Byun Sean

keep going. Eventually you'll hit a state of consciousness where all your concepts, models, and hierarchies will collapse. At that point the duality/ hierarchy between high and low consciousness beings collapse and you will see your human self as simply a life relating to life. You will have accepted everyone as a perfect divine being wherever they are at in their development. At that point you will be able to connect with anyone effortlessly. At the same time, you will feel like you won't really need to anymore.

fun is a higher state of being

Where do you see yourself and your work headed in the next 10-20 years? What are any big goals or milestones you would like to reach?

@Leilani ay man this forum loves you and deep down you love yourself. One day you will look back at this moment and your life will be amazing and you will have a wild story to tell your loved ones. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and keep working toward your goals. You are not broken. You are beautiful being with a whole life ahead of you. The only thing holding you down is you not loving yourself in this moment. So the choice to love yourself is yours when you are ready. Through the computer screen I'm sending you tons of good ass energy take that! take that! take that! take that! take that.

go very slowly and stop once a paragraph and write in 1-3 sentences without looking at the text what the paragraph is about. This is a method called active recall and will help you remember a lot. Also take your time to look up and understand any complicated or confusing words you run into.

Success is a greater experience of life than we currently have right now *fill in the blank*. Our minds project what that means for us and is completely subjective and unique to every individual. but fundamentally, it is the nature of the human being to desire becoming something more than we already are. Success doesn't lead to happiness because success doesn't end the constant seeking for a greater experience which is what causes us suffering and unhappiness. Happiness on the other hand only happens when we stop seeking anything other than this moment. In fact if you are always accepting fully exactly what is happening right now, you can never be unhappy. This is all spiritual enlightenment means is the end of seeking.

@StarStruck I'm proud of you mate. You went on a date and you messed up and you had the balls to post your mistake on an online forum as well. Just this one interaction I'm sure helped you emotionally and you are better with women now because you have more experience. Keep working on yourself brother and I know you can meet the girl of your dreams one day.

Next time she nags you, say something like: "Hey, I understand how your feeling right now, but when you talk to me that way it makes me feel very hurt." You can also sit down with her and be vulnerable with your feelings in a serious conversation. Don't put the blame on her. All you do is tell her about how you feel when your talked to in that way and offer her an alternative better way to get what she wants that will encourage you and uplift you to use instead.

Probably the most life changing ones for me so far I think have been: 35+ subfields of self-help -------->really kickstarted my path a lot i think. Understanding Survival parts 1 and 2 How Ideology works And the entire Spiral Dynamics series and scientific model. On top of that watching his new videos once a week really motivated me to keep grinding hard toward my goals and meditating like crazy.

@Mosess Try to be aware of their point of view before you speak. It may sound alright in your mind but from their point of view it could be nonsense. Words only have value to the extent of how they are received by the other person.

I have had a similar experience to you. Been in unitive for some time. 19 years old almost 20. Awakened about 8 months ago. Since then I've had many more awakenings. I felt like traditional school didn't resonate with me as well. Not because I was too lazy for it or something but because I felt like I was wasting my time and I wasn't growing from it the same way I was from consciousness work. I actually felt from the start like I didn't quite fit in traditional school but I did a year of college simply because I had no other back up plan and I also wanted to see what it was like first. So I decided to take a semester off and see where my awakening experiences lead me. I'm actually a few months into that semester and have discovered that what I really want to do is do something in the realm of life coaching 1 on 1 or something like that. The awesome thing about unitive stage is you can see all the stages bellow with love and compassion which is a great space for people to feel like they can grow with you in a coaching relationship environment. Thats what I found I enjoy and am passionate about, so I'm currently working on a certification for life coaching in an online class as a start. My advice is be brave, follow your heart but also have a solid plan behind it. If college is your only plan right now and you don't like it, do whatever you need to to figure out what you do like and then go all out with it.

@preventingdiabetes I never said when you self-transcend there won't be anymore lower needs. All of those will need to be met exactly the same as it was before you awakened. The only difference is it won't be your life anymore. But don't worry about what that means. The ego cannot possibly conceive of itself not existing because that would literally be the end of you. Consciously focus on your life purpose. Don't use self-transcendence as an excuse to ignore it. But at the same time, don't forget about self-transcendence. Your deepest fruits from life will be spiritual. During my journey I carved out time during the day for both with a little more emphasis on the spiritual because thats what I felt was right for me.

have sex with all the girls you want mate. as long as it doesn't distract you from doing the work why not? My initial motivation to get on the spiritual path was to get better in a video game I enjoyed.

i used to be here. I didn't necessarily want relationships or sex at the time but my body and mind said otherwise. My advice is if a relationship comes your way naturally and helps you grow, by all means have at it. But if you feel like its just fulfilling a need and is not something you actually care that much about experiencing and what your really after are the fruits of deep spiritual work, then keep meditating, if it distracts you too much, masturbate or something and use as much time as possible for spiritual work, reading books, contemplation or whatever personal development work you do. Like just about anything, relationships can either help you grow and make you even more conscious, or they can also be a distraction from the work.

