WonderSeeker

The classic architecture mixed with the streams and plants ...good vibes

Good luck on your travels, let us know where we can find your videos 🙏 p.s. If you stay an extra week we might cross paths!

Wow, neat! How did you stumble upon this? Would like to try it someday when I'm near one of the cities that has it

Why?@thirdtimelucky

Man visits China. "Cool dog" = highlight reel 😂 But for real what about your visit left the biggest impression on you? And what were you doing there so long?

Good recommendation brother. Going to buy it, plus the Mandarin version. In 5 years I hope to read good portions of it in Chinese as well We've talked in the past, never worked together tho. I plan to take lifestyle to a high level in China so it might be worthwhile at some point Japan pays ass. And in my eyes, going from Korea → China is like an order of magnitude shift in advancement, opportunity, and meaning. Whereas Korea → Japan is literal stagnation. All that changed was the langauge, the culture, and the scenery. In China I will make 2x the salary I'd make in Japan, allowing me to pay student debt faster and max-out my adventure/spiritual lifestyle depending on what psychological season I find myself in. With China's salary I can easily visit Japan and experience it whenever I want. On Japan's salary I'd have to work a whole year, only to spend all of my savings on a short trip to China. It all boils down to magnitude. Japan doesn't offer the same things.

Sounds like a plan man Btw - I followed you on IG. If you ever find yourself out this way hit me up and maybe we will meet. There are all these little tricks you wanna know if you come out here that will go a long way! You must be curious about exploring other cultures ... what kind of value are you getting from watching vids? Thainking about travel or just for the educational vibes? I've been eating up this guy's stuff lately. He is a fluent Chinese speaker with phenomenal social skills who walks thru markets and chops it up with everyone. Videos full of his manadrin and pinyin tranlations --- great for learning and practicing the langage at any level (even as a full blown newbie like me). He makes you feel like he's taking you on a 1st person tour of the country.

I used to know some Canadian nomads that were big on Colombia. Brazillians too! Both have loads and loads of sensual, curious, and phenomenally attractive ladies How do you plan to take your business overseas? You're a photographer right?

Yeah, finding high stages is rare in Korea (especially in Daegu where I am). The women I've dated or people in general I've made friends with have been some mix of blue/orange; in my experience if they have ventured outside of their own countries and made an effort to integrate western cultural values, they are far, far easier to meet and hang out with. Seems like they value stability over transcendence here. Korea is very conformist TBH. You should visit for a week just to do it, to see the history, then go. Japan probably has more depth, but I cannot speak to that from experience yet. But they make excellent places for those looking to accrue experience in their own evolution. The only other Asain country I've spent time in was Mongolia. Both Mongolia and Korea have had thier cultures obliterated or heavily influenced by the Chinese and Japanese empires; I am so curious to see what it will be like to live in the big leagues of Asia. Where in SEA did you live and what were you dong there?

Yes, I will be teaching. Honestly, getting a Z visa wasn't that hard. Few hundred to get documents authenticated and shipped. They do have a 2-year teaching experience requirement though (but I was able to get in with only 10 months in South Korea, so they're not 100% strict on it like they say they are). I wonder what you mean by "crazy"

@Joseph Maynor Looks like we share a similar experience

Best to ignore them. View-sanity is vanity. They hate themselves deep down. Most aren't patient enough to accumulate real life experience and speak from that. They'd rather suck up someone else's hard-earned, lifelong work and regurgitate it. Or just get plastic surgery, oversaturate the shit out of their thumbnails, and use optimized AI scripts overlaying videos of 1 million dynamite sticks blowing up a whale to gain popularity. Lol, I dunno how people actually watch such slop.

Yes, but speaking, as an activity itself, is an experience. You feel into your body and mind, learning how to control different muscles, make different gestures, and use different techniques to bring across a subject of interest. Of course, the content of what's being spoken about better be authentic. If it's based out of speculation and theory regurgitation, it loses signal. I'm a school teacher by trade, so I'm biased

It sounds like you should get out and do more public speaking if it suits you. Experience the answer to the career vs cringe question. I'm curious about what you'll learn from taking action.

Nobody can tell you the truth. Not even Leo. You have to create the truth and then tell it to yourself.

What matters is you got there. Whether on purpose or by accident But this time, if you want deeper awakening, you have to choose it consciously. Wecome to spirituality, Round 2. I'm in a similar boat.

First of all I think it's right to have doubts. It sounds like you have something good going with this woman. Do you really think you'll find something better if you leave? The language barrier thing is understandable and relatable, I've experienced the same in Asia. I assume you want a relationship where you can co-evolve with her. The only way that happens is if one of you learns the other langauge strongly. At the end of the day taking spirituality to a high level requires some language competency because unless you're in the genetically gifted 0.000001% that can do spirituality without being taught it, you gotta learn it, which requires language. So either you accept that she's not gonna join you on the inner journey and stay in the relationship, or bounce. If you accept it, then try to explain to her, to the best of your ability, that you will have to leave for periods of time to think about life and see if she's ok with that. That's really all you can do.

