Someone here

But I'm a nobody .no one will invite me on his podcast or TV channel. Doesn't that just come after I already publish the book and get a little bit known for it ? I will be known as the author of the book (X).

I wouldn't consider myself a materialist .even though I've got some orange shadow to integrate. I like to appeal to science for such issues. Of course you don't have an experience of consciousness ending or not upon dying..why? Because you are still alive! Duh ! The only way to know is by actually dying. But at least we can measure brain activity. We can measure signs of life. Death causes these to stop. There is no measurable thing that suggests any other kind of activity continues after death. Sure, you can't prove there's no afterlife, but that's the default position , so unless an afterlife can actually be proven to exist, the "only evidence against it" is now everything we know as the practice and study of statistics. The fact that there is no evidence in favor of it is precisely why the doubt exists. The doubt is not the evidence against it. Somewhat more facetiously, but shorter: I can't prove there are no invisible leprechauns playing in my room right now, but that doesn't make both this belief and its disbelief equally plausible. To those who do believe in an afterlife, I won't tell you to stop believing. You have every right to believe what you want, and I support that right. I'm explaining here why I disagree with that position.

Nah the next moment until you die is this life .you were talking about a life after physical death of the Current body . And the only evidence is what, just hope ? My view is less, "there is no next life ," and more, "who knows." For example..If you imagine you had never slept before and someone tried to explain what dreaming is, it would sound crazy. There would be no concrete evidence for or against it, except what other people say about it. This comparison falls apart in that people sleep and dream every night and can tell each other about it afterwards, but with death that simply isn't the case. Again, I'm not trying to argue for or against the existence of an afterlife. I just want to point out that in matters where you can't quantifiably measure things, matters like next life souls, and afterlifes, you can't prove or disprove things.

Not sure about sexuality . Your sexuality is highly dependent on your genetics. Also whether you are a male or female obviously depends on your genitals. So I don't think it's a social construct .it's all determined by biology. Society plays a role .but it's secondary. Biology comes first .

What next life ?

A very interesting article on NDEs and DMT trips. https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2018.01424/full DMT gets released naturally in the human brain while sleeping during REM sleep (the sleep phase when you have dreams). Those dreams are hallucinations induced by the release of DMT . And it also gets released during death . This is just my own speculation and interpretation of the article above . When you die you will first see a replay of your entire life in quick flashes .then your brain will release insane amounts of DMT .and you will enter a DMT trip basically where consciousness will begin to get speed up and you will see some weird ass hallucinations. Then after your brain is completely out of function ..the hallucinations will stop and something from two possibilities will occur .because there isn't a third possibility: 1. Either all of perceptions of any kind will completely disappear and you will enter a state of complete formlessness forever . Or.. 2.another dream/life /experience will magically appear out of nowhere just like how this life appeared. It doesn't matter what are the details of this new experience/lifetime. The only thing that's sure is that there will be consciousness of some sort. I can't think of a third possibility. . The religious belief regarding death doesn't make sense and lacks evidence ..You either go to hell or heaven based on how you did in this life. Everyone know that going to hell is going to be a hell of a ride, and going to heaven is leading to eternal happiness. But, if we go just to suffering and just to joying, are we still ourself? We live as a human beings, we sometimes suffer and be happy, and that what make us complete as a human being, because there is no happiness without suffering, and vice versa. So in conclusion..there is only two possibilities : 1.You die, it's just pitch black, your life just ends there. 2.we die ,we live and born again, or reincarnated as a person in the past or maybe someone we know.. So if you believe this, the chances are I am you, and you must be kind to me and others because we are you.

How do I gain life experience? I'm a 25 year old college student who's on the typical path that my parent's wanted for me: I pretty much already have a job offer in the business field after college. But I can't help but feel like all my life, I've missed out on crucial life experiences that my peers were able to have. I'm still a virgin, and have never really had my first real girlfriend. I'm not exactly ashamed of this as I know this is just my life path..but I want to be more charismatic and comfortable in my skin when I am in my social circles . I want to travel the world, have crazy and exotic life experiences before my body starts to decline from it's physical and sexual peak. But I don't know how. I feel trapped to live a "safe" life. My biggest fear is that I will wake up one day 35 years old and still single, wondering where the time went and why I didn't take advantage of being a healthy, young adult.

