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He not only doesn't shut it down but reinforces it. Think about the blog video where he was talking about his book. This was too much. It was so ridiculous and disappointing or eye opening, that he is just a big mouth with talking but nothing behind. And then all these excuses why he isn't that successful like he is supposed to be. Narcissist say this all the time. The truth is he just doesn't deliver the results because he is not that what he says he is. I think he misuses his responsibility and then covers it with talking about responsibility. Now this isn't delusional? Then afterwards he acts more humble again. Like some toxic person who says is changing but actually isn't.

I think Leo wants to help people, but at the same time he overestimates himself and this gets mixed up with marketing strategies. This leads people to think that Leo Gura is someone "special" who has reached levels of consciousness that no one has reached before. Which is quite unlikely and doesn't look like it. "The real deal" as people say about Teal Swan. There's also a little spark of narcissism. All of which disappointed me, because I was always looking for a role model and thought I had found one. Only to find out he's just a normal YouTuber interested in spirituality lol

I thought the name was some permutation of his real one Phil, because they have the same number of characters. If you took the character distances maybe it's a birthday lol

Reminds me somehow on this couple of friends If you know your partner is an android, maybe you could hack it and then it does whatever you want x D

Not really. @NahmGreat video, thanks! Everything till some details seems excellent to me. There are much nuances so its worthwhile to watch it multiple times. The only thing that strikes me is that the intro video reminds me of the ones from national geographic or something. And the black background reminds me a bit of actualized.org, even if I currently don't know a better way to maximise the viewer's focus. Maybe also shift the camera perspective a few times to get attention back like this It's a German video by a negotiation expert. This guy was also a mentalist and studied psychology among other things, as far as I can remember. So I think he is directing the video and knows what he is doing. Your illustration was also cool and maybe some people could loose attention because of the amount of detail. From a graphic point of view it looks good and for me a bit like it needs to be more rounded. The intro didn't harmonize with the illustration and your clothing style from my perspective. The cover picture looks like the one from the first video, but with the colours reversed. I think people always need new stimuli, even if they are spiritual. That's why I would change the picture themes. But this is all related to superficial things and only my perception. For me, I have never seen such a great content!

Before years I thought the same. But it is just a world-view you construct by yourself. It is not different from other world-views. This is the meaning you give to the world. You create this meaning and no, your mind has not the capacity to framework infinity. If there would be such a mind, it would be more sophisticated and complex than this sentences. And then it would also miss the truth. Do you really think all this nihilist philosophers were enlightend? Not much probable. You just want to have the ultimate or superior world-view or believe. It remains a believe. By giving meaning to meaninglessness it isn't getting better. There is neither meaninglessness nor meaning and so on. One perspective like yours or mine can never be objective. But one thing I find senseless as well: philosophing about the world instead of looking inside. I am allergic to bullshit.

I mean nihilism as a philosophy sounds negative to me because it is like there nothing for you this life can provide you with. If you really Was a nihilist there would be no reason to live. For me it sounds like you lack of life-purpose, maybe I am biased because for me it is the case. If you empty your cup it's different from nihilism, because then you would tend to create and for this you need a reason which is somehow a meaning. Nihilism means creation is senseless, but if so there would not be an creation. Its something in between hard to describe.

If everything would be meaningless to somebody, the person would commit as suicide at this particular moment and be dead. Meaning a nihilist never existed. It is just an idea people give meaning towards.