What about the book makes it so unordinary? Spoil it for us

If you still fall for this, Jesus Christ. It's body count. It's the most potent shit test the collective sexual marketplace puts up. For the PUA community and for most normies even, the standard is 100+ body count. I heard that standard talked about by Owen Cook's coaches at a bootcamp I attended in Miami in 2023 I saw it talked about in this sub-forum the other day I hear laypeople talk about it So, the standard is 100. But it's not about the number. The benchmark could be 20. The point is the emotional load this concept carries, the pain, the distraction, the stupidity it causes. Naturally, this leads to, What is all of this about? At a meta-level, body count is a collective shit test by society. To see, "Can you, this emotioanlly-driven, little human think for yourself?" Can you can see through 'body count' to something better? I had the intuition that body count was an INCREDIBLY low-grade way of viewing your sex life as early as the age of 18 when I first heard about it. "How the fuck do people pedestalize such a thing?" I thought. Now some of us feel like we gotta karmically burn through it. I know some forum members bulldozed their genitalia through human flesh and came out the other side wise as fuck. So, I'm not a high-horse preacher, saying you're a sinner for it or anything like that. This is more for guys who are still under the spell of the paradigm, but in a different way. I'm talking to those people on the side of the coin without those crazy results, but who still, on an emotional level, believe it actually matters. I added "emotional level," because in your mind, you might have rejected this notion long ago. But in your body? When you hear someone talk about it, or watch the below video, you may feel a disturbing charge in your body. That means you're still under the spell of body count. A stong reaction in either direction (positive affirmation or negative resistence) means you are still falling for the paradigm and therefore stuck at a lower level of Dating, Relationships, Sexuality. On a purely logical level, the amount of bodies you've tapped somehow being relevant to your life or anyone elses is hilarious and extremely self-centered. We all know that. But to oust that feeling of not being good enough (non-results side of the coin) or the racing feeling of "I gotta have another" (results side of the coin) is the tricky part of transcending it. Truth is, feeling like you gotta bag 100+ bodies = deep insecurity (whether you succeed or not) And all of that is encoded in: feeling body tissue vivid imagery You cannot logic your way out of this. About a year ago I started combining introspection with somatic therapy, removing the charge I once had around this issue. Although I never consciously believed in body count conceptually, I still lived in reaction to it for almost 10 years. I was saddled with jealousy and fear even though it was not true to who I was and what I believed in as a person. Every time I had a new sexual partner I'd mentally add a tally to an internal chalk board, as it if it meant fuck-all about what my life represents, let alone what it means to other people. Whether you have 7 tally marks, 70, or 700, it really just doesn't mean shit. What actually matters is how deeply you can feel into your body, into your soul at all times, including during real sexual play. And then you take it a layer deeper, feeling into the body, the soul of your partner across from you. You do this because you value quality over quantity, a.k.a. you value alchemy over hi-scores. ------ Anyways that's my rant. I invite counter-agruments, nuance that I missed, examplary media, or anything else to enrich this thread. Peace

Victor got Orbán-ned. @Monster Energy Besides Hungary, what are the other countries voting this year? I'm an American living in Asia, I don't know squat about Europe. Do the polls say immigration is the #1 issue? How about foreign policy and the economy?

I concur, it's a solid thread (not that I'm biased or anything). Maybe some ego and talking past each other — I'll admit some fault on that — but now that we're aware of it we can make the conversation more productive. I'm relatively happy with my situation, especially where I see it going in the coming years. Am I done though? Hell no! I still have some work to do as far as dating quality partners over taking whatever has a pulse. As an experiment I tried that and the rewards were minimal. Amazing sex with a psychopath or getting your D sucked in a parking lot 30 mins after meeting the person weren't as thrilling or rewarding as the RSD/pickup people made it seem it would be. Right now I'm in Korea, getting ready to move to China and create an adventurous social circle and find a solid girlfriend. In Mongolia a few years ago, I had some epic dating experiences that changed my life and I intend to create the more of those in China. Strangely, and my Australian bro (who has had 100+ ) can attest to this, Korea/Japan are SUPER hard to date in due to the barrier. I'm mid-journey but the way I see it, it's okay, even healthy to see where you're going (the spiritual path) and start living it if it suits you.

You have a tendency to assume people lack experience if they disagree with you. Here are a few examples from this very thread. Just curious what that's about. I don't mean this to be too personal, but do you feel like lack shows up in your life somehow? I do shadow work on this stuff all the time btw. These are routine questions, irrespective of outer results (having or lacking them).

You assume if someone hasn't slept with a "high" number of people, then they are insecure about it. Out of genuine curiosity, early on did having a low body count cause you negative emotions? And/or, when you got it to a "high" number did it change how you felt about yourself? At what number did it become "okay, I made it"? Personally in my life I used to have this anxiety about my lack of experience, but when I let go of that my results went up, and more importantly I learned the quantity was never important to me to begin with. Quality matters far more. I think when we're young society pimps us out in funny ways.

Dude, I appreciate your inputs here, but you make so many assumptions and twisted conclusions it's hard to take you seriously sometimes. If you wanna psychoanalyze, fine go ahead. Just ask real questions first. ----- Still, I think what @integral said before, about people having different authentic desires is spot on. Yours is to sleep with women and form social circles for its own sake. Cool. Because you've done all of that, it's hard for you to imagine any other way and so you project that onto others here and in real life. Mine is different due to what biologically runs me which I'm becoming increasingly aware of. The worst mistake I ever made growing up was trying to shove myself into paradigms, including a dating paradigm, set by the loudest ones with the most results. The more I did that, the lower quality my results were. The more I stuck to what's true to me, the more and better quality my results. I am an HSP and tend toward demi-sexuality. Those aren't identities I wear on my sleeve, they just explain a lot of things I've had to wrestle as I grew up. Now I can be me. I could go on, but I invite your inquiry and perspective. Because actually wondering who others are is better than projecting. Clearly we're 2 very different people — and our disagreements aren't just mental — which is something I enjoy a lot because it's a chance to learn.