly this is a great journalling question You can probably just journal, how do I love myself and come up with answers For me, it comes up as being easy on myself and giving myself patience and grace Just saying I love you to myself works great too, and also talking to yourself kindly as you mentioned Another thing that might be worth mentioning is leo said in a video that you can literally fall in love with yourself. Thought that was pretty cool at least for me bc that's a potential healing goal we can have But great question, much needed for my contemplation session

Are you touching her weird?

What is that you dislike about LGTBQ? I'm just going off your comments of not liking pride month, not wanting it talked about it schools, not wanting there to be gay sex etc. Genuine question nothing srs

What do you guys think are the most important principles when you want to attain mastery? No wrong answers

Have some integrity with your sources and arguments dude , this isn't a thing