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But you don't really know how he is with women, tho. That's more personal and survival based. That could be a whole different ball game.

You really can't kiss a girl without her consent, because if she doesn't want to, the moment you reach over she'll turn away. You can only attempt unless you're forcing her and push your tongue down her throat. At best, say to her "can I have a kiss".

I guess not, I'm kinda slow. Enlighten me,

Damn it's not like you're trying to get in her pants, it's just a kiss. This is how you do it, and of course if the signs are already there and in your favor. Lean over gently and touch her ear. Move towards her lips and kick your lips in a sexy manner. Stare her in the eyes, like you're undressing her and touch the side of her face with two fingers. If she backs away just say, damn you're beautiful and move away slowly, if she leans forward, BAM, go for it but first with no tongue, then if she reciprocates, go all in. That's how you do it. Just don't call me if she yells rape.

That's called knowing how to get what you want.

I'm stalking you. Damn, my cover is blown. NEXT. ?

We live in a mental Universe. Every creation starts with the mind. A thought. You are thinking with your logical mind. The Universe is illogical. You are looking at TV and commercials and social media and comparing yourself to that. Now that is the delusion. It is also possible to build confidence. You have to focus on what it is that you want and not the reasons why you can't attain it. Listen to the way you speak, you are creating that. You are sending that out to the Universe and it is responding to you. Everyone that come on the forum, or I should say some, and ask for advice on certain things, no matter what someone says, they always respond back with their own excuses why they can't or why it won't work. This is not about faking it till you make it but aligning yourself to your desires. The common thing I see with people is that they would rather defend their limitations instead of trying to learn how to empower themselves. Exactly what your topic says - victimhood. I was also a victim for years and I'm just starting to get over it a few years now and I've seen the difference. I don't look at what is going on around me, I change myself to try to align with what I stand for, what I want, how I feel and the outside world has adapted to that. I know I can't change the way you feel but all I'm attempting to do is showing you how you are sabotaging yourself with what you say about yourself. This is not woo woo stuff, it's how Reality works. Sex doesn't sell anymore, fear does, and it will cripple you. Anyway, all the best to you and I've come to the realization that people are where they are at and they have to see for themselves how they are creating their world, and unless you have a degree or wear a suit and tie or look like a Zen master, no one listens. I listened, I listened to the ordinary guy, the smart, ordinary guy and I've become more wise because I let go. I let go of what I used to believe and started to listen to my heart. I still have a ways to go, but my mental state is so much different now. I fall into traps all the time but I'm more aware of them and I go meta to get myself out. I don't worry about what I see on the outside, I concentrate on how I'm feeling. Am I anxious, worried, fearful these are traps. Just let go of yourself and know there is a higher power at work. Don't resist it and allow. The Universe is on your side but if you keeping believing you're powerless and a victim, you will not overcome your weaknesses.

In response to the dating aspect. Stop trying to build muscles to attract women. Women who are dating you just for your muscles are superficial and vain. Do it if that's what YOU like for yourself. Not all women care about that stuff. Tall dark and handsome is a myth. Guys tend to think most women go for looks and the physical because that's what they look for initially. Women are different in that aspect. Guys are more visual, women more emotional, and I don't mean emotional basket case, even though some are, just how you make them feel is more relevant to us. Confidence, masculine, a sense of humor, respectful, charismatic, playful, adventurous, and attentive to her - build on these traits. Forget the outer appearance as far as height, muscles and whatever else. As long as you're clean, smelling good (even if it's your natural smell), simply dressed (nothing over the top like you're in a masquerade ball or trying too hard to impress with all kinds of jewelry and polka dots and stripes, you get the drift). Walk with confidence. Approach with confidence, know that she'll be missing out if she rejects. Ask her to dinner or suggest a walk in the park with her. Hold her hand if she lets you. Don't stare at other women when you're with her. Make her feel special. The reason players gets the girls is because of how they feel about themselves. Not because they are so great, but they feel like they are, so they exude that. They feel confident even if they are a piece of shit. Doesn't matter in the beginning. They only try to get in a woman's pants quickly because they know they can't sustain a loving, respectful and long-lasting relationship because they have no grounding for that. But most importantly, see yourself with her. Imagine it. Put it in your mind. Visualize it. Make space energetically for it. Stop thinking negatively about women and open your heart to love. Not saying you have to love her when you first meet her or ever, but just open your heart to the possibility of finding a partner for whatever reason you want a partner for. Act as if you already have it. Know that you are worthy and feel as if you are already in a relationship or have someone in your life. Become what you want to attract. I'm not in a relationship at the moment but I remember when I was ready, it came in no time. I wasn't really ready emotionally because I had hang-ups about myself and men but it happened. The very same thing I feared, happened. It happened because I feared it, so I attracted it. But every other trait I visualized my partner to have he had it. Everything else he was, but the one thing I have a problem with I created it. I realize that now, and I'm working on it. It isn't easy, but I'm aware of it. Also, as you go higher up on the Spiritual scale and become more conscious, people get deselected out of your life without your doing. It's vibrational, that also played a part. Stop saying thing are failures, but opportunities to get better. As far as your other challenges, someone else would probably be more suited to answer those because I'm not in the career field. But I can tell you that it's not about the outside world and the mind can mislead you if you identify with it. It wants to keep you safe and the brain is still primitive and is only serving your survival agenda. It's very slow to evolve, so use your intuition and follow your heart not the mind, only use the conscious mind to make conscious decisions and to reason intellectually and logically.