Nope its the ability of problem solving, how fast they can do it and how much things they can keep in memory at the same time long- and short-term. Abilities of abstract/lateral thinking, creativity etc. . And I just say people who are programmers are in general not much more intelligent, then people who are not. They are average intelligent most of the time. Sometimes they may have an IQ up to 130 or something. However, this is also not super-intelligent. But many programmers act like they are. And for me this is embarrassing and unauthentic. Besides the fact that analytic intelligence says nothing about a person besides they have a certain analytic intelligence. Being a genius has not much to do with a high IQ. A good programmer is not just somebody debugging all the time. You also have to have good analytic skills. If you just debug, you basically are a trial-and-error person which is not very effective, because much work can be avoided through an analytic/strategic process. I have seen so many people hanging around in front of their computers, taking ages to complete the simplest tasks while sipping their coffee. They tend to debug too much. Time is money. Maybe some people need much time to learn programming in terms of just able to write code, which is readable and works after a time. This also can be related to motivation, energy, learning material etc. . I think, coding is not complicated and everybody can learn this quite fast. Could also be that I'm biased because I'm just disappointed in how shallow and stupid it is and it feels like someone sold me shit. Like I'm really hanging out with people who are kind of interesting or who you have conversations with, who push you or who you can really learn something from. They are just simple people like everybody else.. And this is not a challenging environment. Everybody who may thinks this and wants to have a challenging work, I would suggest to become a researcher or something. For me, the payment of a researcher would not be satisfying. Because I think if you are good and you using your coding skills as an entrepreneur or independent programmer you can gain much more and challenge yourself at the same time. If you are too good, people become jealous and it doesn't matter if you are not bragging and if you are humble, they will see you as a threat, because they are money-grubbing. And then it becomes war, because nobody can set me down lol x D Last time, 2 of people in my time needed psychological help, because they tried some intriguing games but were too dumb to execute them correctly. So I used it against them. Now I am also some money grubbing person, because obviously without much you are forced to certain environments. You can be lucky, but the risk is not worth it. But I don't do it the petty ways and means like employees do it in a cooperate-world. And entrepreneurship is something I gravitated towards anyways.

I could never imagine to be in a polyamorous relationship, because it would feel like the partner is not fully committed and someone is the second choice. Like the partner uses other people to have more abundance on romantic relationships and at the end someone always must be left behind in a way and this person doesn't care about it. Because it is not possible to treat everybody completely equal. And for me it looks like there is an unequal distribution of gain like x:1 for the person who has x partners considering all other partners only have this one. In addition, it is like the polyamorous person gets most attention and all other are sheeps so to speak and just means to an end. What are your thoughts? Were you in such a relationship before?

I think it is more than just philosophical. The answer has to do with like believes inside oneself and maybe it will reveal something. I will answer your questions Can you keep on loving a person even if they change? I couldn't keep being in a relationship, because I have preferences on what I want to create. But maybe I could love Can you keep on loving a person even if an unpalatable truth comes out? Experience says it is really hard regarding to be cheated. other things I would be able to let go, if this wouldn't reveal something the person cannot be trusted anymore or this would change the initial intention of the relationship too strong. I couldn't stay in a relationship, if trust would be no more available. How do you know if a person really loves you? What somehow resonates with me, is that love always comes from myself and you cannot every know what a person feels or thinks. Is it just behaviour or does there have to be intent? For me there is only imagination which morphes reality. How do you know someone's intent? You can approximate an answer, but an intent would imply there is some other being, which cannot ever be known. Now what I think is really interesting for me is your answer and the ones from others about If you are really honest to yourself, how do you see this stuff? Does love come from some other person? Can a person ever provide you with love? I don't know it is somehow like a mindfuck. It feels like love comes from myself but when I am around with people there is maybe some misunderstanding that it comes from others. It seems to me this is also related to polyamourism.

You don't understand. What you understand under a value system is a distinction between polarities like good and bad. Which is nothing more than a set of beliefes. I meant just a feeling about what I want and what not. Not everybody wants the same things. If this would be the case, there would be no dual creation. As I told you, I don't care about who you fuck. I don't judge it, why should I? I have better things to do. You are stuck in this self-improvement cycle, because you think that you are not complete. But don't project it onto me. I feel for you.