What's your favourite quote from Leo? Here's mine :" the biggest mindfuck of life is to realize that death is actually infinite love ". He said it in this video share your favourite quotes from Leo and if you remember from which video it is..then post a link to the video too.

He says I almost in every video ...quite a lot in the forum too

@cjoseph90 sorry for saying that .I apologise. @Federico del pueblo good openers...but a bit too nice and goody-goody? Don't you think ?

@something_else it's just not gonna work in India .I have made up my mind . im gonna get the hell outta here ASAP.

Yeah if she doesn't like fingering. You can use your dick . But who knows ..that's a tremendous existential question that needs years of contemplating and self-enquiries.

@something_else yeah like I said in my mind there is no other solution but to leave to a western country for a while. It's really hard to find sluts (just saying it as it Is) here .

What help do you need ?

@something_else The reason is pretty simple.in India, Most of the girls live with their parents up to they get married. If we somehow find a way to talk or mingle with girls, then girls will act like they are not interested…..But they actually are. Also, men are afraid of the girls family members… Dating is not a big thing here. We can’t just meet up a girl and ask for a coffee. Of course, these same girls do dating outside of India. So, It’s pretty hard to be in a relationship with a girl you don’t have access to( I mean you must work together and things like that) For example, you can have a conversation with a girl in your class, or your neighbor etc. But it’s really hard to start a conversation with a girl you just met outside of your daily routine. People outside of India ask for a date and then they eventually get to a relationship in this kind of times. Also, If we try to get to know their name etc etc…they will just slap us away because for them that is flirting, sexual harassment, Sexual assault etc etc…. That's why I'm considering moving to a western country for a month or two .

Consciousness didn't create itself . All there is ,is consciousness and full stop .nothing more .nothing less . We don't know where consciousness came from. Because it didn't actually come from anywhere. Nowhere in the universe it is written that consciousness creates itself . That's just a fantasy of yours . All of that is conceptual mumbo-jumbo. Its pure fantasy and has nothing to do with how reality actually is .

Yeah man it sucks but I can't make excuses. I never had a girlfriend in my entire life and it's not hard for me to get one but I'm an introvert and cringe while talking to people. yep with girls more. it's not I don't like them I like them but most of the time I make them cringe . Just few days ago I was at rajouri garden Metro Station(a place in India) and a girl started looking at me. I stared her too but then I thought she likes me and oh snap i approached her . Here is my conversation with her Me :I like you She :oh I'm not interested (think like a Victoria secrets angel) noh u can go please leave and don't waste my time. Me (my voice was shaking) :okay thanks My body overheated and I left like I was a plastic body And here could be a different scenario if I did this in western countries Let's assume that too Me : hey I like you She : OK I'm sorry but I'm dating someone I'm really sorry. Me:no it's okay She : but nice try though I think you can find someone Me : thanks There's a big difference in Indian girls and western girls A big mentality difference I have anxiety and depression and I thought I would be happy if I find some friends or girlfriend. These days I'm trying to approach guys also ..but not for gay purposes (non-sexual intent ). But just to make some friends. Because I currently have zero friends. And that sucks .if we don't mention the online friends of course like people on this forum etc. I consider myself a friend of Leo and that makes proud of myself. I'm a friend of god hehe ?

@Galyna nah I'm not gonna start a new thread in the spirituality section. I'm out for ideas for now . But you are welcome to jump in ,in this topic . What do you think is the perfect opener when talking to girls ? I wanna hear it from a female perspective. What you find attractive and what you find cringey?

