Jacob Morres

@Emerald I think in terms of attraction its more about conventionally masculine qualities – confidence, leadership, assertiveness, humor etc. it's the same with women too. If a girl is assertive, outspoken, aggressive (even ambitious too), it doesn't always fit the classic 'feminine' image. But I think that's changing tho I don't think girls (generally) dislike being kind, empathetic, sensitive etc. But it doesn't have the sexual attractive pull of what they're looking for in a 'man' If ur speaking non generally it doesn't matter, theres someone for everyone

@Princess Arabia I'd have to respectfully disagree, i think men and women generally go through different challenges and there are certain challenges that many men face that women don't face (and vice versa) Like getting sex or dates, can take quite some effort for the average guy. It's not in simple abundance like it is for many women. Like men generally will almost never have women hit on them, reach out, approach them, dm them etc. It happens but it's rare. Men also have to put 3-5x more effort in a dating profile to get even an okay amount of matches That being said, its a reality but it's easily solved with a bit of effort

Fair. That's meta

Yeah I think a reframe is important here. To an extent it's similar to job hunting. There's gonna be a lot of rejecting and you need a good frame around it. I just see it as part of the process. It's to be expected that only 1-5% of jobs will consider you Lol I think this dovetails nicely with the post on trauma someone made a few days ago here. Like one person might get traumatized from a rejection and another sees 1 rejection just as another number out of x

This what you're advocating for? > In recent years, the Chinese Communist Party under Xi Jinping Administration's policy has been marked by much harsher policies, including mass surveillance and the incarceration without trial of over one million Uyghurs and other Muslim minority ethnic groups in internment camps... government policies have included forced labor, suppression of Uyghur religious practices, political indoctrination, forced sterilization, forced contraception, and forced abortion https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Xinjiang_conflict#:~:text=In recent years%2C the Chinese,ethnic groups in internment camps.

Like if you keep talking to yourself in a desired way, can you certain inner voice that becomes a habit ? It seems very possible Like just like you talk to others, you can take that energy and do it to yourself I think you can create literally the way you fucking speak to yourself 💡💡💡💡💡💡💡💡💡💡💡💡💡💡💡💡💡🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯

6/19; the problem with hierarchies and tier lists is that they are so subjective and lacking nuance like top characters in a video game? sometimes i see heros that are F tier be rated lowly even though they have niche potential, some people work well on those heros cuz of personal strengths, and you can generally take any hero to high levels with good effort and skill. and sometimes they are false i wonder how much nuance maslow's hierarchy misses because of the way the model is structured i think information inherently might be lacking in nuance or something and in mad cases is subjective or some shit

It's not evolutionary advantageous, but I guess you could say there's are many things humans do that are not evolutionary advantageous

I think because most content is actually optimized for like clicks, engagement It's not fully geared for how can I have the best impact for the viewer

50% have 0?? Damn now for the individual you could say that's a good thing, as your competition is quite ass lol

I feel like mild trauma or pain from an incident is good because it helps you learn lessons Like if your bike breaks down due to a chain issue, you feel pain and buy quality chains from that point forward But I guess that's diff Very interesting question though. I'm perplexed

@CARDOZZO yep lol.. there's some news he's coming back now

The business was going crazy, #1 fastest growing startup of all time The business was a non profit initially so I think they wanted to slow down development to prioritize safety over profits Or Iono just guessing lol I also feel like features are gonna roll out super fuckin slowly now

i feel it's not the words persay, but just whether the judgement is there. but yeah great points tho it's a part of contemplation from leos videos. letting the insight about something arise from observation rather than ego

Fwbs are always great. Glad u found someone you like

@Lila9 are you as concerned about anti-muslim sentiment as antisemitism? How have you opposed anti-Muslim sentiment in ur life?

@Buck Edwards She said something like islamophobia is rational (relative to antisemitism) because of Muslim terrorists in a diff thread

@something_else first thing i thought lol. think about how u feel after u bust T.T

hmm have you considered using pomodoro timers? I find these pretty beneficial for me. basically you remove all distractions, work for 25 minutes on a task and then take a break for 5 minutes then do another one. then go as many times as you feel needed. theres some apps for this i find beneficial it also helps to gain some awareness around where the procrastination stems from. journalling and contemplation can help with that sometimes if the goal you have is too big it can be overwhelming. in this case one solution is you can start super small. like reduce it to a really small bite sized task, then accomplish it. then move onto the next one. that can help you gain confidence and build momentum there's also other root causes like bad health fundamentals, boredom, lack of meaning with the work, fear of failure etc. which all have solutions and for general motivation i find connecting with a meaningful and compelling vision helpful. some people also recommend using the negative as well for fuel, like thinking about the consequences of not taking action. there's lots of good exercises on this you can find

That's a good insight, the preparation is also important

I hypothesize a strategy and consideration for ocd, and trauma might be useful as well because you mentioned that, (on top of cold approaching, exposures etc.) There's a lot of evidence based and scientifically proven methods that can help here bc the science improved a lot over the years. So I don't think it's unique or unsolvable, there's a lot of good information for such issues

I think the online disinhibition effect has a small role in this too

Dropping metta meditation here in case anyone's interested. Can be useful at times in heated discussions Loll https://www.mettainstitute.org/mettameditation.html

I def think so. It can hav the potential to shape your personality and identity. Though, I also think you can gradually heal and grow out of those traumas

Decent advice from gpt4 Chatgpt4; here are three distinct actionable steps to help navigate away from the "blackpill" mindset: 1. **Diverse Experiences**: Engage in community service or join social clubs that expose you to a wide variety of people. By meeting and understanding the diverse range of human experiences, you may find that many people value qualities beyond just looks. **Limit Exposure**: Identify and unfollow or block sources of blackpill content on social media and other platforms. Replace that with positive, uplifting content that promotes personal growth and self-improvement. 3. **Seek Counseling**: Consider seeking counseling or therapy to unpack your feelings and beliefs. A professional can provide coping mechanisms and perspective on the blackpill ideology. They can help you rebuild your self-worth and navigate the complex nature of relationships. Remember, everyone has their own unique journey. While physical attractiveness can play a role in initial attraction, sustainable and fulfilling relationships are built on mutual respect, trust, and shared values.