A value system is a set of beliefs and you feel discord with some beliefs. And if so it is not really an interpretation, because an interpretation is based on a thought-process and not on a feeling in general. You mentioned interpretations. However, I have contemplated all this through and what you want to tell me here does not apply to the example I mentioned. And I just don't buy the whole picture you want to draw here, maybe someone else does. No offense, wish you the best :-)

I told you about feelings or emotions. Feelings or emotions can never be constructs. And it is more like a guidance, less then interpretation-based decision making. Emotions are no constructs. The thought about emotion is a construct. Doesn't sound like a polygamous person. Makes absolutely sense. I always was wondering whats the point about casual or meaningless sex and why people put so much value in just fucking which seemed to me like they running away from something. Thanks :-)

I'm only writing this because I tried to be polygamous in terms of "you're not a real man if you don't have sex with frequent partners all the time". However, it felt superficial and like a waste of time. Because jerking off requires less effort and time with regard to conversations, manipulation etc. in terms of going out, meet people start bullshit conversations where you can just extract a little etc. . And I find my time valuable. If I want to have a value regarding conversations, participating on business meetings, seminars etc. is the only thing that makes sense. Even if I am extrovert. I have met that much people that there is not that much value for me available which would make me go out every weekend. And if so, I don't fuck with everybody. If I would fuck, then there must be more than just good looks. And then it would become romantic. Maybe I am too old for this x D Even still in early 30s.

Value system for me sounds like constructs. When I feel an emotional disagreement with something, I just know that I believe something about myself that is not true. For example, that I have to be a certain way. I don't have to be polygamous just because otherwise other people come to me and say I'm dogmatic and not open-minded. I just know myself. Not everyone is polygamous and those who are usually don't feel bad about it from the beginning related to not being loved by the other person. I don't care with whom you fuck or if you fuck with dogs, donkeys, trees etc. .

@Elevated There is a difference between pain and suffering. Emotional labour is not really suffering. Why would someone have the desire to come to another person when it comes to sexual intimacy? If it doesn't feel like jerking-off, imo there are romantic feelings involved, even if they are little. In general for me this is waste of time, because it shows there are other intentions involved than just sex.

@Elevated Now the question of self-worth and self-love arises. If you put yourself in a situation where you are hurt several times. This feels like you want to change a part of yourself, you don't really accept to get love from someone else. This means, for example, bending yourself to be polygamous. And casual sex does not feel different to me than jerking off. There is nothing special and thus for me at least there is no value to get this.

@Elevated Thanks for taking the time for such a detailed advice! And I really meant polyamorous relationships not open ones. Open relationships are also interesting, because then certain additional questions do arise If you feel bad at the beginning, isn't that a sign that you don't really want it? And then maybe it's because there is scarcity thinking that leads you to this decision you don't really feel comfortable with? If the partner needs to sleep with someone else, couldn't it be the case, that there is something wrong with the relationship? I mean emotionally or sexually. @intotheblackMakes much sense. My only concerns are the following What kind of person is it if the person needs several partners? What if they are looking for maximum stimulation and are not really interested in my person? Some people feel empty inside and they try to fill it up with romantic feelings etc. Moreover if it is a X->Y relationship with X € {1} and Y € {2...y} where Y not in X, meaning the other participants do not share something between themselves only with the "alpha" partner. then there would be an inbalance in love and attention, which the "alpha" partner just ignores. Because, it is not possible to treat everybody equally. Can this be love? It seems egotistic. Hence, there is a trust problem, because I think my time is valuable and I don't want to be on someone who plays some ugly games.

@tatsumaruFirst of all, I find your style of writing amazing. Seems like you gained much substance doing your stuff. My approach to this issue is to become a total materialist in order to let the desire for absoluteness disappear and later to go deeper with it again. Because, I know I am someone who wants to create gigantic things.