Im not going to blabber about how all women are different and each will probably have their own way letting someone in their comfort zone But Based on this comment..you give me the idea that women will respond quickly to me turning the conversation "from social one to sexually charged one". However I found the best and safest bet is to choose the topic you are most comfortable with. As simple as that. The problem is I try to sound more deep ,masculine and experienced more than I'm really are .. If i try to talk about something i have no idea about, or fake my interests in whatever direction the conversation is going to be pretty much screwed. Women can feel it and that will already be a big fat red sign for her. BTW why did you lock the "cogito ergo sum " topic? I was having wonderful thought-provoking conversation with @Galyna. but no worries, I need to keep a lid on the mental masturbation

@something_else I've been forcing myself to talk to strangers (not just women)for quite sometime now. strangers all the time in various locations. I think my first problem is using the language of pick-up artists by calling a “conversation” an “opener.” It’s not, it’s a conversation. Leo told me the best way to talk to women, is as if they are "normal people" like anyone else. Never lead with anything that you see as complimentary or certainly anything sexual .. huge red flag. Does she give signs that she doesn’t want to be talked to? Because most women when I approach them give me the impression that they are not in a good mood and they don't want to be approached.

I Will try to explain what did Rene Descartes mean by that phrase .... What can you doubt? Well, you can doubt that an external world exists, that an evil deceiver might be magically making the world seem outside of you, or perhaps you are a brain in a vat, manipulated by computers to gain experience. You can doubt the truths of mathematics. Perhaps an evil deceiver just makes it seem like 2+2=4 when it actually equals 5. So what is it that you can’t doubt? Well, that you are doubting. In order to doubt, you must be a person doubting. Similarly, when you’re thinking, you can’t really doubt that you are thinking. You can’t be imagining that you are thinking and you can’t be imagining you are doubting. Therefore, it seems to Descartes, it’s clear that whenever you are thinking, you must exist. What it is to be you, however, doesn’t have to be what you think. You could be a brain in a vat, and not a human being. But at the very least you are a subject who thinks, at least while you are thinking. Now note that Descartes’s argument assumes that things we know with complete certainty are those that we cannot doubt. Also note that this argument at the moment doesn’t guarantee that you exist when you are not thinking. So when you’re sleeping, you might no longer exist. Furthermore, this is a very present-moment argument. Whenever I am thinking, I know I exist. I do not know that I used to exist and I do not know that I will exist in the future. All of that is subject to doubt.

Very excellent. I wrote something similar in my journal few months ago when I was having similar realization... I am nothing: This is not a philosophy or a theory or speculation.. This is a direct consciousness of what is actually the case.. The truth about what I am in direct experience. When I ask myself who am I? Or what am I? The first answer that comes to mind is obviously "I am the body.. This body right here.. What else would I be?". But who is aware of the body.? . If I am aware of the body.. Then the body is an object of perception just like the rest of the external world.. It is not the subject or the experiencer but rather another experience."maybe I am this or that".. I can't be anything I think of.. Because all thoughts.. Ideas and concepts are again more objects.. What is the subject.. The subject can't be located or named or identified because it is not an object.. If it can be named or located or identified it becomes an object and not the subject.. To be the subject it can't perceive itself.. It can't be an object of perception. I am pure awareness of the present moment.. I am not a person.. My name is not me.. I am not a male or female.. Not even joking lol.. I have no personality (so give me a break you idiots who say you know me very well.. There ain't no me lol).. I am not good or bad.. I am not sane or insane.. I have no characteristics.. I am not the doer of deeds or sayer of sayings.. I am the pure awareness of all these things. Inside of me.. There is an infinite regress of infinite regresses.. All my actions are 100 % unpredictable.. Everything about me is false.. I am nothing objective.. I am a mystery.

I don’t think it matters, however I do think it’s important to remember the difference in history and knowledge between times. For example, a medieval philosopher will have very different ideas than Plato, since Plato was Greek (and believed in the Greek gods), and a medieval philosopher will have his philosophy based more around Christianity. A modern philosopher will think more like a scientist, basing his ideas on science (or, of course, religion and earlier philosophers)

I just start a conversation based on whatever is currently happening. If I like a piece of her clothing for example, i just say something about it, then ask some more questions like name (and give mine as well), what are they doing/going, can I walk/talk with you a while? But I'm not getting the desired results. It comes off as boring openers. I want something flashy that can catch her attention immediately and get her attracted to me instantly. is it best to have some humor, i realized that making a funny comment or observation is almost always better than a simple compliment.