@StarStruck When two people have sex, the body remembers. Thus whether you are in a committed relationship, do a one night stand, or have an FWB; as far as the body goes that person who you last had sex with is your partner. Your thoughts, feelings, and emotions will reflect that with that person no matter what you both label the relationship on a logical level. By having sex with different people or by participating in open relationships, you will see that your body will have many confusing memories and it will hurt you and make you depressed. But hey, don't just take my word for it test it out yourself and see. Many people believe when a person cheats on someone in a relationship, it is the person who gets cheated on that is the only one that gets hurt. This turns out to be false.

happened to me too. Don't resist the thoughts when they come up. Simply observe. Just keep working on yourself and keep meditating and one day you'll be free from the lustful needy thought for her. Meditation or other spiritual exercises when done properly, increase our amount of Self-Love which is vital for self esteem and eliminating neediness.

@NameYour sense of reality is deeply connected with your sense of self that you must maintain to stay alive. This conversation thus is useless unless you turn inward and become pure of your own ego. This dilemma cannot be solved from the level of consciousness you are currently at. This is not an argument or anything up for discussion. The only question is when will you turn inward.

Playing video games is meaningless. Why do you play video games?

You don't really. The materialist paradigm has got him by the balls and so for him thats the real metaphysics. Anything you say to him will be filtered inside his metaphysics and sense of reality. Talking about a metaphysics that doesn't work with materialism won't compute for him since our metaphysics is deeply interwoven with our sense of self/ identity which he needs to survive at all costs. Only way would be for him to work on himself a lot and then maybe get glimpses here and there through meditation and psychedelics if he was open minded enough.

you'll need both. But both compliment one another as well. Kicking ass in your life purpose will give you more financial freedom and time to pursue enlightenment as well as some deep passion in your life as well. Enlightenment work will make you stronger at your life purpose and more selfless in the way that you live it. When you awaken. You will technically have no more life purpose since your life wont really be your life anymore. The universe will simply flow through you as you sit back as the empty witness. (This is how it happened for me.) So yeah you are right. When you awaken. Life purpose in a way takes care of itself or at least it did for me. But don't put all your eggs in one basket. You have no idea when you will awaken. It could be in 5 minutes or 50 years. You are a unique being with a unique amount of karma to work through. So just position yourself for the long haul. If you awaken early. Great that will be a nice surprise. But if you don't awaken early, be ready to survive in this world some way doing what you love or not.

You might consider asking yourself. What would someone who loved themselves do?

maybe just chill. If you've shown interest there is a point where you need to let her come to you again. It may or may not work out but don't force anything.

A truly awakened person will be very humble and hesitant to even proclaim he/ she is awake. They won't be proclaiming it to everyone right away. The reason for that is the "I" that could have become "enlightened" or "awake" is seen through as an illusion as the metaphysical entity that exists as them replaced by the awareness of themselves as the absolute. The people you describe might still have plenty of ego left if they get competitive or defensive about spiritual matters. An awakened person will usually be a lot more chill about everything because they don't have that rock solid egoic consciousness intact to defend anymore. Don't worry that much about others though. Focus on your own growth and make sure you don't fall into the same trap thinking you've reached the end when you really have not.

if talking things out doesn't work I would move out asap

@Arcanus Watch very carefully the expectations you set on other people and relationships. Expectations are fueled by our own personal needs, not by love. The both of you might separate in the end but that is ok. Why? Well look how much you've grown. How different of a person are you to when you both first met. Relationships are about growing with another person. Not to necessarily always make you happy. Even if you both don't end up with each other the growth and memories from that relationship will stay with you for the rest of your life. Learn to let go of everything you fear to lose. Only then can you have truly authentic, fulfilling relationships with unconditional love. Why do you really want him to feel special so bad? Yes you probably love him very much but you also have a hidden fear of losing him that your mind is hiding from you operating under the surface. You don't need to do something extra or out of the ordinary. Maybe the best thing you can do for him is being 100 percent honest and yourself about your own thoughts feelings for him even if it means you may lose him. Real love loves without conditions. Even if it means we lose something, someone, or get hurt.