Terell Kirby

You are projecting .. not all of Stage Orange is toxic.

I suggest you leave this to professionals who are in the psychology field, don't take on that burden .. it will most likely backfire and impact the relationship negatively. Encourage, not force, her to seek professional help .. such as therapy, counseling and/or coaching.

I used to deal with being forgetful and making mistakes a lot. Growing up, my parent made me feel bad about it all the time (I think it was a major contributor to my childhood trauma). It could be neurosis involved, but the important thing is to not take forgetfulness and mistakes too seriously (in terms of letting them define you). Humans are flawed beings, if any person criticizes another for making a mistake .. they are foolish. Mistakes are a part of the human experience. Learn to love yourself unconditionally.

When you die, you are born again .. to infinity So much that life and death become indistinguishable.

You may want to ask yourself if you are being self bias. You may see things a certain way, but that doesn't mean the other person does .. or should see it your way to please you. Fear of losing someone creates codependency in relationships. Looking for others to complete you leads to unhealthy ways in maintaining connection through guilt tripping and manipulation. You must be able to give to yourself what you expect others to give to you .. this is the process of bringing your whole self to a relationship.

The post seems all over the place. Enlightenment begins with a desire. Desire is fundamental to this path, transcending your desires only happens after using them to get you to God realization.

I don't have a natural inclination to murder people...so no for me.

Trying to change others will lead you to much frustration. You are not here to force change onto people. In this situation, focus on what you can actually control, which is your emotions. Instead of trying to change your friend, ask yourself if you can love him as he is. If not, it is best to move on and find more compatible friends.

Transcending fear doesn't mean it goes away .. through understanding it, you learn to love it .. therefore not needing it to be removed from your experience.

Headed out tonight to see how this works. I typically indulge in shots and cocktails to build a bit of liquid courage in approaching .. but just working with raw courage tonight lol. Wish me luck .. any tips / shared experiences would be great.

@SamC Thanks for the feedback. The night actually went way better than expected without alcohol (liquid courage). I was actually more social, and more coherent, attentative and focused during my conversations with groups of women. Eye contact game was even better. I was even more open to chatting it up with random guys who were also out on prowl .. we became friends to the point where we approach clusters of girls as a team. This was really awesome. Not to mention (perhaps the best point), I didn't feel like shit the next day lol. I plan on going out sober again really soon.

The statement "I deserve" is quite selfish. It implies wishful thinking. It's better to see it as a craving .. something you want in life. There is no problem having wants, as long as we know the work we must put in to obtain that which we want.

She may not be attracted to you for whatever reason. That loss of attraction could be related to how you are showing up in the relationship as a whole, and it manifest in the form of her not being turned on in the bedroom. The hardest thing in the world is getting a woman to admit if she’s not that into you (they tend to not want to hurt feelings). Start by asking high quality questions on how she feels about the relationship and your future together. Remember: women are attracted to sweet men, but also men of strength. She cannot ever love you fully if she doesn’t respect you as a man who can lead himself .. thus being able to lead her .. in and outside of the bedroom.

This makes absolutely no sense. Sounds like you are using this as an excuse to not game at the highest level. Definitely displaying pussy-like behavior. Good thing is you are able to be honest about it. Try to avoid negative self talk and you’ll be fine mate.

Why don't you take an anti-troll pill ? Or maybe an open-mindedness pill? It would do wonders for ya

Very good. You are indeed imagining their direct experiences, as well as your own. You are doing good .. keep it up .. get even deeper. Ignore the naysayers, and people who want to debate. You alone will know .. and you don't have to defend your Truth.

Then what’s the point of any spiritual teachings/teachers? There would be no need for them if this truly was the case, as all of mankind would be woke. I think your perspective on this diminishes the hard work that truly enlightened sages / mystics suffered through to obtain liberation. One who reaches this knows it is not effortless by any means.

God realization signifies the end to seeking ones true nature. For me, meditation was a vehicle to get me where I needed to go. Now that I’m here, is it really even necessary to continue daily practice? I want to be sure .. maybe meditation after God realization is like becomes like working out at the gym .. you may have one a gold medal, but if you rest on your laurels and not maintain your body, then you’ll become a fat slob. That may not be a bad thing at the same time .. hell, you got your medal already anyway. Just some thoughts.

Well my confusion isn’t tied to my direct experience as God, the confusion is from the short phrases you use to get your point across .. so I try to make the best assumptions I can. No need to change anything though

Hmm still confused. Seems as though you are calling me an ego, which you have the right to do .. but it doesn’t really address the topic at hand.

Not sure I understand. Would you be kind enough to expand?

@ADD unless you are born enlightened, then there is not really a case for not doing spiritual work to reach enlightenment. Recognizing that everything was an illusion only happens after you bust out of it, and that requires effort through practice. Busting out of it doesn’t happen through sitting on ones ass, lying to yourself that you have always been enlightened. This is where the work comes in, and where the achievement (breakthrough) lies. Humility on the journey is key.

It’s not a matter of already being complete, the whole point of spiritual work is finally realizing that you have been complete this whole time. The knowing is not guaranteed, and the knowing is what those who do spiritual work aim to achieve. Be careful with post like these unless you are very clear about what is needed on the spiritual path. Newbies cannot escape having to put in the work to reap the fruits of their labor.

Good point. We can become God realized but still have traces of ego .. fear is usually a good indicator.

Can you expand on how you define suffering? Relatively speaking, If you define it as the vanquishing of all human problems, that is not experienced with God realization .. nor with anything else. humans are meant to have human problems .. as long as they are finite and subject to physical death (ie. the issue of survival). As the Buddha once said .. life IS suffering, I believe this is what he meant. Particularly in reference to the design of human life. But from God’s POV, the real suffering ends through realizing one true nature that allows it to finally escape identification with human form .. along with having the proper perspective on the nature of reality. This has happened for me.