Him: Can I have a kiss. Her: (saying to herself) this idiot, why doesn't he just kiss me Her: No Him: Why not Her: Can you just take me home Him: Ok He takes her home Her to herself after she gets home...NEXT

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I just love me some Michael!

Hi Mom Life is weird, but how can I say life is weird when I've never experienced anything but life. What am I comparing it to. Death? But I've never been dead. Or Am I, have I, are you, Mom. I don't, know. That's what I mean. Shit's just weird. Weird and beautiful at the same time. Sometimes I wish it wasn't such a mystery, and then I'm OK with it 'cause who wants to know everything about everything. Then what. What would be left to know. What would be left to experience, if you already know what's coming. Animals are just being animals while humans are trying to figure shit out. But what if there's nothing to figure out. What if this is just a stuck recording, just jeep playing itself over and over and over and over and over forever. That's what it feels like sometimes. Nothing new, just the same ole shit, but in different ways. The same shit showing up differently. So now I just create shit for myself just to act as it's something new, so I can solve that shit to create more shit to solve. Then I pretend I'm sad, just to find shit to be happy about, then I pretend to be happy just so I don't feel sad. I mean this shit just feels like I'm all alone just making up shit so i don't have to feel alone. Then when something great happens I pretend I got lucky or life is good, then when something sucks i pretend life sucks, I mean it just never ends. Nothing ever ends. Infinite gratitude for this Infinite Self. I can see it Mom. I love you Your little baby girl

You are it

I listened to him and he brought up some good points. Somehow I think he's half right and half wrong or inconclusive. I don't think it's so much the caffeine that's the problem, even though it does have some negative side effects, but how much are you drinking, what are you putting in the coffee and is the rest of your diet basically healthy. You can't always rely on studies because some are funded by the same companies that produce the stuff they're studying or the opposite, e.g a beer company could fund studies on the benefits of drinking beer. Maybe he's speaking about large doses and people who are addicted to it. What about green tea. It has caffeine even though there are non-caffeinated versions. It has some benefits and contains catechins called EGCG which improves cardiovascular functions and reduces oxidative stress. People aren't as addicted to green tea as they can be to coffee, so maybe it's not just the caffeine but what they are putting in the coffee. What about people who drink one cup per day and drink it black, is that a major problem. I can have one cup per week, am I still negatively affected. I just think there are variants he didn't discuss are are limiting his findings to only people who consume large quantities, what they put in it and is it causing them to become dependent on it.

I wouldn't take it as far as mental illness. A lot of people are this way, maybe in a different context. It's just not that obvious or realized because some people don't receive genuine love from their partners, just conditional, so it's rewarding in that way because both needs are being met. If most were experiencing your situation they would probably withdraw too, like we do with God.

If you're born then you must die. You only transform.

I don't think it's as extreme as that. Dogs hump all the time, doesn't mean they want to have sex with you. I didnt really jerk her off, I just rubbed her there and she was loving it till I felt something wet, I was like eww, then she started cleaning herself. She loves to be slapped too but only on certain parts of her body like the rear side and only if I'm talking to her in a high pitched sweet voice. My other cat that died liked the slapping too, not hurtful, of course. There are even videos on YT of cats that like to be slapped. I think cats are freaks or maybe i'm the freak.

I'm going to call Animal Control, Peta and the SPCA. Lol

I jerked my cat off a couple of times and she loved it. Please don't call the animal control or Peta or the SPCA.

As long as it's not to fill a void, travelling can be a good and rewarding experience. Give it a shot. You'll learn a thing or two, which is always a good thing. But don't let us choose for you, you decide even tho, suggestions and opinions can also be eye-opening. In the end, it's your decision.

Maybe you don't feel deserving of her love or maybe you like challenges and she's not a challenge. Maybe.

There. Now I have to figure out the multiple, but I'll figure it out, Leave it up to Leo to make things complicated/ easy, never in the middle. He's an extremist.

Just left click and drag highlight the part of the text you want to quot Finally, thank you. I just have to not highlight my own quote/post/comment. But that was easy to do.

I was just being idiotic. Don't mind me.