Princess Arabia

This is the key. Unless you have become so Aware and have dropped all attachments, replacing the old with the new and with something more enjoyable and in alignment with who we truly are, we will go back to the old pattern even if its something else that's still making us miserable.

Hi and welcome to the forum. Leo is an extension of us and we are an extension of him. We all do care, how we express that depends on the individual. Everyone that responded to you care. Everyone that responded to you smiled inside. You are a part of us as we're a part of you. No one is excluded.

Your identity certainly aligns you with that part of Reality that coexists with what you are being. Your beliefs will keep showing you more and more circumstances that iterate those beliefs which will in turn cause you to construct an identity whether consciously or not.

You're right, it's not a big deal. This what I said and the message that I'm trying to convey is not about positivity or negativity, but trying to shed light on who and what we are which is Awareness. That's it. Reality doesn't have its fuck-ups, it's how you're perceiving Reality that does. I'm not being judgemental about anything, just making statements about how things work. Resonate or don't resonate. Recognize or don't. I only said pointless because if I share what didn't get me laid it doesn't mean someone else won't get laid by that same thing. The opposite also applies but at least focusing on the things that do is more empowering. Assholes are getting laid too and so are narcissists and unkind people. What gets one laid determines on the circumstances not coming on a forum to say what doesn't. Thats my perspective and I'm sticking to it. You have yours which you're entitled to. Just like the OP is entitled to start a thread encouraging people to list their mistakes. All i'm saying is, in this case, it's not a one size fits all and when we focus on what works more things start to align with those intentions.

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These used to be my shit. At least we agree on the music aspect. Grindin'...

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I'm trying to empower people not lead them down a path of destruction. If I see where we are not lining up to how and why Reality is the way it is, how the mind can continuously keep us on a specific path and keeping us trapped in false identification, and lead us down a path of misery and entrapments, I will continue to do so. It is a mistake to keep your light of Awareness on things that doesn't serve you and to focus on the things that does. I have learnt this, and it would be selfish of me to not try to let others become aware of this if I see the opportunity to do so. What one does with this information is entirely up to them; but by me saying what I said, which was still in alignment with what the thread was about, someone might see it and choose to reflect on it and see the truth of what was said and come to their own recognition of this. What turns someone off from getting laid might not turn another off, so in that respect, this thread is pointless even though it still serves it's purpose. Everyone is different and have their own likes and dislikes. Sharing what doesn't get you laid is keeping what doesn't get you laid alive and well and it's only purpose is to keep you identifying with what didn't get you laid instead of moving to things that might.

That's an illusion. You're not disconnected from anything. It is the egoic mind that thinks it is. You're not even connected because connection implies disconnection. You are all there is. There is no separation. It's all mental. The illusion of separation is how we're able to experience life and to Awaken from this illusion is to recognize who you truly are and that is that which everything is appearing from. Untouched. We are all identifying with what's appearing and we claim it to be the Self when in all actuality these are all just reflections of the true Self. We have looked in the mirror and claimed the reflection to be real. It is, but it's not who we truly are. What you are can never change. Awareness just is. Now if we can just learn to enjoy the show and return back home unscathed, that is how to escape the so-called "maze" but it is all just illusory. How we do that is to not identify with anything just observe, let things be as they are without judgement. Even the criticisms, judgements, thoughts, emotions feelings are just appearing within the show and should not be identified with. They will dissolve back into which they came from. These are just appearances. "I am depressed" is just another identity the mind concocted and now that script is playing itself out. Everything that aligns with "I am depressed" will start to show up in your experience until you decide to change that identity. The illusion of time and space is what makes that possible. No time, no memory, no memory no identity, no identity, no suffering. The aim is not to "not have have an identity" but to chose wisely what you want to identify as. This is where the "I Am" comes in. Things will start to align with whatever we choose but it has to be consistent, embodied and without judging the old one. Just move to it within the mind and stay there. Thats why nothing is permanent. Reality is shifting to line up with whatever you choose to be, to become. It is not about killing the ego but to embody it and use it to experience what it is you want to experience in this realm. Now thats the challenge.

The elements are being imagined by Consciousness. So am I. So are you. So is everything.

Infinite Love is already having sex with itself. No such thing as human fulfillment. We'll be searching forever. There's nothing to escape from. You are it.

Yeah, me. To the fact that I cannot awaken anyone. They get pissed off and go back to sleep. That's my awakening.

Behave.

Looking at me?

What do you think your advice of "friends to go out with" is. It's a support group. Same thing. Just another kind. Different labelling.

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You're missing what I'm saying. The power is always within you and given by you. If she stays or leave, acknowledges you or not, you get laid or not, have a relationship with her or not, all that just happened based on who YOU decided to be. There's no woman deciding anything, it's all you based on who you've chosen to become. Now all that you see and experience is reflecting that back to you.

I think it's the so-called "normal" people that are queer. These people usually seem so happy and free.

See what a little bit of free mindfulness advice can do. It can open up endless possibilities. You're welcome.

You have it backwards. You decide who you want to become, display that and she will reflect that back to you. You are doing the deciding indirectly.

Welcome back. My mind was on you lately and here you are.

I can be a mindfulness trainer right now for free, and say to be mindful of using the word expensive because that will just keep what you want out of reach. Saying I cannot afford that right now, maybe some other time, is a better approach. Now, that lesson is priceless, so use it wisely.

Stop focusing on what will not...... and start focusing on what will. This heading is dis-empowering and is only keeping the mind stuck in possibilities and not actualities. Share things and circumstances that has actually gotten you laid and leave the ones that hasn't behind because those are only thoughts.

So, if they are you, there are no others to look at.

That's just a story you're imagining. Did you experience that. Why are we talking about what if's. What if you were to get arrested tomorrow for a dui, what if you were stoned tomorrow, what if I was mugged yesterday, what if you were to tell a girl you love her, what if the forum get's shut down tomorrow, what if is not Reality. Reality is right here, right now. I'm trying to show you how to imagine your way into your own Reality not what if so and so. There is no what if's but only in the mind.