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Toxic toxic toxic, avoid avoid avoid!

I use an electric toothbrush and floss. Don’t have any fillings. I also do oil pulling. Actually sometimes if I over clean the wisdom teeth that’s when they end up getting irritated, I found it’s better not to brush them too vigorously. Also, hormones and stress affect my wisdom teeth. Most of the times I had bother with them was when I was going through a stressful time and had pms, that made them flare up. So I don’t think it’s only down to them not being cleaned properly.

@Village the ones on the top are fine. The bottom ones aren’t fully through and have a bit of gum covering them, but they have been like that for years. Sometimes they hurt because of stuff getting trapped and the gums get inflamed. I had braces as a kid before my wisdom teeth came through, so consequently when they did eventually come through they pushed my other teeth causing them to misalign again. I went to have a consultation about having invisilign done and was told that I will first need the wisdom teeth taken out. I’m 31. the surgeon told me having them removed wouldn’t do anything to my jaw or change my face shape. He also said the nerve in my jaw was below the teeth so there was no risk of this being damaged. I’m still unsure whether to go through with it or not.

Local anaesthesia - numbing only the area of the operation. general anaesthesia - being put to sleep so the whole body is numb I don’t think so, because it’s being done in the dentist not hospital and it’s a straightforward op. I'm sure I’ll be fine, I will try and meditate. actually, when I was about 12 I got a tooth removed, and they gave me laughing gas. I had some crazy hallucinations that the dentist was singing to me. ?

So you were asleep? I won’t be asleep with mine will only have the mouth numbed. I think this is why I’m also a bit freaked, because I will be awake whilst it’s being done lol. He said it will only take about 30 minutes, because the teeth are through, so they’re easier to pull out directly. Which is why I only need a ‘local anaesthesia’

yeah if you are a cute baby or a cute kid you'll get lots of attention. too much praise can make you overly cocky or narcissistic though. did this happen with you?

crazy when you think about it. everyone having eyes, nose, mouth, etc. and everyone looking different but depending on the shapes and sizes of features, it either makes you more attractive or less. and how each part of the face has it's own place. why not a nose on the forehead or eyes on the cheeks.

how would stage blue look for someone who wasn't religious?

so if I say i'm stage orange does that mean I'm actually red? or only if someone puts themselves as higher than green is that the case lol.

it's easy in the sense of being accepted by society. although some of the most insecure people I have known in my life, were also very attractive. they were extremely self conscious about their looks. being both beautiful and secure would be the ultimate gift. or simply being secure enough that you don't care what you look like would be even better.

negative self image = negative view of the world Positive self image = positive view of the world. Once again I think it all comes down to your upbringing and who you are/were surrounded by. You catch the world views of your parents and peers unconsciously. Anxious parent passes the anxiety onto the child. Yes It's completely OK and normal to feel sad emotions and not be on top of the world 24/7. It's ok to be angry or feel alone or hurt. But pessimism and having a negative view of yourself and the world comes from the inner void. People who usually have a positive outlook on life got plenty of love and attention as a kid, so they see the world differently, they don't have a void. they have a positive self image so therefore they see the world through a different set of eyes. I wonder is it even possible to totally rid yourself of the negative self image once you have it. yes I can work on many things and be a better person but the bad self image is still there deep down.

I like it ?

Best to get it over with in my opinion. The good sex comes later when you’re more experienced and confident!

No it’s a minority. women who are attuned to their emotions will choose attraction. I’ve always been highly emotional and could never sleep with someone I wasn’t attracted to. I was never attracted to someone because of a material possession they had. I remember when I was a teenager and girls used to want to date the guys who had cars. I didn’t like any of the guys, so them having a car didn’t impress me. But If I liked the guy, then him having a car would just be an added bonus.

@Peter Miklis yes of course! But many men will try and make a lot of money just to try and get hot women. But really they are wanting the external thing, not the real you. So of course you can imagine the type of women he will be attracting, and also what type of man he is. it’s all based on material things. you think anyone really loved Hugh Hefner for his true authentic self? No they loved the money and the fame.

Women rarely look at a picture of a man and think ‘I wanna get f’d by him’ in the same way that men can look at a photo of a woman and think ‘I wanna F her’ It’s all about vibe. Yes that guy has a nice face and body is ripped, but I don’t get turned on by the photo alone. There would need to be a real life attraction going on.

A certain type of woman would go for fat and unattractive - so long as he had lots of money and power. See above video that I shared.

example of an untamed aggressive man some women would be attracted to it, many would be repulsed for example, girl in the video is only with tony because she needs money and protection... and all of the women who Tony sleeps with in the show, act crazy and have tons of issues. So yeah he has no problem attracting certain types of women, but other women wouldn’t be attracted...and what you see is that all of the women want to be shown love by him, they don’t want to be treat badly, but they are unconsciously drawn to it because of childhood traumas.. ..Actually this would be a great show to watch as it talks a lot about this and mental health. so I guess the question is what kind of man do you wanna be?

My anxiety trigger is unpredictable behaviour. For example if Im anticipating a bad reaction from someone, or people who are loud and confrontational. I'm highly sensitive to other people’s bad moods and toxic behaviour. If I'm watching something on tv and there is unexpected violence etc. I have to look away and it makes me uneasy. Some years back I had a boss who was so controlling and toxic but on the other hand could also be nice. I was stressed so much of the time working there. Finally after an altercation with him, I walked out of the job in the middle of the day, I couldn't handle the overwhelming anxiety and I had to escape the situation. It was fight or flight and I chose flight. In hindsight I probably did act irrationally, but I didn't know how to handle it. I know this goes back to being a kid, because my dad could be nice and loving one minute and then flip the next and say hurtful things, sometimes we would feel his wrath, but usually it would be directed towards my mam, but I would be witness. it was always emotional. My older brother used to be so angry and he would punch holes in the door/wall. this trauma got built into my being. So if something happens, like someone behaving unpredictable, my heart starts to race and all logic goes out the window. My hands will be clammy and I’ll feel like throwing up. My whole body seizes up and I get emotionally drained and tired. it's not that I think they will attack me or something, it's more that I get an overwhelming negative vibe running through me that fucks me up. Even if it doesn't directly involve me, and i'm only i'm witness to it, this can still be the case. Now, I know the best way to stop this happening would be to avoid people with toxic behaviour and situations. But since that’s not always possible, I want to know if it’s possible to ever really control the wave of fear. This is not a regular thing for me but after months of being calm and chill with no stress, something happened yesterday that triggered me. I know what my triggers are and I know what situations to try and avoid. But can I actually get to a point where I’m unaffected by other peoples behaviour and not be so sensitive?

@Lyubov ooookkkk...this isn’t the same thing. now you're just talking about sex. i'm talking about people being attracted to toxic ppl and how that’s related to traumas/upbringing. Not about what kind of sex you enjoy. i'm done

yeah. if you really like someone then find out they are a fake its a hard pill to swallow, you dont wanna believe it. but you live and you learn.

yeah somewhat agree. we are generalizing alot of course. when it comes down to it real attraction is personal for everyone. just because you are a strong guy doesnt mean you will be everyones cup of tea! trauma has more to do with it that you think.... your childhood shaped you to like whatever specific things you like now. anyway, what we are mainly saying is that a woman wouldnt stay with a toxic abusive man if she had higher self esteem and loved herself more. and vice versa for guys. and since so many people are insecure they keep ending up with the wrong people bcoz they don't know any better

@Lyubov @Raptorsin7 yes and a woman might put up with a strong-toxic if she is attracted to him physically and he is protective. even though he could be abusive etc. so yeah same story different attractions and traumas going on