To see what a really good software company is, you have to go to Facebook, Amazon, Google or maybe Microsoft. Anything below that is ridiculous. I've been there and seen how many mistakes most companies make. They make such stupid mistakes in their company structure, organisation, etc. that you grab your head. And the managers are often not very bright either. It is so easy to outperform this if you stepped into the business I guess, but the hardest part is to not be that dumb like everything below the big players. Because I think "below" they often use certain tricks or tools etc. and you have to control yourself to not do the same, because they are counter-productive in the long run. Every idiot nowadays has a software firm and does 6-8 figures. They are not Mark Zuckerberg lol You don't even have to have a strong personality or to be charismatic for that. I met a lot of this people. It is easy to do this, if you are conformistic. That is the sad thing, nothing is like I expected as I was young. I thought these are cool, intelligent people like in hacker-movies x D If someone is not intelligent, i usually don't care as long as they act like they are and want to show off. They do pretend to understand things all the time and don't want to admit they don't, thus hindering the process. Only because they are selfish and horny to climbing up the corporal letter to get at the end maybe 100k, which is not much compared to creating even a small business which takes less time without blowing cocks. I had to do the work of a 10-headed software team nearly by my own successfully, so I know what I am talking about. It is just frustrating, because it is so fake and you are likely become unconciouss in this environment. Also you have to go eat with this people and they are not even funny, charismatic or good in conversation. Guess this applies to most jobs, as well. In jobs the problem generally is that you are forced to talk with people and spend time with you usually won't. Because they don't give you much value and honestly I have met that much and diverse people that nobody really surprises me and information is easier to get from the internet. Interesting people you have to find on expensive conferences e.g.

I learned programming with 11 years old. It took me a few months. Programming is overestimated and most programmers in companies are average or below. Even in companies like BMW they more like average. Maybe Google not, but about that I cannot say anything. In the first 3 months working as a full-time employee I became better than the 10 year experience guys, just because I took it seriously and also used my freetime to go deeper into stuff like clean-code conventions, UML, software-architectures etc. . I even studied software architectures of big companies like Google and research faculties to the detail and compared them. Programming is just a craft like building houses. It was sad to see how dumb this is and how deceptive, because everybody thinks a programmer must be intelligent. Best thing to become good in programming is self-teach, because in companies you are just a small cogwheel getting tasks which does not really speed up your learning curve, because they are too specific. You are more flexible on your own. And specification is often times not really possible because you switch domains. You may can be somehow specific in a specific programming language, but it often ends at certain frameworks. And today you have to be very very specific in programming to be valuable. And because there are many people with big mouths but nothing behind it becomes harder to be recognized. Because, most people just buy online-courses for hiring and then try to use tricks. This makes recruitment personell more alert. But this I guess applies to most jobs, too. Moreover, the technology changes that fast that it is even worse to work for a company, because these companies try to use you for the same stuff as long as it goes. So they don't have to teach you new things and you are effective at this framework e.g., so why change? And many companies don't change their technologies because it is too time and cost consuming. That's why you switch every 2 years or so. But now you are no more on the cutting edge. Say what you want, but this is the truth. Maybe you can nitpick something here and there but this doesn't change anything. I lost my life purpose in a company so I wouldn't recommend.

As I suffer from the exact same thing, I have a question regarding https://www.actualized.org/articles/how-to-exploit-people-to-grow-yourself It seems if one uses that technique, one now thinks more as before and in addition thoughts related to a self-image. Moreover, it has this "more woke than you" mentality, but you said that you think everyone is parallel. Also all this stuff of being "more developed" is critical, because development one cannot really measure and thus is drawn towards self-bias. And the ego always likes to be better than another one. That is why the most egotistic people are often times "spiritual" people, because it is the easiest way to make up things to feel better than someone else. All the other stuff I find great.

I feel with you, was in the same situation. What I did is made my employer to set me on a bench, sick leave and so on so I can start and still get the money. Then I got unemployed and took the unemployment money to get more time to create a business which gives me enough money to work on my life purpose. Its still not over and I play with my life but I still think it was the best decision. Working as a software developer is a not a good job considering the people working there. At a barista or so people are more cool but doesn't feel good also. So I think the best thing is to go all in. Leo said in one video go the safe way and travel from job to job. But then you would go half way in. So I think it is not a smart advice. It is not an absolute perspective to think somebody on youtube or elsewhere has all the answers. I know, many naive kids do. Just in case someone comes with prejudices now. Everybody has to know for oneself..

It was 3 hours a day for a week or so. Had to do with creating a business plan for a grant. I also had a time with only 2-5 hours per day for about 8 months related to health issues back then. And it doesn't felt comfortable but didn't get a stroke or something even I still worked my ass off.. So I don't think it is that dangerous if you are younger, but the effectiveness wasn't that good for me. Currently, it is like I would kill somebody for success if it would be necessary and no risk would be involved.