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Sound baths are conformity .. I did one yesterday

Seems a bit dissociative dont you think? I'd imagine Consciousness work would not cause you too look at your mother as some hollow algorithm. You are hallucinating your mother, an appreciation of your Mother's existence is the same as appreciating your Mind & imagination. Same goes for humanity, same goes for all of Reality.

This helps. I have to keep bringing myself back to the truth that the talking head on my screen called Leo is a projection of my Mind. Most projections of Mind are there to serve my limited worldview and identity as human- even when I don’t necessarily want them to

Spiritual pragmatism- most religions and New Age paths are grounded in this. What works is conflated with what is True. It’s takes a highly non conformist mind to be able to make this distinction. How can something that works for human flourishing and well being be false? Does not compute for most human minds

Depends. Maybe you got a mystical vision after doing shrooms, the awakened spirits told you directly that a dog in your apartment will bring you good fortune . In this case you would be testing it out-not out of conformity, but to see if the awakened spirits are full of shit or not

Conformity vs non conformity- Is like the difference between buying brand name products for superior quality vs buying it because all your friends have it. most iPhone users couldn’t tell you what makes iPhone superior to Android other than all the fact all their friends have iPhone Apple conformity!

That’s deep

Conformity is a key ingredient to the functioning of human society. An extreme example- some of us are less inclined to murder someone in broad daylight because of social consequences. Anything that we do that is influenced by the opinions of the groups we identify with is conformity in a nutshell. Non conformity may not look like going out and murdering someone in the face of social pushback, but it does start the process of asking why we put value in social acceptance in the first place. To do this- we have to start identifying less with social groups in which we belong to. This is risky depending on what degree we are attached to such groups. Participating in conformity can be done from a higher plane, but first requires questioning why we do the things we do.

On the heels of the latest Actualized.org video on conforming, I'm now realizing how empowering it feels to say NO. Saying NO to unhealthy things, is saying YES to healthy. This entire year, I've been assessing what has worked for my personal development and growth, and what hasn't (includes people, activities, ways of thinking, etc). It has become all too clear now the ways in which I limit myself and my growth for the sake of being liked and approved of. Saying NO is one powerful, under utilized tool in this work. I hope to get better at it as I age and develop.

Sounds like you may have been unsure of yourself whilst setting boundaries. When you’re a doormat, some friends and family will certainly get offended when you start setting those boundaries. It’s a shock to them. But kudos to you for doing it. Takes practice.

Yes- Absolutely speaking, God is Formless Emptiness. This is separate from relative states of consciousness, in which form and non form are temporary depending on which state precedes the other- this relativity is a feature of Formless Emptiness. Absolute must include all relative states of form and non form

Emptiness (or Nothingness) is the backdrop of all form. But then again, there is an illusory boundary between the two (form and non form)-two sides of the same coin. The coin itself is permanent- yet at the same time unidentifiable and can’t be conceptualized or spoken about- making it Eternal. Recognizing and coming into contact with the coin leaves you speechless, as it should. How do we come in contact with something that can’t be perceived or conceptualized? No answer is satisfactory I’m finding- it’s an entire process of self discovery. Awakening is a pointer to realizing never ending unfoldment of reality & Consciousness

how long is long term? Of course there’s trade offs, stability and comfort of existing LTR vs new challenge in dating younger (exciting but not easy starting over)

Good for you

Filtering will always be a challenge as hetero men are visual more than anything. She can be a great woman with integrity and character but we put emphasis on hotness before anything. We go for the highest degree of hotness we can obtain before anything else

Imagination is a common term used in this work- very easy to misinterpret. The name of the game is becoming conscious of how the mind constructs reality. The process of construction is what is referred to as “imagination”. Becoming conscious of this process is no easy feat as it requires to some degree going beyond Leo and Actualized teachings. Only you can validate it — possible but daunting. When you do, you’ll get it directly, and you won’t need validation from anyone on this forum

35 year old here. It certainly changes as you get older, but the fundamentals still apply. Building an active social life is essential, finding places where attractive people congregate and setting up yourself up to meet a lot of new people on a weekly, monthly basis. Easier in big cities- nightclub, coffee shops, yoga/pilates classes, run clubs, exercise clubs, parks etc Local events with DJs, dance floor are always good.

I’m sure we can find them on your booklist, but can you mention any specific books that help obtain with cultivating this kind of mindset? That would’ve useful for the sake of this forum post.

Hetero male here- Most (if not all) my struggles were a result of the inability to flirt and build attraction with the opposite sex. The only cure for it at the time was practice through socialization with more women (people in general).

@Hojo not sure what planet you’re living on dude. 18 is considered legal in the US. What about 19 year olds who think 18 year olds are attractive? Are they pedophiles as well? What about the 18 year old men who have fetishes for Grandmas in their 80s? Reverse pedophilia?

Simple, they haven’t had a direct experience of it. God is REAL, but the only ones who can justifiably say that are those who have had Awakenings. The issue is most people who believe in God do so through hearsay and groupthink, with no reference or understanding of what God actually is (requires significant degree of intelligence and cognitive development). God held as mainstream dogma and belief is what has created modern atheism and anti-theistic skepticism that we see in Western culture today

That’s what growth is all about. Challenging yourself by stepping outside your comfort zone. Also be wary of who you share your plans with back at home. They may sow seeds of doubt when it comes to you growing beyond the version of you that they are familiar with. Find a friend or two who will support and provide encouragement during the transition. Best of luck

Gosh just reading this makes my skin crawl-yuck